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What he did is inexcusable, but not unforgivable. I do understand his "resentment," for lack of a better word, with your sickness. My wife developed a chronic illness many years ago, and I would have cheated had opportunity presented itself. I am thankful I did not, and finally made peace with myself when I decided that my wedding vows MEANT something. Best decision I ever made. Your husband may come around, or he may not. I would think twice before I would discard this marriage though, as divorce is not pain-free either. If you have a church, perhaps you two could seek counseling from your pastor. Best of luck...

Thanks! Hate to disappoint you, but "KS" is my initials. I've never been to Kansas. My daughter has, and Kansas is one of my favorite bands, if that helps...

Starting Day 6 of liquid diet. It's not easy; but I've been fairly active and not cheating, so that 800 calorie limit is making the weight fall off. I've lost almost 10 pounds since Monday! Seeing those results makes it a little easier. I can remember losing a few pound in past and then justifying something I shouldn't eat and undoing most of my hard work. I pray I never again adopt that mindset.

If you think you need a behaviorist, it's probably a good idea. If you cannot break the hold food has over you, you WILL fail. I have friends who have had RNY bypass and are putting the pounds back on because they were unwilling to make the changes necessary. Like others have said, the sleeve is just a TOOL, not a miracle. You CAN do this, but you must believe in yourself. "If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you'll find an excuse."

On Day 5 of liquid diet, doing OK. Staying busy definitely helps. I misread the instructions and they say water or SKIM milk, so I inadvertently cheated a little days 1 and 2 and breakfast on day 3, but am using skim now. Oops... Day 3 was the worst so far, but I've already lost 7 pounds! Coupled with my dieting since February, I have not been this light for probably 17 years! Pre-admission was 7/12, everything went just fine. Just counting the hours now...

Day 2 of two weeks liquid diet here also, surgery date July 24th. I'm just keeping my eye on the prize. It's ONLY two weeks, I WILL survive.

I'm still pre-op, but I think you should call your surgeon's office. That's what they are there for. Tell them the truth; keeping secrets from your doctor is never wise.

Thanks guys. I'm using the stuff you can mix with water or skim or 1% milk, but I forgot to buy 1% yesterday, so my first one this morning was with water and ice. Wasn't bad, but I went and bought a gallon after breakfast. I have a lot of things t do these next two weeks so I don't want to short myself. The way he has the diet prescribed is 880 calories a day using milk, so I'll be losing weight anyway. I did find out that a 'rounded' scoop for me is WAY over 35 grams, so I'll be using a digital scale. I do not wish to inadvertently cheat. SO glad they didn't say "no coffee." (I drink it black.) Thinking coffee subbed for water with the chocolate would be good...

Surgery July 24th, liquid diet starts TODAY. I am SO ready for the sleeve!

I posted a similar question last week. What I had not considered was what sabotaged me every other time I lost weight, and that is STRESS. I've always yo-yo'd like all of us here, but had two particularly good weight loss episodes in the past that were totally undone when my wife and then my dad got sick. With the sleeve, I will have the tool I need to prevent binge eating. ANY weight loss surgery can be defeated by grazing and liquid calories, so the education part of this is still very important. I start my liquid diet this morning and am very comfortable with and excited about my decision to sleeve. That being said, you have to make the decision that is best for you, and I wish you the best of luck whatever you decide.

My doctor, without hesitation, gave me a card from Dr. Kim's office and told me to set up an appointment! THAT was very encouraging.

I've also been enjoying a "few last meals" but I've been paying for them elsewhere and watching quantities. I *WILL* succeed this time. I am SICK of the weight-loss roller coaster.

By all means, get all the information you can, and make the decision that's best for you. I'm scheduled for July 24th and have lost about 35 pounds since February. This is my third *major* weight-loss episode, and I had begun to wonder a few weeks ago whether I COULD in fact do it by myself this time. What I was reminded of by responses to my similar-to-yours question in this forum was the stress that life tosses our way. The last two times I lost a lot of weight, it was coping with external stress that undid all my hard work. I believe that the sleeve will be the tool *I* need to succeed.

SV2, you're right about that! Time to move forward... If you ever fly throught Fort Worth Center, I'll keep an eye on you!

Thanks, Webchickadee and Livinglifeout, that's exactly the sort of thing I needed to hear. Last time I lost the weight, I had *some* good nutritional information, but not what i have now. Nonetheless, life also got in the way, I kept telling myself, "I can afford to eat this, I'm still below 275/280/285/290..." This brings me back to the original decision to get the sleeve, to, as you say, "hav(e) "built-in" portion control." Something to combat the inevitable stress in my life. I have not been anywhere CLOSE to an ideal weight for 30 years, and I WILL succeed this time! Case closed. No longer questioning my decision.

Thanks for the comments. I'm an Air Traffic Controller, so I make hundreds of decisions every day, yet I anguish over long-term ones like this. I kinda doubt I will back out, but I felt the doubt was worth exploring to see if it well-founded or simply fear talking.

I'm scheduled for surgery on July 24th but I'm having second thoughts about going through with it. I am 50 years old, have struggled with my weight all my life, which sounds like I definitely SHOULD get it done. BUT, I have learned a lot about nutrition these last few years, and especially the last six months. My all-time peak weight was 330 and I currently weigh 260. I watched my weight slowly drift up to 320 until 2002, lost 50 lbs in two years, watched it drift up to 330 again until 2009, and then lost 60 lbs.the following year After that it drifted back up to about 295 by February of this year, when I started on this journey. Every other time I've lost weight, I was not doing what I'm doing now, which is high Proteins and low carbs. Yes, I'm hungry a lot of the time, but not unbearably so like the last two times. I am wondering if I have finally slayed the obesity monster this time, or will I relapse like before? I realize this surgery is not a magic bullet, and is not complication-free, thus my concerns. Will I be inviting avoidable hardship? Thanks in advance for your thoughts and opinions.