newskinnygal

I love my mom and I know she loves me very much. I told her again today how her words make me feel. She replied with saying how I always told her I was overweight. But she understood that she stepped outside of her boundaries. She didn't apologize but she did tell me that she loves me very much and she lives for me and my two brothers. She said that everything she's ever done in her life was for us. She said that she lives and breathes for me and loves me greatly. I don't think she will bring up my weight in a negative manner again. I could never cut my mother out of my life. I agree with the user who said something about her saying things like this for me to try and and lose weight, but it's just the opposite. It makes me sad and frustrated and makes me wanted to bake cupcakes! I told her how she always complained about my weight and I could tell she felt remorse. I know that deep down she wants me to be a healthy and beautiful individual. Sometimes, our emotions get the best of us. She's said many beautiful and loving words to me and has been very supportive, however like I said in an earlier post, these are the words I'll never forget she said. I'll forgive her though.

Thank you to all. It was really hard to write this. I've told her how i felt before, but I don't think she means to hurt my feelings. They just come out of her mouth without her thinking how it would effect others. I'm 21 years old, I live at home and go to college. My insurance is through my dad. I cannot wait for the day to come where I graduate college and can support my self. I don't need to be belittled like this, especially when I'm still healing from surgery and about to start classes Monday. It's just these are the words that I will never forget she said... She recently had lapband surgery in January. However, her excuse is, " when I was your age I weighed 125 lbs " blah blah blah You all have turned my tears to smiles and for that I truly thank you!

Ever since I was young, my mother resented the fact that I was obese. God forbid she had anything to do with it, from oversized portions to not implementing exercise or signing me up for sports. I always wanted to play soccer as a child, her excuse, "Honey, your too chubby to run after the ball". Gymnastics; "Can you imagine your chubby thighs in tights?" To family vacations to the beach where she compares me to a beached whale. I love my mom and I know she loves me. But I was never the thin girl she got to dress up pretty. What's even worse is hearing my grandma say " so and so said you have such beautiful granddaughter, IF only she would lose weight". My mom replies, "Yes, I know mom she has a beautiful face, she just needs to lose weight. She decided to have THE surgery." After I told her and my whole family that I do not want anyone else outside of our immediate family knowing of my decision. Well due to my gallbladder surgery this summer and my incisions getting infected, I didn't have the lapband surgery and it is now postponed until December. My mother has been on a rampade ever since. For example, we were reminiscing about high school and friends and she replied, "What friends?! You had no friends! Who was going to look at you like that?" Wow. I had many friends. And was actually quite popular. I was voted "Best Dressed" besides the fact that I was obese in her eyes. And today she throws another dig at me. My cousin, whom I'm not talking to because of my mother, had a dinner party and didn't invite me. I told my mother I had never gotten in fight with any friends like my cousin always likes to pick fights. She replied with , "At least she has somebody around to pick a fight with. Who do you have? Your fat and you did it to your self." I'm so incredibly depressed right now. How can someone be so hurtful? My own mother too.

Yay congrats!

I was feeling nauseous throughout the whole pre op diet! I didn't get to eat anything, strictly liquid diet, but boy oh boy did it make me queasy, gassy, and dizzy.

You are not a baby! There is no way I could have gone back to work after one or two weeks. I also have a high pain tolerance. My gallbladder was acutely inflamed and filled with stones and I thought all my attacks were just normal. However , after surgery I actually gained 20 lbs from the swelling! My stomach is still swollen and I cant see my belly button. I got an infection which I think kinda slowed down my healing process. But like everyone else said, I guess people heal at different rates. I'm 4 weeks out and still tender and sore but not really in any more pain and not breaking out in a sweat from walking 10 feet. Loool this surgery definitely surprised me too, I did not think it would take me this long to heal. But take it slow and easy and give your body te rest it needs. You have the rest of your life to work

Good luck! Wish you a speedy recovery!

What does septic mean? Is it a type of infection? O.o mind boggled! Follow doctors order!

Yes I would definitely take off a few extra days! I was miserable the first week!