GivingItMyAll

I’m 7 days post op. My revision from sleeve to bypass was March 23rd. I had really bad GERD even with liquids. I’m on Clear Liquids right now and I’ve had tea which usually causes an issue, but so far so good. I don’t feel that burning in my throat are feel like gagging anymore. So I’m glad I did it. RNY all the way!😉

I start purées tomorrow and this is first up on my list. DROOLING!
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I had a really easy, uncomplicated recovery. I left the hospital the day after my VSG/hernia repair. My surgery was 9 am and I was off all pain meds by 11 am the next morning. I really attribute my successful recovery to my activity level prior to surgery. I was in the gym every day for a minimum of an hour. I will say, though, even though my physical recovery was great, I did hit some emotional bumps along the way that I wasn't so prepared for. I'm now 5.5 weeks out and the emotional bumps seem to have leveled out.
Good luck to you in your journey to a better you.
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I start purées tomorrow and this is first up on my list. DROOLING!
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Thanks for the info.

My surgery is next week so I'm getting my hair relaxed this Friday.
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I could have written your pst word for word. Thank you for putting words to my thoughts. Let's be determined together!

I had a really easy, uncomplicated recovery. I left the hospital the day after my VSG/hernia repair. My surgery was 9 am and I was off all pain meds by 11 am the next morning. I really attribute my successful recovery to my activity level prior to surgery. I was in the gym every day for a minimum of an hour. I will say, though, even though my physical recovery was great, I did hit some emotional bumps along the way that I wasn't so prepared for. I'm now 5.5 weeks out and the emotional bumps seem to have leveled out.
Good luck to you in your journey to a better you.
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I could have written your pst word for word. Thank you for putting words to my thoughts. Let's be determined together!

When I went to my support group meeting I met a man who started at 500+ pounds and had lost 100 pounds in 7 weeks. He was truly an inspiration. You can do this! We can do this!

Good luck! I seriously doubt that you gained 4 pounds from eating those few things. It could be Water retention from the salty Soup.< /p>

Amazing! WTG!
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I have been losing slowly (according to my own standards) and have had thoughts that I could have lost this much on my own. The difference, however, is that without the sleeve I would have reverted to former eating habits with the slow loss. So I'll take slow knowing that I can't go back to binging and unhealthy eating habits. One piece of advice that I took from this forum was to take measurements. I took them before surgery and monthly after. When that dangone scale is refusing to move and I see the inches falling off, it's all worth it.
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The grass isn't Always greener on the other side. It's green where you Water it.
•Highest Weight - 240 •Surgery Weight 8/3 -230 •Current Weight 8/31 -203

Remember the sanctity of marriage. I'm willing to bet that you said something like, "Till death do us part", or "As long as we both shall live" when you made your vows. This might just be my opinion, but I don't think vows are something one should abandon when they become inconvenient.

Not trying to upset the ladies here, but speaking from experience... Pregnant women are hormonal, emotional, and weird! You have to keep that in mind. Her body is going through basically the opposite changes that yours is right now. While you're getting thin and healthy she's faced with the issue of putting on baby weight for the next how many months. That alone could be enough of a reason for her to become detached and distant. Add in the fact that there are other women paying attention to you now and flirting and your wife is probably a wreck inside. And believe it or not, her being distant is probably her way of trying to cope with it and not wanting to rain on your good time of loosing so much weight and feeling good (Or she could be testing you and waiting for you to reach out to her, women tend to test us dense men sometimes). Talk to her. Make her feel good and loved. Ensure her that you're not going to stray and that you love her no matter what.
Is potential poontang worth throwing away your wife and unborn child? Is it worth 18 years of child support? Is it worth only being able to see your child half the time if you're lucky? Are you willing to have your child grow up resenting you for not being there? These are all questions that you need to do some deep soul searching over. Don't just give things up and leave on a whim or because the ladies are looking your way now.

This is really brief, and by no way intended to be something you rely on BUT:
You need to step back - seriously. I have seen this is in so many people, and it was one of the major factors in me avoiding surgery for years and years.
You are going through a narcissistic phase (I am NOT A DOCTOR OR COUNSELOR) that I have hear referred to as "if I had always been thin" - it is OK, you can't help but be overwhelmed, but you should, especially since a child is involved, step back and recognize that YOU and HER are overwhelmed - you lost weight, she held a fertilized egg in her uterus, developed it through to a baby, went through an incredible amout of hormonal change, gave birth, and her body will be regulating for months.
You dont have to react to her berating, just pay attention to the dynamics her father and her have and avoid those triggers - also - get the hell out of that house.
Don't make any life decisions yet.
oh, yeah - the affair you have either had or are seriously thinking about having - don't.

I say stick it out, get out of living with the in-laws as soon as possible, and seek some professional help from counselors. No offense to the ladies but pregnancy tends to make them..... well for lack of a better word crazy. I love my wife. We have been married for 10 years and have 2 kids. There have been some ups and some downs as with any relationship but, sticking it out is important. Don't ever let anyone put you down for seeking help. We are doing it for our weight managment issues through surgery so why is getting help from a counselor any different? There are plenty of free and low cost counseling services. Remember parenting is hard. And even as fathers the parenting starts when your wife gets pregnant. For my wife it changed her during and for a year after each pregnancy. For one thing sleep becomes much harder and that can be problemlematic. Also, remember your wife is probably gaining wait, a good thing when your pregnant, but that can make them feel insecure especially if it is at a time that their spouse is losing weight and getting a lot of attention. But, think of this, if she married you at 300 she is probably going to stick with you no matter what because she loves you. I give my wife props becuase she married me as the ex football pro who weighed around 225 lbs of pure muscle. Now I have degenerated into a 370lb lazy couch potato. But, she has been through my side. Perhaps it is becuase I am getting older, I am 35, but I want someone who is going to be by my side in the good and in the tough. Just my two cents. Either way good luck and best wishes.

If you care about your wife and unborn child you might want to think about getting some personal/family counseling RIGHT NOW. Since you mentioned that you were getting "attention" that you've never had before, you may be giving her vibes that you want to flirt or more outside your marriage. That and the fact that shes 2 months pregnant with YOUR child, will make her very emotional and change her personality for a while. That happens when your hormones are out of whack because you're having a baby. I don't want to sound like I'm beating up on you, but you have more important things to worry about right now than whos making eyes at you at the gym.

It sounds like your daughter needs some serious professional help. I would call the local police where she's at and ask them to do a wellness check on her. She has already threatened serious harm to herself, so a psyche evaluation may be in order. The police or hospitals in most states can do a three day admission to a facility to help someone calm themselves down. If the problem is more serious, or needs medication, that three day stay can be a Godsend to save someone's life.
Please act now. You could be saving your daughter's life. I know you don't want to do anything to harm her, but you cannot let someone in that mental state be alone. Better to over react on this occasion than to plan a funeral.