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Matt Z

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    Matt Z got a reaction from FluffyChix in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    Those that I don't know too well, I just chalk up to sociological norms. Sadly we are programmed from every angle as to what is "normal" and "acceptable". Few hundred years ago, being fat was desired, meant you were rich and powerful and could afford things so that made you wanted. Now, we are in a different head space as a species.

    Those that I know well enough, I give a break. It hasn't even been 2 years yet, I've been overweight for the larger portion of my life. So, they only have so much to go on.

    With my wife... it's what she's learned in dealing with me every day, for 21 years. I have to remind her, but I don't get mad because, she's not used to me just like I'm still not used to me.
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    Matt Z got a reaction from FluffyChix in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    I'm still pretty critical of myself, but I'm much less so.
    I don't instant assume people are either making fun of me or have something against me just for my weight. This has been assisted by the fact that I've worked with people that knew me fat and treated me like crap, and then "meet" me thin and treated me much differently without realizing I was the same person.

    I've got less personal internal hatred towards myself, so I'm able to stop applying that to my daily life.
    I've started to retrain how I think. I see "FML" all the time, and I'm like, "Do you really mean F your whole life? or just the current situation?"

    I've found a compassion for not only myself but others.

    You have to love yourself first before the rest of the world can have the meaning it should. And if you hate who you are, what you are, how you look, how you feel, etc. You can't see the world for what it is.

    I'm glad to be a totally different person physically. It's allowing me to be a better person mentally and thus a better person to everyone around me.
  3. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from FluffyChix in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    I don't believe we are on the same page. People still treat me like I was when I was big. That's the problem. When I was heavy, I was in a lot of pain physically, the mental toll was great as well. I lashed out often, would deflect issues or flat out ignore things I didn't want to deal with. I was a giant a$$. The problem is, people get used to those types of reactions from people. How many times have heard or even said something about someone that was based on that persons typical replies. The issue is that, some folks make the assumption based on what I used to be like, not how I am now. I am a totally different person. From the fact that our cells are replaced at a rate where at this point not a single cell in my body is the same as it was when I was fat... but the fact that I'm less than half the person now, I'm not the angry, always tired control freak anymore. I'm not the super judgey super snappy prick I was when I was overweight and unhappy.

    You want to be different. Personally, if you don't want to be a different person, if you don't want to change... then I can foresee issues with the process. The process requires you to give up the old ways and learn new ones. This change forces you to become a new person. It's not a bad thing at all to be a new person now. It's quite the reverse. I want people to stop using my old actions against me now.
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    Matt Z got a reaction from Sheribear68 in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    One of the biggest things I've been facing is, those that knew me when I was big, keep treating me the same way. I'm a totally different person now, and my reactions are not the same as when I was heavy. I have to remind my wife that she's "applying old me reactions to new me" when she starts making presumptions etc in relation to my mental state or mind frame etc.

    I'm still dealing with a bunch of the Body image issues as I spent so long being overweight and larger, that being small is still taking getting used to, but the way I figure, I was big for so damn long, it's not going to be an overnight fix feel small again.

    The mental game is the hardest part, because even if you think you've got a 100% handle on things... Like I thought I did... your body, your life, your surroundings will more than likely prove otherwise.

    Just be ready for the bad and have a plan and support for it.
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    Matt Z got a reaction from DaisyChainOz in I Want To See Before & After Pics! (Cont'd)   
    Let me rephrase. I feel down right Fantastic overall.
    Stairs... not even a second thought.
    Walking, hiking, hell... running. No concerns.
    Buying clothes that fit in a "normal" store in the "normal" section without having to pay XX fees... I almost cried the first time.
    My wife and I are enjoying my new found energy, we go out dancing all the time now.

    I just feel so much better than I did when I was heavy. SO.MUCH.BETTER!!!!
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    Matt Z got a reaction from Tracyringo in I Want To See Before & After Pics! (Cont'd)   
    Close to 400 in the first, 180 in the second.


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    Matt Z got a reaction from DaisyChainOz in I Want To See Before & After Pics! (Cont'd)   
    Better photo to highlight the losses, since you can see my side view better.

    I feel pretty damn good. Migraine and anxiety disorders causing a feedback loop that triggers each other, but that's another story. I can do so much now it's amazing. I just love going out and doing stuff. I don't mind when people look at me, I don't instantly think they are all "omg that fat guy is gross". I've gotten lots of looks and smiles now. I feel like I did when I was 18-20... less the back pain LOL

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    Matt Z got a reaction from Tracyringo in I Want To See Before & After Pics! (Cont'd)   
    Close to 400 in the first, 180 in the second.


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    Matt Z got a reaction from glannin in Loose skin   
    I went from 370 down to 183 at my lowest... currently sitting between 185 - 190 at 18% body fat. I have minimal issues with skin, sure there is some extra, and I hate how it looks, but it hides very easily. I've got other photos in my profile that highlight the changes. But at the end of the day, it's going to be 100% personal, everyone's skin is different, where they carried their weight, how their skin reacted to the weight etc etc etc.

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    Matt Z got a reaction from glannin in Loose skin and sex   
    So, I've had a recent "interaction" with a friend of my wife and I's. I was pretty up front with my skin... and it wasn't an issue at all. By the time you get to the "gear down" portion of the evening, your play date has already felt your skin, through clothing or not... they know what they are dealing with, at least to some extent. And yes... men regain length as the Panniculus fat shrinks.

    So, I still hate the way I look naked. But, I try not to let it bother me too much and stop focusing on what I look like and start focusing on what your play date looks like, etc. Keep your focus on them and ignore yourself. It'll be ok.
  11. Haha
    Matt Z got a reaction from DaisyChainOz in Confessional - Lets post our cheats/confessions/etc so others can see that we are all human   
    I had 8 beers at a Foam Party on Saturday night.
    Had to take my time because the "too drunk" would start to creep in pretty quickly. But overall, no issues, like at all. Which actually is another one of those "WTF" times... because, "I'm not supposed to be able to tolerate beer"... but it went just fine. So now, it's like YAY I can drink beer without any issues... but also Dammit I can drink beer without any issues...
  12. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from Sheribear68 in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    One of the biggest things I've been facing is, those that knew me when I was big, keep treating me the same way. I'm a totally different person now, and my reactions are not the same as when I was heavy. I have to remind my wife that she's "applying old me reactions to new me" when she starts making presumptions etc in relation to my mental state or mind frame etc.

    I'm still dealing with a bunch of the Body image issues as I spent so long being overweight and larger, that being small is still taking getting used to, but the way I figure, I was big for so damn long, it's not going to be an overnight fix feel small again.

    The mental game is the hardest part, because even if you think you've got a 100% handle on things... Like I thought I did... your body, your life, your surroundings will more than likely prove otherwise.

    Just be ready for the bad and have a plan and support for it.
  13. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from DaisyChainOz in I Want To See Before & After Pics! (Cont'd)   
    Better photo to highlight the losses, since you can see my side view better.

    I feel pretty damn good. Migraine and anxiety disorders causing a feedback loop that triggers each other, but that's another story. I can do so much now it's amazing. I just love going out and doing stuff. I don't mind when people look at me, I don't instantly think they are all "omg that fat guy is gross". I've gotten lots of looks and smiles now. I feel like I did when I was 18-20... less the back pain LOL

  14. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from Tracyringo in I Want To See Before & After Pics! (Cont'd)   
    Close to 400 in the first, 180 in the second.


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    Matt Z got a reaction from GreenTealael in Weight loss slow down   
    Check into Intermittent Fasting. It's broken me through so many stalls. When I hit my hard stall at 230, I thought I was done for sure. I'm sitting between 180 and 190 now.
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    Matt Z got a reaction from GreenTealael in Weight loss slow down   
    Check into Intermittent Fasting. It's broken me through so many stalls. When I hit my hard stall at 230, I thought I was done for sure. I'm sitting between 180 and 190 now.
  17. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from Sheribear68 in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    One of the biggest things I've been facing is, those that knew me when I was big, keep treating me the same way. I'm a totally different person now, and my reactions are not the same as when I was heavy. I have to remind my wife that she's "applying old me reactions to new me" when she starts making presumptions etc in relation to my mental state or mind frame etc.

    I'm still dealing with a bunch of the Body image issues as I spent so long being overweight and larger, that being small is still taking getting used to, but the way I figure, I was big for so damn long, it's not going to be an overnight fix feel small again.

    The mental game is the hardest part, because even if you think you've got a 100% handle on things... Like I thought I did... your body, your life, your surroundings will more than likely prove otherwise.

    Just be ready for the bad and have a plan and support for it.
  18. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from FluffyChix in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    I'm still pretty critical of myself, but I'm much less so.
    I don't instant assume people are either making fun of me or have something against me just for my weight. This has been assisted by the fact that I've worked with people that knew me fat and treated me like crap, and then "meet" me thin and treated me much differently without realizing I was the same person.

    I've got less personal internal hatred towards myself, so I'm able to stop applying that to my daily life.
    I've started to retrain how I think. I see "FML" all the time, and I'm like, "Do you really mean F your whole life? or just the current situation?"

    I've found a compassion for not only myself but others.

    You have to love yourself first before the rest of the world can have the meaning it should. And if you hate who you are, what you are, how you look, how you feel, etc. You can't see the world for what it is.

    I'm glad to be a totally different person physically. It's allowing me to be a better person mentally and thus a better person to everyone around me.
  19. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from FluffyChix in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    I don't believe we are on the same page. People still treat me like I was when I was big. That's the problem. When I was heavy, I was in a lot of pain physically, the mental toll was great as well. I lashed out often, would deflect issues or flat out ignore things I didn't want to deal with. I was a giant a$$. The problem is, people get used to those types of reactions from people. How many times have heard or even said something about someone that was based on that persons typical replies. The issue is that, some folks make the assumption based on what I used to be like, not how I am now. I am a totally different person. From the fact that our cells are replaced at a rate where at this point not a single cell in my body is the same as it was when I was fat... but the fact that I'm less than half the person now, I'm not the angry, always tired control freak anymore. I'm not the super judgey super snappy prick I was when I was overweight and unhappy.

    You want to be different. Personally, if you don't want to be a different person, if you don't want to change... then I can foresee issues with the process. The process requires you to give up the old ways and learn new ones. This change forces you to become a new person. It's not a bad thing at all to be a new person now. It's quite the reverse. I want people to stop using my old actions against me now.
  20. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from FluffyChix in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    Those that I don't know too well, I just chalk up to sociological norms. Sadly we are programmed from every angle as to what is "normal" and "acceptable". Few hundred years ago, being fat was desired, meant you were rich and powerful and could afford things so that made you wanted. Now, we are in a different head space as a species.

    Those that I know well enough, I give a break. It hasn't even been 2 years yet, I've been overweight for the larger portion of my life. So, they only have so much to go on.

    With my wife... it's what she's learned in dealing with me every day, for 21 years. I have to remind her, but I don't get mad because, she's not used to me just like I'm still not used to me.
  21. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from FluffyChix in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    I'm still pretty critical of myself, but I'm much less so.
    I don't instant assume people are either making fun of me or have something against me just for my weight. This has been assisted by the fact that I've worked with people that knew me fat and treated me like crap, and then "meet" me thin and treated me much differently without realizing I was the same person.

    I've got less personal internal hatred towards myself, so I'm able to stop applying that to my daily life.
    I've started to retrain how I think. I see "FML" all the time, and I'm like, "Do you really mean F your whole life? or just the current situation?"

    I've found a compassion for not only myself but others.

    You have to love yourself first before the rest of the world can have the meaning it should. And if you hate who you are, what you are, how you look, how you feel, etc. You can't see the world for what it is.

    I'm glad to be a totally different person physically. It's allowing me to be a better person mentally and thus a better person to everyone around me.
  22. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from FluffyChix in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    I don't believe we are on the same page. People still treat me like I was when I was big. That's the problem. When I was heavy, I was in a lot of pain physically, the mental toll was great as well. I lashed out often, would deflect issues or flat out ignore things I didn't want to deal with. I was a giant a$$. The problem is, people get used to those types of reactions from people. How many times have heard or even said something about someone that was based on that persons typical replies. The issue is that, some folks make the assumption based on what I used to be like, not how I am now. I am a totally different person. From the fact that our cells are replaced at a rate where at this point not a single cell in my body is the same as it was when I was fat... but the fact that I'm less than half the person now, I'm not the angry, always tired control freak anymore. I'm not the super judgey super snappy prick I was when I was overweight and unhappy.

    You want to be different. Personally, if you don't want to be a different person, if you don't want to change... then I can foresee issues with the process. The process requires you to give up the old ways and learn new ones. This change forces you to become a new person. It's not a bad thing at all to be a new person now. It's quite the reverse. I want people to stop using my old actions against me now.
  23. Congrats!
    Matt Z got a reaction from FluffyChix in The Importance of Doing the Head Work   
    That's entirely possible! The bulk of my loss was very drastic. It hasn't been horrible overall, just gets a bit frustrating on occasion, but, we talk about it and work on making the changes.
  24. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from DaisyChainOz in I Want To See Before & After Pics! (Cont'd)   
    Let me rephrase. I feel down right Fantastic overall.
    Stairs... not even a second thought.
    Walking, hiking, hell... running. No concerns.
    Buying clothes that fit in a "normal" store in the "normal" section without having to pay XX fees... I almost cried the first time.
    My wife and I are enjoying my new found energy, we go out dancing all the time now.

    I just feel so much better than I did when I was heavy. SO.MUCH.BETTER!!!!
  25. Like
    Matt Z got a reaction from DaisyChainOz in I Want To See Before & After Pics! (Cont'd)   
    Better photo to highlight the losses, since you can see my side view better.

    I feel pretty damn good. Migraine and anxiety disorders causing a feedback loop that triggers each other, but that's another story. I can do so much now it's amazing. I just love going out and doing stuff. I don't mind when people look at me, I don't instantly think they are all "omg that fat guy is gross". I've gotten lots of looks and smiles now. I feel like I did when I was 18-20... less the back pain LOL

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