Less of Leslie

I TOTALLY feel the same way!! I see food and I'm like, eh...whatever. That is amazing to me because pre-op I was OBSESSED with food! Now I am just eating to live...litterally! I do have this new found love for cooking though! Wierd.

Wow.
This is a surgery forum for those who are looking for SUPPORT in their journey. What did you expect "Loving" husband 1979? That we would all applaud you for your cruel and unsupportive forum topic?
ATTENTION EVERYONE!!! :director:
All you had to do to lose the weight that you have been gaining and losing for YEARS is just PUT THE FORK DOWN AND EXERCISE! Thank you SO much for shedding the light on us. :doh:
We have been STRUGGLING with our weight, not just trying to lose those last 10-15 lbs, STRUGGLING with 100's of pounds. Your wife is obviously unhappy with her body image...wonder why. "Eat healthy dear and exercise". Yes, we DO have to eat healthy and exercise. VSG is not a magic cure. We need to eat healthy now more than ever before.
The risks of her being obese out why the risks of the surgery. PROVEN FACT. Do your research buddy, and don't expect to come into a VSG support group, bag on the surgery and expect us to be soooo happy you shared your opinion with us. We get enough grief from the ignorant A-holes outside of this forum, we don't need it here.
God Bless your wife.

I understand your concern, but you are going about it ALL WRONG.
As a woman, we are VERY strong willed and determined creatures. Tell us no and we will prove you YES.
Yes, we DO want to look good in our clothes. That is for US. We DO want to feel comfortable in our own skin. That is not for YOU. We want to FEEL sexy. You can tell her and tell her, but until she feels it, your words hold no weight. It really ISN'T about you.
Who will care for her? You almost make it sound inconvenient.
All I can recommend is that you support her in her decision, because it is her's. The process will be so much harder for her emotionally if she does have the surgery and you are sitting in the dark corner with your arms crossed.
She will have to work harder than she has before with the sleeve. If she is lacksy daisy about weight loss, I see why you are concerned. Most of us have faithfully dieted and exercised only to gain the weight back. Most of us can look at a plate of food and tell you how many calories are on that plate. We are professional dieters. This surgery is not for the lazy dieter. Yes, she SHOULD TRY to lose the weight herself with diet and exercise, but I'm telling you, if she makes up her mind, you better get on board or it will be a VERY bumpy ride.

I understand your concern, but you are going about it ALL WRONG.
As a woman, we are VERY strong willed and determined creatures. Tell us no and we will prove you YES.
Yes, we DO want to look good in our clothes. That is for US. We DO want to feel comfortable in our own skin. That is not for YOU. We want to FEEL sexy. You can tell her and tell her, but until she feels it, your words hold no weight. It really ISN'T about you.
Who will care for her? You almost make it sound inconvenient.
All I can recommend is that you support her in her decision, because it is her's. The process will be so much harder for her emotionally if she does have the surgery and you are sitting in the dark corner with your arms crossed.
She will have to work harder than she has before with the sleeve. If she is lacksy daisy about weight loss, I see why you are concerned. Most of us have faithfully dieted and exercised only to gain the weight back. Most of us can look at a plate of food and tell you how many calories are on that plate. We are professional dieters. This surgery is not for the lazy dieter. Yes, she SHOULD TRY to lose the weight herself with diet and exercise, but I'm telling you, if she makes up her mind, you better get on board or it will be a VERY bumpy ride.

Thank you for the paragraphs, LovingHusband, that makes things easier to read.
I would like to point out to you that we are trying to help you here. Yet, you are calling us ignorant and narrow-minded. And that is exactly how you are also coming across. We, for the most part, know how your wife feels, and we are pointing that out to you. You were crying... that's about you. You tell her she's the most beautiful... that's about you, she doesn't feel that way. What she thinks about herself is so much more important than what you think about her... that's about you. You need to look in the mirror while you are throwing out your insults. Not sure if you will be able to see that though.
My husband has told me that he finds me beautiful many times, daily, but a woman who is 50 - 75 pounds overweight knows she is not the most beautiful. Honestly, we are not stupid. We get picked on, looked down upon, sneered at by kids, looked at cross-eyed if we have the nerve to have a dessert in a restaurant. Clothes look bad on us, the selection is frumpy. Arm flaps don't go away because husby says we are beautiful. We are still fat.
I also wanted to ask when is the last time you saw that ex-girlfriend who lost the 80 pounds through diet and exercise? I have lost 100 pounds in one year through diet and exercise. Several times! Guess what? A good portion of it came back. I don't know how old your wife is, but I finally decided that I have had it with waking up each morning to the horror of being fat. Detesting myself should be enough to make me exercise and put down that fork. As a member of a high-IQ society, that should be easy for me to figure out, right?
But basically, LovingHusband, it sounds like she has made up her mind. I hope you don't come back to post under the name of LovingExHusband.

Wow.
This is a surgery forum for those who are looking for SUPPORT in their journey. What did you expect "Loving" husband 1979? That we would all applaud you for your cruel and unsupportive forum topic?
ATTENTION EVERYONE!!! :director:
All you had to do to lose the weight that you have been gaining and losing for YEARS is just PUT THE FORK DOWN AND EXERCISE! Thank you SO much for shedding the light on us. :doh:
We have been STRUGGLING with our weight, not just trying to lose those last 10-15 lbs, STRUGGLING with 100's of pounds. Your wife is obviously unhappy with her body image...wonder why. "Eat healthy dear and exercise". Yes, we DO have to eat healthy and exercise. VSG is not a magic cure. We need to eat healthy now more than ever before.
The risks of her being obese out why the risks of the surgery. PROVEN FACT. Do your research buddy, and don't expect to come into a VSG support group, bag on the surgery and expect us to be soooo happy you shared your opinion with us. We get enough grief from the ignorant A-holes outside of this forum, we don't need it here.
God Bless your wife.

You just reminded me how amazing, wonderful, and supportive my husband really is. He'll most likely be getting laid tonight because of you. I'm sure he'll send you his thanks.

Wow, I have to say you should probably get behind her or lose her. Even from a man's point of view. You are being way to critical of her by comparing her to others. If you love her you will support her. Are you sure you aren't just worried about her getting skinny and confident and leaving your negative personality in her dust? Maybe you've been there before. That woman who lost 80 lbs is your ex for a reason!

If you haven't been in her shoes then you wouldn't understand. Just try and be supportive, and be there for her--- We all have issues to deal with hers may be food/lack of excercise. You may have something else to deal with like your high cholesterol. You are just mentioning negatives. Try to list some positives. I would also stop comparing her to your ex-girlfriend not cool!!! Quit thinking something bad will happen and think of the good that could come from this. Sorry if you are offended. I just understand how she feels to have the one you love constantly in your ear about what could happen. She is not choosing the surgery over you. She is choosing life!!! Let Go and Let God!!!

WOOT WOOT!! Shorties in the house!!
I'm 5"2, 4 weeks post op. Total loss of 40 lbs, 20 of that is post-op. Current weight is 210.

YEP! You ARE normal! Chest pain/pressure is definatley a signal. I had the same trouble. I would get chest pain/pressure and/or burp alot. Our stomach is still numb from the procedure so we won't feel anything for a while. Follow Dr's orders as far as how much liquid how often. That will help you stay on a schedule and that way you know you aren't taking in too much. At this point, so early, I wouldn't worry about "stretching: the sleeve, I would worry about causing a leak if you are over doing it.

I just wanted to scream out that today I wore a size 9 blue jeans to church!!! SIZE 9!! not stretchy ones either! just a few months ago I was lucky to squeeze into a size 20. I'm only 17 lbs from my goal and I LOVE MY SLEEVE!! This summer is going to rock cause I will get to wear some cute, cute clothes. Also my cousin had VSG 3 weeks ago and one of my best friends told me at church today that I have inspired her to have surgery too. Who knew!?! Have a great day guys.

My sleeve HATES Protein shakes. She lets me know it as soon as I open the container with the powder.
My sleeve HATES broccoli. Sad thing because I LOVE broccoli.
My sleeve caught a serious attitude when I tried to give her some salad recently. She's so mean!
My sleeve is high maintenance - She let me eat an entire lobster tail for my birthday, and never b*****s when I give her shrimp or any kind of seafood for that matter. She loves sushi - I thought my grocery bill would go down a little since I wouldn't be eating as much food as I used to, but Ms. Sleeve is definitely keeping my food bill up there with her expensive taste. smh
Oh, and she makes me peel grapes for her before I eat them. If my sleeve were a person, she'd probably be like the chick from "the Devil Wears Prada". smh

Stool softeners saved me! I don't like MOM (milk of magnesia) and I don't like laxatives. Drink alot of Water, exercise, and try a stool softner.< /p>

Plain and simple: We complain because we are SCARED TO DEATH THAT THIS WILL BE ANOTHER FAILED ATTEMPT AT WEIGHT LOSS. I am a little peeved that this topic is even here, but whatevs. We have been struggling with weight loss for years and we have failed. This is an extreme last resort at finally getting the weight off. It is a total head game. We KNOW that 85% of our stomach has been removed, We KNOW that we eat like birds and that we don't eat enough not to loose, We KNOW it is calories in vs calories out. We have ALL done the pre-op work. What we don't know is that if this surgery was done in vain and if we have our hopes and expectations up to high. Obviously it is the norm to be upset about the scale not moving. We have all of our hopes in this surgery and we are afraid of failing. THAT'S WHY WE COMPLAIN.

WOOT WOOT!! Shorties in the house!!
I'm 5"2, 4 weeks post op. Total loss of 40 lbs, 20 of that is post-op. Current weight is 210.

@Sleeve 4 me: You haven't?!! You look so small and tight in your photos. You go girl!! I thought you did already! I would do it in a heart beat. I can't wait until I have to face that decision!

I have been waiting on this day! My BMI just dropped under 30! I weighed 174 today! Yay! This was my Christmas goal and I finally made it! Took me three extra weeks to do it but I am thrilled! In four more pounds, I will weigh less than I have weighed in 17 years! Wooop!

Plain and simple: We complain because we are SCARED TO DEATH THAT THIS WILL BE ANOTHER FAILED ATTEMPT AT WEIGHT LOSS. I am a little peeved that this topic is even here, but whatevs. We have been struggling with weight loss for years and we have failed. This is an extreme last resort at finally getting the weight off. It is a total head game. We KNOW that 85% of our stomach has been removed, We KNOW that we eat like birds and that we don't eat enough not to loose, We KNOW it is calories in vs calories out. We have ALL done the pre-op work. What we don't know is that if this surgery was done in vain and if we have our hopes and expectations up to high. Obviously it is the norm to be upset about the scale not moving. We have all of our hopes in this surgery and we are afraid of failing. THAT'S WHY WE COMPLAIN.

Plain and simple: We complain because we are SCARED TO DEATH THAT THIS WILL BE ANOTHER FAILED ATTEMPT AT WEIGHT LOSS. I am a little peeved that this topic is even here, but whatevs. We have been struggling with weight loss for years and we have failed. This is an extreme last resort at finally getting the weight off. It is a total head game. We KNOW that 85% of our stomach has been removed, We KNOW that we eat like birds and that we don't eat enough not to loose, We KNOW it is calories in vs calories out. We have ALL done the pre-op work. What we don't know is that if this surgery was done in vain and if we have our hopes and expectations up to high. Obviously it is the norm to be upset about the scale not moving. We have all of our hopes in this surgery and we are afraid of failing. THAT'S WHY WE COMPLAIN.

Plain and simple: We complain because we are SCARED TO DEATH THAT THIS WILL BE ANOTHER FAILED ATTEMPT AT WEIGHT LOSS. I am a little peeved that this topic is even here, but whatevs. We have been struggling with weight loss for years and we have failed. This is an extreme last resort at finally getting the weight off. It is a total head game. We KNOW that 85% of our stomach has been removed, We KNOW that we eat like birds and that we don't eat enough not to loose, We KNOW it is calories in vs calories out. We have ALL done the pre-op work. What we don't know is that if this surgery was done in vain and if we have our hopes and expectations up to high. Obviously it is the norm to be upset about the scale not moving. We have all of our hopes in this surgery and we are afraid of failing. THAT'S WHY WE COMPLAIN.

Two days ago I weighed in at 200 pounds. And I was so looking forward to reaching Onderland!
And I did!! I lost 2 pounds in one day! I am now at 198!
Goodbye for ever 200+! I will never see you again, nor will I miss you!!

Onederland is when you hit under 200 and hit 199, the 100's

Try using a mini muffin pan to put the meat into. This will make portion controlled servings. Then they can be stored in a container in the fridge or frozen for later.

And you may be experiencing any number of issues post-op--water retention (TOM?, salt from broth? ), a slow end to the 3-week stall, etc. You may also be a slower loser, due to your lower starting weight. That's okay, too--as the poster above says, you know this is a "forever" tool, so Celebrate every pound that comes off--you won't be seeing it again!!