SophieJaneB

I feel a sense of dread being lifted off my shoulders at the thought of not telling.?!! I think it would be so much easier that way- not to have to face their judgment. I'll have to convince my husband to "allow" me not to tell anyone because he always holds me accountable and wants me to be honest at all times. He means well, but he's hardheaded/ lol.

If you flew to Mexico to have the surgery, did someone come with you? I know they let you stay for 3 days, and provide a driver, so is it necessary to bring someone to help you, or was it pretty easy with just the nursing staff and driver? Thanks!

I definitely know its not easier than a diet. Every time I look at my plate I think, after surgery I'll not be able to eat this. I must come to terms with that.. but I feel that is what I need to actually succeed. And i am excited about getting on a treadmill and actually having results! One of my goals is to run a 5k in the next couple of years. I like the gallbladder advice, and I'd use that except I had my gallbladder out a couple years ago...so I'd have to think of something else, and keep my parents away from the surgery center because they'd want to be there. I'm thinking about just not saying anything at all. Just doing it, and telling them later, after the fact.

Thanks for the advice! I hate keeping secrets from my family, but I might do the surgery then tell them at a later time. My dad is always the skeptic and on occasion has mentioned certain people who've had gastric bypass and has gained part of the weight back....thats why I'm nervous to tell him. I have a very nice family, and I guess I'm afraid to admit my weakness (even though its easy to see) with losing weight and wanting to use this wonderful tool to help me. It's hard when you're the only overweight person in your immediate family (extended family members have weight problems). And I don't know if I'll be able to keep a secret since we all live in the same city, go to the same church, see each other every week. It would be hard. I guess i still have some soul searching to do!!

I've found a surgery center, I'm approved for financing, Husband has reservations about the $$, Have NOT told any family or friends because I'm nervous that they will not support me, or question me. I'm 80 lbs overweight with a BMI of 36.5.. AND pre-diabetic.There is no way I will ever lose 80 lbs and keep it off. but I'm afraid my family members (who are not overweight) will just tell me to get my butt on the treadmill. But I know myself, I know I'll never lose that much weight and keep it off on my own. I really want the sleeve gastrectomy. Any advice on how to tell my family ??