samantha209

Welcome! Feel free to invite other members. I think this will be a great place to discuss issue that we as women of color may face during this process. Thanks for joining

I AM SO SORRY
Welcome to the brothers also!!!

I AM SO SORRY
Welcome to the brothers also!!!

i swear by torrid, igigi, and kiyonna

I AM SO SORRY
Welcome to the brothers also!!!

I am really worried about my hair because I have soft, fine hair...i was sleeved last monday...gonna start taking Biotin, and also going to start using wild growth hair oil...may incorporate Nioxin if need be
btw i am relaxed...if it gets too bad, i will throw in a weave

hey all! Just saying hello. Hope everyone is doing great! Haven't been on in awhile.

Welcome! Feel free to invite other members. I think this will be a great place to discuss issue that we as women of color may face during this process. Thanks for joining

Welcome! Feel free to invite other members. I think this will be a great place to discuss issue that we as women of color may face during this process. Thanks for joining

I AM SO SORRY
Welcome to the brothers also!!!

I too am nervous...my surgery is Monday. I see that all posters in this thread are alive and well that is a comfort
I have been following my liquid diet since last Monday and am hoping it will lead to positive results. I find myself waking up in the middle of the night in a panic. I have had surgery twice before but this one is anxiety provoking on so many levels. I am saying many prayers, and have the support of so many. VST has taught me a lot, and I look forward to posting about upcoming successes and NSVs

i am here now...except I am 5 mos out...I hit my 100 LB goal and have been within the same 3 lbs since then.
i can do well all day but evenings after work are a nightmare...i am totally craving carbs/sweets HELPPPPPPPP

thanks again guys for the encouraging words. i deleted him off my blackberry, Facebook everything. I know it may be harsh but necessary....lots of sprkng cleaning in my life right now

thanks again guys for the encouraging words. i deleted him off my blackberry, Facebook everything. I know it may be harsh but necessary....lots of sprkng cleaning in my life right now

Perfectly normal worry! I wonder the same thing. When I got down to 175 (seems so long ago!), I suddenly started getting attention from guys. It felt great, but freaked me out, too. I'm not used to getting attention from guys and I didn't really know how to handle it. Ha ha; I didn't have much time to figure it out since I gained the weight back so quickly.
But, it's true that a lot of guys won't be into heavier girls and I don't fault them for that. I think if this guy approaches you and you feel good about it, go for it! You might playfully ask him why the sudden interest (can't make it too easy for him!) but don't make it an issue if you like him.
You'll be going through so many changes that talking to a counselor might be a really good idea. I don't know about you, but so much of my identity is tied up in being heavy and there's a lot of hurt from feeling I'm treated differently by most everyone, men and women. Talking things over with someone could help a lot.
Last thing: I agree with a previous poster that as your confidence improves, so will your attractiveness! Guys definitely are attracted to confidence and you deserve to be with someone great. No more settling for you. So, be healthy and happy and when you're ready, the new confident you will make her entrance.

My plan to handle a situation like that is, if you didn't want to see me as a heavy girl, then I sure as hell don't want you to see me when I'm "pretty".
My boyfriend saw me when the rest of the world thought I was invisible, same with my friends, whether I'm heavy, or skinny I'm still the same person inside and I want people to like me for me, not my appearance, so those people aren't worth my time nor are they worth yours. Stay true to yourself

Scheduled for April 25th with Dr Parikh at Bellevue in NYC. I started at 343 prior to my 6 month supervised weight loss...i have lost about 25-30lbs....been going back and forth. I am excited, and extremely nervous. But i am ready....my liquid diet starts April 11th