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So I've really been struggling with staying positive lately. I know this may sound juvenile, but I feel like I'm losing my friends! It seems like in the beginning when I first decided to go through with this, the support and encouragement were overwhelming. But now that I'm so close to surgery, it appears people's attitudes have drastically shifted. I've pretty much lost all my fellow heavy friends, thinking I've somehow "abandoned" them just because my eating habits have changed and I'm going through this. My lighter friends are just weirded out by the whole process and can't believe I'm actually serious about going through this. Both groups have stated that WLS changes peoples personalities because they can't eat for pleasure anymore, they "become eternally cranky and mean," and my friends all claim I'm "too nice to go through this." These things are very hurtful to me, especially since I've known so many of my friends for years and years. Then I get scared and think...what if they're right? Will I become that person? Anyways, I'm not feeling very happy lately. I need to stay positive, but dealing with all this has been hard as hell.

Remember your why. If your why isn't strong enough to you, then really look at motivation. If it is, then you must understand this is YOUR journey, no one else's. They don't have your education about the journey, nor do they share your motivation for health. You must do you, even at the cost of relationships. I was very choosy about whom I shared my journey. I was choosy about how much I shared. There are whole groups of people who only know I've lost significant weight. Some only know me as thin Fluffy. Your life will change. You WILL change. I'm happier now than I've been in years. Although I still struggle with BD and self-acceptance, I have more self esteem than I have had in my life. I can do so much more. So far, my WHY, is intact and doing well. I've not lost it one jot.

Man, I wish I had some good advice for you. I COULD say "well, what kind of friends are they if they don't support you in this" but that doesn't make it any less hurtful. But hopefully some of them are TRUE friends an will support you through thick and thin (😁) and your appearance or eating habits will not affect your friendship in any way. Do you have bariatric support groups near you? That is a great place to meet lots of people who are going through what you are so they will understand the changes, and you may have some new best friends among them. And I know we all can't go out for a (small) bite (byte?) over the computer, but don't forget you have friends here! Come visit often.😘

Before and after. Couple close coaching friends getting ready to do the same thing. Very fortunate that I had good insurance. Had to do the 6 month wait (visit and class once a month) but it was worth it. I was a walking heart attack waiting to happen on Friday nights in the fall. So much energy and adrenaline go into a Friday night.

Congratulations, Are you considering keeping a personal thread where you can update everything in one place? Think of it as an archive. People may one day look for/to your story as inspirational.

That was one of the first things I did also once I lost enough weight. I could go on all the coaster. All the rides really but I passed on the spinning ones, no ty. But the coasters, fun fun fun! I am glad you got to experience them again, enjoy!

Way to go! You'll be done your 14 days before you know it!

Thanks everyone. Day 1 was not as bad as I thought it was going to be. I did not crave food. Day 2 may be another story as we get catered breakfast/lunch tues-th at work. Lucky for me, the food is downstairs and I am upstairs. I also have a headache today (as expected) but in all I am still pumped.

Hello Loridee11, yes me too! But I am scheduled for 2 extra nutrition appts guessing in case I had to reschedule. My surgery has been set for December 30th. Now I was approved for lapband removal and had done in July. Not sure if I have to get approved for 2nd surgery for RNY or if it goes with the removal surgery? But, I have a date set for December 30th. I have already given them my FMLA paperwork. Bought trial box of protein shakes and received a shaker bottle, will buy required vitamins and protein on next visit in Nov., soooo im just waiting and waiting and getting nervous! I do already have my suitcase packed for the event!

Yes, they do for sure. Don't let it freak you out- it is totally normal. It is your body adjusting to rapid weightloss. Expect and try to accept stalls as part of your process. (It's hard, I know!) It means you have lost enough weight that your body is taking a pause, but it is not a stopping place. When stalls do happen double check to make sure you are doing the basics like tracking calories, getting enough macros and water in etc. If those things are all on point, try to relax and know that this too shall pass... and you will be moving that scale number lower again before you know it.