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She's not being very supportive, but then again it's hard for others to understand our plight with obesity. Do what's best for you. It isn't the easy way out because the dieting continues for years after the surgery. The surgery doesn't magically make you skinny. It's a lot of work, but the surgery is just a tool that makes it a little bit easier to do the diet. I didn't tell anybody but my husband about my WLS because I didn't want to hear the judgers and the haters and making me feel like crap like I wasn't strong enough to do it on my own.

I am having an amazing journey. Time for toning [emoji123] and skin removal. Sent from my LM-Q710(FGN) using BariatricPal mobile app

Baritastic is another to try

Hi, I take one and my doctor had me take it up to Surgery and started back three days after. Just make sure they know what medication it is.

Sorry, speaking only for myself, I misunderstood when you asked for "suggestions." So, I "suggest" no, it's not typical. Lol. Sounds like you already had the only "next step" you can expect and will be calling. Anything else step wise would be so dependent on your particular team and pretty hard for anyone else to give much input on right now. Good luck to you!

Enabling: I won’t give permission or condone choices/behaviors that sabotage the work to get healthy. Peoples success is not dependent on the members here. The only one who has to be happy with your WLS outcome is you. When does a response become abusive? Interpretation is part of it. Trolling and personal attacks I would consider abusive. When you post on a forum you have no control of how people respond If a post or member offends you don’t read or respond. (you have the option to block them) Some people want a light touch while other do better with tough love. Take the advice, examples, and experiences that are useful and ignore the rest. I value all the opinions and input, even if it’s something I don’t agree with. I learn from the successes and mistakes. Freedom of speech is a wonderful thing.

I think if someone asks for an opinion, then it's an invitation to be honest. Obviously not to the point of destroying someone's esteem, but I feel that if someone asks... I will answer with honesty. Not sure about the support being enabling... interested to hear about that.

Tell her to suck an egg. So many people assume that these surgeries are the easy way out but they don't understand what goes into preop, post op and for the rest of your life.

And I hope the answer will come, maybe Monday the 15th?

I set my goal by body composition, as BMI (as others have noted) is a flakey measure that applies more to population studies than to individuals. I aimed for a mid teens body fat percentage - on the lean side of normal for guys (mid twenties for the ladies) and started with an initial goal weight based upon the (very gross) assumption that all my loss would be fat mass, and then corrected that as I got closer and saw how the BF% was shaking out. As it turned out, I adjusted goal down another 10 lb (to 190 from 200 lb) to reflect about 10 lb loss of muscle mass - we can minimize that, but next to impossible to avoid altogether. I am "overweight" on a BMI basis at 26-27, but lean - ish by body composition. There has been some discussion within the ASMBS ranks that over-emphasis on BMI can lead to excessive loss of muscle mass, particularly amongst those starting in the higher BMI range, so it is something of an individual judgement thing.