I have realized when you are overweight, people find it difficult to tell the difference. For instance, I had my surgery on January 31st and I have lost 40lbs since pre-surgery diet. My father made a comment about how he couldn't tell at all. He can only tell my face looks smaller. So I showed him a before picture and he was like WOW. I have a cousin who made similar comment. I think it has to be drastic for people to notice. But you know what counts? I notice. I can fit into my old clothes. I have clothes in all sizes and it makes me feel better. Stay positive! Take measurements. That helps.