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He sounds like a jerk. That said....if he wants to eat crap, he can. You can't make him cook if he doesn't want to. His body. Let him kill himself with garbage. No skin off your nose...so don't worry about it. No, it's not very supportive to eat crap in front of you....but it doesn't sound like he worries much about how you feel. By the way...if you're 4 days post op and have a headache, a cough and chest pain...why in the hell isn't he taking you to urgent care immediately? Because he doesn't care. That's why. Learn from this. Lose weight and find someone who actually cares about you. Life is too short to play martyr.

I need to vent. Im 4 days post op and husband doesnt know how to cook, he expects me to still cook for him and if i say no he’ll get fast food and eat it in front of me. Today he ordered pizza and told me remember you cant eat this. I dont feel like hes doing it on purpose but i just had a huge fit cuz im watching tv have a huge headache, cough, chest pain. Baby is crying in one ear and hes nagging me about he wants yo watch tv i can watch tv tomorrow. I told him no and he kept nagging i just feel like hormones are crap right now and i went off. He still had the nerve to yell at me go to the room noone wants you out here with your stupid attitude. Idk how to get him to understand im going through a drastic change and i need time.

You were lied to. The three weeks stall is infamous. What can you do? Be patient. That's it.

Hey there, I had 2 abdominal surgeries approximately 15 years ago. Scar tissue and the fear of having open surgery scared the crap out of me. Needless to say, I was sleeved on Monday 4/2/18 without complications. I’m 2 days post op and currently recovering in my hotel room

What an awful day!! Wow, you are still fresh out of surgery. It's going to get harder before it gets better. But don't worry, your body is healing and you are training your brain what and how to eat. Is the cough from a cold? Despite his eating pizza in front of you, I hope you're able to get your protein and water in. YOu are doing great and like you said, this will take time. It's a HUUUUUGE adjustment. But you and your husband will figure it out and find your new normal.

@jackersducky curious to see how things have been going this past month just because you or OP screw up for a while, as "they" say, tomorrow is a new day.. in the real world - most of us deal with stress at times. in the past many/most of us used food to help "dull the pain" that's how we got here. want to eat bad stuff? GET OVER IT!! hope things are improving good luck kathy

Surgery date is May 18th Sent from my SM-G955U using BariatricPal mobile app

Yes you too! Pre op was an adventure for me to say the least! Everyday gets better physical wise its the mental thats kicking my butt! Best of luck to you!

It's a valid concern! I ended up being self pay because I had only a 2 lb buffer to work with and decided it was too risky. I was drinking sweat tea every day in an effort to maintain, but felt awful. So I decided to pay cash, switched Dr's and said to heck with insurance. Much less stressful. I feel your pain, I wasn't cut out for that level of stress Sent from my XT1254 using BariatricPal mobile app

I miss Sir Mix-a-lot, he appreciated chunky tushie. I used to figure I could always get a job as ballast on a Lake Erie steamer. One of my lesser goals on life? To lose enough weight I'm not always the rear seat in a canoe. Why? Because that's where the heaviest person has to sit. I. could get an Native American name like "Pretty Fawn" instead of "2 Rocks in Rump" or a legit N..A. Name -"Tay Bodal" it's Kiowa Indian from Oklahoma. Any Kiowa out there? Goody, I'm safe, it translates as meat Bearing Area of Animal, literal translation Buffalo ****, sadly appropriate isn't it for someone of my pulcritude? Oh I plan to dimish in size and grow in self confidence. And shine, I'll shine brighter than the Aurora Borealis, just watch and see! Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app