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1) be more insightful to know when my mother isn't meaning to criticize me Fuck That. 2) be more mature than my mother and handle her going off on me with grace and not to react Fuck That. 3) accept the way she treats me and roll over and take it without changing the family gatherings because sweeping her crap under the table and acting like it didn't happen is easier on them. Fuck That. This may be a mother/daughter thing. My wife was treated the same way by her mom until I told her that what her mom said was complete bullshit, and the only one she ever had to please was herself. You need to know that as well. It simply does not matter what other people think/say, and I don't give a damn if they are 'family', or a spouse. If they do not support you in what you are doing, then do you really need them in your life? So many people say 'But they are family, and family is family' piss on that. Being related to someone does not give them an excuse to make you feel like crap. Since you expressed how you felt, and they did not care, then why on earth should you care about them? There will be others on this board posting in the vein of family is family and asking you to forgive, but I would strongly advise you to focus on yourself, your husband, and your kids. On a separate note, high hive for losing the weight pre-op! It will definitely help you out with not only the surgery, but give you a big boost post-op as well!! Keep going!

I am 18 days post-op and these are my orders: Day 1-2 (in hospital) clear fluids Days 3-9: full liquids Days 10-16: puréed foods Days 17-30 soft foods Day 31 solid foods. When I went for my post op appointment at day 16, my doctor said I can pretty much eat anything, starting off with softer foods, take very small bites at first. Especially smaller bites for meat, and chew, chew, chew, chew. He did say to stay away from hard to digest foods a little while longer, like asparagus, celery, and nuts. I am going slowly, one new food at a time.

This is a reminder to me to treasure my second chance through wls, I wanted to share. A.coworker needed to lose 17 lbs in five weeks in order to qualify for special training (she's in the military). She dropped the weight through plastic wraps, zero carbs, steam room, something called laser Lipo, and a weight loss drug she bought in Mexico-- some kind of amphetamine . She met the weight but was unable to do complete her physical training because she collapsed. She went to the hospital and her heart is arrythmic and the IVs for fluid have been difficult because she is dehydrated. She had a staph infection and developed energy to the antibiotic she was given. It's awful! Before wls I did several unhealthy things to lose weight. If I hadn't had wls I might still be trying things that I knew wouldn't work. If you are thinking about wls, please know that it can finally end the crazy train of fad diets and desperation if you use it as it was meant to be used.

Hi, there: I'm scheduled for VSG surgery on April 17, 3 weeks from today, and I'm really anxious about giving up my go-to support, FOOD! I didn't think it was that much a part of my life until now and it's scary and shocking, a bit of shame thrown in there, that I am panicking about not being able to turn to my old standby when dealing with negative thoughts and feelings. I'm eating all kinds of crap that I had easily given up without an issue but now that I'm getting closer to my surgery date it's like I have to grab onto it because it's going to be gone forever (in my mind). I know this is not healthy but I'm struggling. Does anybody have any advice or have you gone through this yourself? Thanks in advance

Some days are easier than others. The first few days were certainly the worst, though I am struggling today for some reason. I find myself going to bed a little earlier than usual, partly due to fatigue, but mostly because nighttime is when I usually snack. On Saturday, I attended a soccer (sorry - football) match, where there was an open bar and free food, and I somehow managed to get through it, but it's not an experience I'd like to have again until I am much further along in this process. Seeing the weight start to come off quickly has been a big motivator as well. For me, at least, the key has been making sure I am constantly sipping on something, so I stay relatively full. That being said, it's certainly not the worst thing that's ever happened to me, but I am very much looking forward to having this part done and over with.

Don't panic, this happens to me everytime I lose more than 12lbs a month. As long as there is no pain, smell, itchy discharge then it's down to weight-loss and hormones but it's annoying. If in major doubt and you have a chance of pregnancy then check immediately or speak to doctor in case.

Yes me....I don't want to be 150 my personal goal for me is actually between 180 to 200....I have 2 friends we were same size before our surgery... 1 of them 140 the other one 180 and looking at them I honestly know I wanna be 200.....

Hang in there buddy, we are ending one journey and starting a new one.

You got this! Prayers for a seamless surgery and speedy recovery! I am day 4 post op and the pain has gotten better, just not completely where I wish I would be pain wise.

Welcome to the skinny side of life! I'm in my 5 week of being sleeved and I'm down 31lbs! LG! Life is good