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I've thought long and hard about it, and for me, self-sabotage comes from fear of success. Sounds weird, right? I've been losing and gaining weight all my life, and now to have broken the cycle scares me sometimes. I'm also starting to get more attention from others, which has always terrified me. Sometimes it's easier just to be invisible instead of being the center of attention. It's very strange to overhear friends and family whispering to each other about how great I look, getting jealous looks from other women and appreciative looks from men. It sounds like a dream come true, but for someone who isn't used to it, it can be pretty scary. Sometimes I feel like hiding under a rock. This is just me, though. You have to do your own soul searching and figure out why you self sabotage. In the end, this battle isn't about food, it's about ourselves.

Hello lap band talk, I have just found this site and I'm loving reading everything so far. It has given me so much information and insites into other peoples journeys. I had my lap band placed March 19th. The three days of clear liquid diet prior to surgery were really hard and I will admitt I was so cranky. But it was worth it and Dr said my liver was small enough and not in the way during surgery. The first and second day were the worst for me and I was taking my pain medications every 4 hours, but after those first two days things starting improving. My abdomen was starting to become less swollen and the full liquid/puree diet is much more tolerable than clear liquids. It still amazes me that a cup of food is making me full and I haven' t even had a fill yet but as the days go by I get hungrier which is probably a good thing and means my stomach is healing and the inflammation is going down. My lap sites are actually not that painful at all, the worst is the gas pains. I actually asked my Dr the day of surgery "will you push all the air out of me when you are done." Haha it's because I'm a nurse. He said he would do his best and I believe he did but that little bit of air is still so painful in my left shoulder and neck. It is getting better and I am walking every day! I have already lost 12 lbs and I'm so happy! I didn't even lose 12 lbs while on weight watchers for 6 months. I keep stepping on the scale because I don't believe it's true. I know this stage isn't for weight loss and it's about healing but this first 12 lbs is so exciting I can't wait to start lossing more. After my first post op visit I plan and starting the couch to 5K program. Has anyone else done that? And how did it work for them. I know I have a long journey with this band ahead of me but I'm so ready for a change and already feel happier than I have in years. Good luck everyone, can't wait to share our stories!

I've been struggling with this question for the last three weeks or so. I need a fill but am waiting until after my son's wedding in three weeks time. I have my outfit and obviously want to wear it yet I find myself accepting that slice of cake at morning tea, or eating the sweet slices my sister-in-law brought to that family event. At the moment I am winning by exercise but I need to work on getting my head in the right space! good luck to all of us

Also look for Lipton cup-a-soup cream of chicken. not much protein, but satisfying. Yesterday I bought Jay Robb's tropical dreamsicle and it tastes like a creamsicle, but is sweet so maybe not a good time. Maybe try a vanilla protein powder so you don't get the super sweet taste? I was told by the lady at the supplement store that Jay Robb is the best tasting whey protein. I believe her now.

Ice cream is liquid, right? I think we so often do these things because our powers of rationalization are so very strong. "I haven't been able to eat for days, I need the calories. Plus I've been hurting so bad, a little ice cream treat will be so great!" "The cold of the ice cream will help any swelling." Big thing is, you have recognized it, and are addressing it. WAY TO GO! Most of us are self-medicating food addicts to one degree or another. You are worth the effort to eat right and make good choices. A little treat once in a while is fine. Just be sure you are aware it IS a treat.

Mom milk of magnesia its gentle.take it at night and in the am u will go.

Congratulations! I've also hit size 14 on tops (down from a tight size 26), so I know just how awesome you are feeling. Enjoy.

We got to keep each other motivated. i had a heart attack while visiting my grand baby in the hospital. i had a bad heart and never knew so that's what motivated me. i use to take 8 pills a day but im blessesd no more pills and 220 pounds lost.

I haven't had the surgery yet, but since I am covered partially by insurance I have to do the 3 months of supervised dieting. I haven't told anyone but my husband and my other care providers (doctors), who I asked to write letters to the insurance for me to help me with approval. I have been struggling with what to say and who to tell, and then I came to an epiphany - for me at least. When I first started learning about the lapband and reading how it works I noticed the one word that everyone uses - TOOL. This will be a tool for us in the steps we are taking to make our lives healthier. This is not a magic fix-it band, not a you'll-never-crave-chocolate-doughnuts-again band, not a cure for the I-want-some-icecream-now band. It is merely to reduce the AMOUNT that we are allowed to eat at one time.. Everything else is up to us. It will be hard work, especially at first, and I will be consciously making healthier choices and chosing what I eat (already started in January to get ready). Now, if I tell anyone or everyone that I have this band, any steps I've done or long hard road I've gone down or sacrifices I have made will all be lumped into one phrase: "oh, she has the Lapband, no wonder she lost weight so easliy". It may be petty or feel like I need attention, but if anyone wants to pay attention to my weight and how much I've lost or how much better I look, then I want it to be about ME and about my choices and the hard work I've done to get there. Maybe if someone is curious about the band, or if I feel like they may understand how much work I still had/have to put in, then I may feel the connection and want to tell them about it. For now, I haven't even told my sister (who is one of my best friends) or my mother (who lives with me and my family) or any of my friends. I am a talker and constantly give TMI to my friends and family, and this has been hard for me not to say anything and gab on and on about it. But I know once I open that dialog up I can't take it back. So I found this website, and I found a place where I can talk about it and feel like everyone understands. This is a very personal decision and it's hard to decide what to do. Good luck with your decision. ~Kelly <3

I haven't had it done yet, but when I told my mother I was looking into it, she immediately went into negative mode. When I asked her to go online & just read about it (she doesn't know anyone personally that has had it done) she just ignored me. My bestfriend said I don't want to be negative, but.........and then proceeded to say nothing but negative things in a passive/aggressive manner. My husband is suoer supportive, he's my rock!!! My dad was great also. Funny but I knew these 4 important people in my life would react just exactly the way they did. So to tell or not to tell.......it's a personal decision and don't feel bad if you don't tell. What a shame that we feel something so positive is seen by others as negative and the lazy way out. They have not been in our shoes!