Why is my husband more afraid of this than I am?

June 1, 2008

So why is my husband more afraid of this surgery than I am? :confused2: I am the one who will be going under the knife, not him! I asked him what frightens him so much and he said he's afraid I will get skinny and meet someone younger. I keep telling him I an content and not looking. Even if I got as skinny as Nicole Richie I wouldn't go cruising for a new husband. Sheesh! It's taken me 25 years to train this one! LOL!!! I am too old to join the dating game and train a new one!:tt2::sneaky::thumbup:

Then he said he was afraid HE would starve! Then he said I would starve! I told him I would have protein shakes, vitamins, and eventually I can eat whatever he eats, just in much smaller portions. :thumbup:

My b-friend said the same thing, but we are not married, he has given me a fit about alot of stuff. He is just real scared of loosing you, no matter what you tell him.

Sounds like your husband doesn't like C-H-A-N-G-E. I'm sure he will be okay in the end... of course it could drive you crazy! Good luck Deb

I just had this conversation with hubby recently (and I am 2 years post banding) They don't like the change, there is security in you not being "mainstream sexy". He will be fine and hopefully this is a healthy venture for both of you!

My husband was my biggest supporter! I almost did it behind his back, afraid he would not approve & I'd feel my health wasn't as important as I thought it should be.

Silly me! He was 100% for it. He knows the amount of money I spent eating out & the health problems I have had.

I'm sorry your husband is scared. Hopefully he'll come around & see it is important for your health & the weight loss is necessary for that. Hope he can rethink this....it takes time & he probably hasn't thought about it near as much as you have.

Good luck!