Ok...long story short (ha ha)

My family just went to the Y to swim. After swimming we went into the Family Changing Room because it is easier with two just two year olds and a 3 year old and diapering etc....to go together than to separate them.

I went outside in the hallway to get their shoes, and there was a mom there with a young boy...maybe about 12...the mother asked me if I had young children in the room...and I said yes and she said, that's unfair...you can use the regular room...my son has autism and I cannot go into the regular changing room with him. I said, oh...well we are moving as quickly as we can with three little ones under 4 and we will be out shortly. She continued to complain that I was not using the room appropriately.

Well, we got the kids dressed, and then went outside to put their shoes on so the mom could bring her son in the room. (There are two family changing areas). She was waiting maybe 3 minutes. I said to her "I am sorry you had to wait, but the sign says family changing room and I didn't think there was any reason why my family couldn't use the room." She again reiterated that I was unfair because we could separate our kids and then she wouldn't have to wait...and that she can't go in to the men's room.

Ok...I get that...I understand. I truly am sorry she had to wait...but am I wrong for bringing my kids into one of the family changing rooms?

The thing is..I am a nice person...I NEVER intentionally hurt people or make things more difficult for someone...It's not who I am....I feel upset at myself and guilty that I've made life harder for this woman...but at the same time, I'm angry....and confused.

I just figured that it was easier for a family with three kids...two of whom can't take off their clothing or put on their clothing to use the family room so that it was two adults versus three kids.

Am I wrong? Really..please tell me truthfully, because I don't want to be inconsiderate.

Rainer

I agree with all that has been said---does the pool have a handicapped restroom or changing area?

Equal rights means that---equal, not special rights. You were well within your rights, and doing the right thing. You handled yourself better than I would have---you hurried, and tried to be nice to her. Her poor son doesn't sound like he has a chance!!

Don't let her upset you. And don't let her push your family away from your together time---it is safer---where you can both be there, so if one of you turns away for a minute......

Kat

u did the right thing and if it happend again id say handle it the same way