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Hello All

I'm new here but been reading a lot of the advice people have to give and the support and it's great. I Decided to have wls last year but honestly my previous pcp has been recommending it for years I just didn't want to hear it. I just knew I could do it on my own without any surgery. I tried a few times and was successful maybe once but gained all my weight back plus a few pounds over the years. Now I'm over 30 and thinking to myself why did I wait so long to make this decision? I guess I just wasn't ready.

I'm officially near the end of my pre op requirements and I can say this is a long process that I'm positive will be well worth the wait. That being said I am nervous and excited at the same time. Is that normal? Like I'm sure I can do this but what if I mess up? What if the surgeon messes up? What if I never get to my goal weight? What if I go below my goal weight and I don't know what to do with myself? What if I change as a person will it be for the better or worse? What will people think? Do I care what people think?

I know I'm a little bit of a mess and I'm trying to get my head in the right space for this life change and I'm working on it. I also know I can't stand the wait but great things will come after.

Thanks for listening ^_^

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You will never know the answers to all your "what ifs" until you walk through that door. All of us have had those questions, and the journey is different for each of us, but nearly every single person here is glad and grateful to have had surgery. I was literally dying in inches from my obesity and I have my life back now, and I couldn't be happier. Unfortunately, I waited until I was 63 to have surgery and lot of damage was already done, especially to my joints.

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Time to break out one of my fav quotes:

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” - Anais Nin

I think all of your fears are common and expected. We got this.

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I am only a few months post-op and I continue to struggle with the 'what ifs.' I had a PCP who recommended the surgery for years, but I was scared of the risks. Now, I am in my mid-40's and just try to take it one day at a time. Everyone's journey is different. Just remember 'you got this' no matter what comes your way.

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7 hours ago, TheLdywMoxie said:

What if I go below my goal weight and I don't know what to do with myself? What if I change as a person will it be for the better or worse? What will people think? Do I care what people think?

So you are worried about getting below your goal weight vs being overweight and unhealthy? I would worry about the zombie apacalyse seems more relavant. You can always do what i do - Snake on high calorie things like M and Ms or Get MRE powder to stop or slow down the weight loss. Nothing to worry about

BETTER FOR SURE - being healthy makes you happy ...... being slim makes you feel good about your appearance ..... being fat and unhealthy makes you feel miserable

WHO GIVES A f#$CK WHAT OTHERS THINK! This is your decision to get healthy! NO you do not care what anyone thinks .

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9 hours ago, TheLdywMoxie said:

Now I'm over 30 and thinking to myself why did I wait so long to make this decision? I guess I just wasn't ready.

That being said I am nervous and excited at the same time. Is that normal

Hi! Are you just over 30? (I'm 65 but technically over 30 also😁) If you are just over thirty than you are still young! You'll do well with this, get good results and your skin should snap back more easily than us -ahem- more mature folks...It's good that you are doing this at a younger age!

It's TOTALLY normal that your emotions are all over the map right now. You are going into the unknown with a life changing decision. You'd have to be a rock NOT to be a bundle of emotions right now.

Visit here often--you'll get lots of helpful info and emotional support. Keep us posted--YOU GOT THIS!!!!

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Everyone else has said it all. Do this now while you are still young. Be prepared to work hard at not only losing but also maintains your weight loss.

you need to care more about what you think. You have zero control over what others think.

you got this!

Edited by Losingit2018

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OMG! I feel the same exact way! I’m 37 and have finally got a date for surgery! I wish I had done it sooner too!

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Ahh I know I'm late but thank you everyone for the support! :)

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