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Greetings,

I had the gastric sleeve on June 17th, and overall its going pretty well. I do have something that is becoming a bit of a problem. Since I can anonymity on here, I thought I'd ask. How is the sex drive guys? Mine is 1000 x increased. I begin every morning with some with my wife, I masturbate at least 2 x during the day, sometimes 3 (thank goodness I work from home), and at night we have sex. So on average that is 4x a day. Part of me is like this was better than when I was 16, 30 years ago. However, it is becoming a bit consuming. Anyone else have this issue? Is this normal? Does it last (I'm kind of hoping not to be honest)? Thanks. Sorry if it is TMI but it isn't something I really want to bring up with the nurse practitioner.

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Sorry, typo. I do NOT want to bring this up with the nurse.

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Its definitely up 🤣.

Now I am better than when I was 19 (I was horrible at 16). Prior to surgery I was having issues getting and staying erect. Now I can last longer and then orgasm and keep going. I have had my wife ask "Did I get you?". Never in my life has that been asked by her before. First time she said that I was all smiles.

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The best part of the surgery, wife loves the loss and the gain;). I have more energy and desire. It also probably has to do with my overall improved health. No diabetes, high blood pressure, or sleep apnea.

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3 hours ago, Phx_Downsizing said:

Sorry, typo. I do NOT want to bring this up with the nurse.

Maybe you should. I'm sure it's not the first time she's heard this.

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I think we all have benefited from losing the weight and getting healthier. I know my sex drive increased, my stamina increased and I too was having some problems maintaining an erections. With that said I think you need to talk with your provider. Going 4x times sounds a bit in excess. I am wondering if you are replacing sex and orgasms with the happiness you got from eating food. When we eat food we love we get endorphins that are released to make us happy. Hence eating pint of ice cream when unhappy makes you happy. Now that you dont get that you could be using the hormonal release from orgasms to satisfy those needs. There could also be some hormonal imbalances going on. Fat releases estrogen so your body may have been compensating with releasing more testosterone to overcome the estrogen that the fat tissue was releasing. Now that you have lost weight body does not know to shut off testosterone. Just some thoughts

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RN here. There is a wide spectrum of “normal” as far as sexuality goes. As long as you and your wife are both happy, you are fine. Things will probably taper down a bit over time when the newness wears off.

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