Losing focus

I’m having like episodes of wanting to taste everything .. I’ve attended about 7 parties in the past month and I want to raste everything .. I need to refocus anyone else doing the same

Remind yourself that "you know what that tastes like" or a mind trick I like to play is picturing the food being sneezed on or made with dirty hands or dropped on a gas station bathroom floor. Keep your focus. Take healthy snacks with you to those parties if they are something you MUST attend.

It comes and goes.. recently I went to a fund raiser and could only eat salad with no dressing... I was so crabby , next time I’ll bring what I can eat even if it’s just for me..these changes can make us feel resentful but I look at it this way.. at 55 I hit my quota on bad food like 20 years ago.Eating that food brought me to the most unhealthy place I could be and I view the stuff I can’t have like drugs or alcohol to other addicts and I focus on the people around me and not the food I don’t get to eat!

22 minutes ago, Carrot64 said:

It comes and goes.. recently I went to a fund raiser and could only eat salad with no dressing... I was so crabby , next time I’ll bring what I can eat even if it’s just for me..these changes can make us feel resentful but I look at it this way.. at 55 I hit my quota on bad food like 20 years ago.Eating that food brought me to the most unhealthy place I could be and I view the stuff I can’t have like drugs or alcohol to other addicts and I focus on the people around me and not the food I don’t get to eat!

It's an evolution. I do IF. Because of that, if I "miss my meal" it's no big deal. If a social function doesn't have something I can eat, then it's very simple. No angst. No pangs. No regrets. No sadness. Food is just food. I go home and eat a normal meal or snack that's on my plan. Instead I just enjoy the social aspect of it and visit and meet new people.

I'm learning that I don't HAVE to eat it just because it's there.

57 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

I just enjoy the social aspect of it and visit and meet new people

This was key for me. My mindset changed early on that parties/get-togethers were about the company and not about eating the food.

4 hours ago, GradyCat said:

I'm learning that I don't HAVE to eat it just because it's there.

Isn't that the hardest part. We're so conditioned that it's rude or uncouth to not eat at a social function... But we really don't have to.

13 minutes ago, apiane said:

Isn't that the hardest part. We're so conditioned that it's rude or uncouth to not eat at a social function... But we really don't have to.

No it's not. Naturally thin women have been doing it forever. They were actually taught to "eat" before the party so you don't look like "pig" at the party. At least in the South, our mamas taught us that...

And a fair amount of Midwestern Mama's did too. Along with not demanding a drink when visiting relatives and friends, it's tacky and pushy! Thanks Fluffy Chix for bringing that to mind!