I just my had surgery a few days ago and while I was at the hospital my mom and friend came to visit (both of them wear hijab). They went home and I took a nap and when I woke up my nurse was standing by my bed putting syringes into my iv and she asked me if the people that visited me were related to me and I told her they're my mom and friend. She started telling me how much she hated the islamic hijab and what it stands for and how she liked other religions veils but not the islamic one. Later, she became incredibly rude and aggressive with me. She was trying to show me how to give myself the blood thinner injection that i'm supposed to take when I go home. She put it in my hand and told me to do it now. I told her to give me a second because I had just woken up and was feeling groggy but she started telling me not to be a coward and to do it now. I told her ok I'm gonna do it just give me 1 second to breathe but she grabbed my hand and pushed the needle into me against my will.
Later, she told me she would go to lunch for 30 mins and come back to help me walk. I waited for an hour and a half and when she didn't come me and my mom, who had just arrived, went to walk by ourselves. We had walked for half an hour and just got back to my room when the nurse came back and started yelling at me and my mom because she thought I hadn't walked and have been waiting for her the whole time. I told her I just got back from walking but she didn't believe me and was yelling at my mom and saying that my mom is going to be the death of me because of how much she spoils me and doesn't make me do stuff and my mom was telling her that we just walked but the nurse wouldn't have it and kept on going and saying that it's all my moms fault and she can't trust her to take care of me at home and she started trying to pull me up from my chair to walk and I told her I couldnt i just walked and im in a lot of pain now and she started yelling at me and I was crying and telling her i cant and that my stomach and back and arm hurt a lot and she would keep telling me to stop crying and get up and that I'm too lazy. She made me get up and walk and after that I asked to be discharged right away and I left that day. Every time I remember that nurse I get so mad at what happened and wish I could've done something.
Am I right to be mad? Any suggestions on what I should do?

Definitely report her!

On ‎4‎/‎9‎/‎2019 at 9:19 PM, april042019 said:

I just my had surgery a few days ago and while I was at the hospital my mom and friend came to visit (both of them wear hijab). They went home and I took a nap and when I woke up my nurse was standing by my bed putting syringes into my iv and she asked me if the people that visited me were related to me and I told her they're my mom and friend. She started telling me how much she hated the islamic hijab and what it stands for and how she liked other religions veils but not the islamic one. Later, she became incredibly rude and aggressive with me. She was trying to show me how to give myself the blood thinner injection that i'm supposed to take when I go home. She put it in my hand and told me to do it now. I told her to give me a second because I had just woken up and was feeling groggy but she started telling me not to be a coward and to do it now. I told her ok I'm gonna do it just give me 1 second to breathe but she grabbed my hand and pushed the needle into me against my will.
Later, she told me she would go to lunch for 30 mins and come back to help me walk. I waited for an hour and a half and when she didn't come me and my mom, who had just arrived, went to walk by ourselves. We had walked for half an hour and just got back to my room when the nurse came back and started yelling at me and my mom because she thought I hadn't walked and have been waiting for her the whole time. I told her I just got back from walking but she didn't believe me and was yelling at my mom and saying that my mom is going to be the death of me because of how much she spoils me and doesn't make me do stuff and my mom was telling her that we just walked but the nurse wouldn't have it and kept on going and saying that it's all my moms fault and she can't trust her to take care of me at home and she started trying to pull me up from my chair to walk and I told her I couldnt i just walked and im in a lot of pain now and she started yelling at me and I was crying and telling her i cant and that my stomach and back and arm hurt a lot and she would keep telling me to stop crying and get up and that I'm too lazy. She made me get up and walk and after that I asked to be discharged right away and I left that day. Every time I remember that nurse I get so mad at what happened and wish I could've done something.
Am I right to be mad? Any suggestions on what I should do?

As an RN myself, this infuriates me! We have to take courses for cultural diversity in the nursing program. She needs to be reported because she is NOT holding up the oath we take when we graduate from nursing school. I'm sorry you went through this and I'm embarrassed for the nursing profession as a whole. We are NOT all like that. Hugs and I hope you heal well. Might not be a bad idea to talk to your surgeon about the nurse's behavior. I say this because surgeons have a great deal of pull within the hospital system and he/she may be more likely to get something done about this. At the very least, you deserve an apology and the hospital needs to provide cultural diversity education for their staff but I think this nurse needs to find a new profession.

I would report her to the hospital for unprofessional behavior

I had my surgery on April the 8th. I am 3-4days post op. Still on clear liquids and full liquids, but after I eat chicken broth or soup I have diarrhea. I want to know if anyone else is having are has had this problem. Please let me know

No disrespect! I feel this story is fiction.theres no way I would allow anybody to talk to me or my mom like that.if it is true that nurse need to be fired right away!

Thank you for all your kind words and suggestions! I didn't say anything at the time because I was scared and I normally have a lot of anxiety and with the surgery I didn't know right from left but I will be speaking to the hospital very soon about all of it. Again, thank you all. ❤️❤️ ?

Edited April 13, 20197 yr by april042019

On 4/10/2019 at 11:49 AM, april042019 said:

I just my had surgery a few days ago and while I was at the hospital my mom and friend came to visit (both of them wear hijab). They went home and I took a nap and when I woke up my nurse was standing by my bed putting syringes into my iv and she asked me if the people that visited me were related to me and I told her they're my mom and friend. She started telling me how much she hated the islamic hijab and what it stands for and how she liked other religions veils but not the islamic one. Later, she became incredibly rude and aggressive with me. She was trying to show me how to give myself the blood thinner injection that i'm supposed to take when I go home. She put it in my hand and told me to do it now. I told her to give me a second because I had just woken up and was feeling groggy but she started telling me not to be a coward and to do it now. I told her ok I'm gonna do it just give me 1 second to breathe but she grabbed my hand and pushed the needle into me against my will.
Later, she told me she would go to lunch for 30 mins and come back to help me walk. I waited for an hour and a half and when she didn't come me and my mom, who had just arrived, went to walk by ourselves. We had walked for half an hour and just got back to my room when the nurse came back and started yelling at me and my mom because she thought I hadn't walked and have been waiting for her the whole time. I told her I just got back from walking but she didn't believe me and was yelling at my mom and saying that my mom is going to be the death of me because of how much she spoils me and doesn't make me do stuff and my mom was telling her that we just walked but the nurse wouldn't have it and kept on going and saying that it's all my moms fault and she can't trust her to take care of me at home and she started trying to pull me up from my chair to walk and I told her I couldnt i just walked and im in a lot of pain now and she started yelling at me and I was crying and telling her i cant and that my stomach and back and arm hurt a lot and she would keep telling me to stop crying and get up and that I'm too lazy. She made me get up and walk and after that I asked to be discharged right away and I left that day. Every time I remember that nurse I get so mad at what happened and wish I could've done something.
Am I right to be mad? Any suggestions on what I should do?

Talk to the head nurse supervisor ask for a different nurse ASAP

You need to stand up for yourself, your family and your faith. This nurse behavior is totally unacceptable and she should know better. I’m an RN and I would like to apologize to you. Nursing professional values do not reflect in this one individual’s behavior. You deserve respect, compassion and professionalism. I hope you and your loved ones will get better care going forward.

I hope you have started to heal up. Put that witchy woman out of your mind once you've spoke your piece. And there is a bright new life for you waiting, so claim it move on. for you were created a victor!

Agree with you @Dabeyhive and in some cultures people are taught to be respectful to people in authority and in some cases people are just not confrontational and do not know how to deal or handle conflicts.

As a person of color whenever, situations like these occur (so sorry you had to deal with this when in so much pain and just in general) - in your mind you are always debating whether or not you should say something and how will it be received.

Will other people see your side of the story or will they say you are blowing events out of proportion?

It is even worse when you are ill.

Don't assume that everyone has your privilege or your temperament (to the person who thinks this is a hoax).

Lastly racist or xenophobic or big ass bullies need to be put in their place. I hope everything with your report goes smoothly and disciplinary action is taken.

I also hope you are healing up well.

Need to speak with the Nurse manager

As a patient you are extremely vulnerable. You rely on staff for nearly everything immediately post op. Many, many patients and family members have trouble advocating for themselves or a loved one. It doesn’t make her story a lie. I had a nurse force me to wet me bed when I could not walk after breaking my back but was past the catheter stage. There are bad nurses. Lazy nurses, racist nurses.

Please report her. Go to the state RN board if you need to. She has no right interacting with patients until she gets further sensitivity training.

I just my had surgery a few days ago and while I was at the hospital my mom and friend came to visit (both of them wear hijab). They went home and I took a nap and when I woke up my nurse was standing by my bed putting syringes into my iv and she asked me if the people that visited me were related to me and I told her they're my mom and friend. She started telling me how much she hated the islamic hijab and what it stands for and how she liked other religions veils but not the islamic one. Later, she became incredibly rude and aggressive with me. She was trying to show me how to give myself the blood thinner injection that i'm supposed to take when I go home. She put it in my hand and told me to do it now. I told her to give me a second because I had just woken up and was feeling groggy but she started telling me not to be a coward and to do it now. I told her ok I'm gonna do it just give me 1 second to breathe but she grabbed my hand and pushed the needle into me against my will.
Later, she told me she would go to lunch for 30 mins and come back to help me walk. I waited for an hour and a half and when she didn't come me and my mom, who had just arrived, went to walk by ourselves. We had walked for half an hour and just got back to my room when the nurse came back and started yelling at me and my mom because she thought I hadn't walked and have been waiting for her the whole time. I told her I just got back from walking but she didn't believe me and was yelling at my mom and saying that my mom is going to be the death of me because of how much she spoils me and doesn't make me do stuff and my mom was telling her that we just walked but the nurse wouldn't have it and kept on going and saying that it's all my moms fault and she can't trust her to take care of me at home and she started trying to pull me up from my chair to walk and I told her I couldnt i just walked and im in a lot of pain now and she started yelling at me and I was crying and telling her i cant and that my stomach and back and arm hurt a lot and she would keep telling me to stop crying and get up and that I'm too lazy. She made me get up and walk and after that I asked to be discharged right away and I left that day. Every time I remember that nurse I get so mad at what happened and wish I could've done something.
Am I right to be mad? Any suggestions on what I should do?

Your experience was horrendous and that nurse should be fired.Shes supposed to show you support and not degrade you or your family.
Please notify the hospital director and your surgeon as i am sure that he will want to make sure that never happens to one of his patients again..
My daughter is a nurse and would be mortified if I or anyone she was caring for were treated like you were.
I had the sleeve and I am waiting for approval for the bigger full bypass surgery.
I hope you and your family don't think every one is like that nasty woman.
Good luck to you.
Allie

I agree that you should speak to the hospital director/ nurse manager. Then let them handle it and let it go. Don’t let that awful woman steal your joy! You’ve just done something brave and remarkable! Focus on recovery and look for all the beauty that happens around you and because of you. Blessings to you sweetie.