After 7 months one of my teammates came up and directly asked me if I had surgery. I paused, then flat out lied and said no. I followed up the lie with truth. My Dr scared me into losing weight plus my Dad died at 58. Said I'm eating significantly fewer calories, tracking on an app, focusing on protein to keep me full, and exercising more. She said that it was inspirational, although she never really said I look good. Guess I just need to be satisfied with the inspirational comment. Most people who have come up to me have said I look good and asked what I've done to lose the weight, but until now no one has mentioned surgery. Wondering if others are thinking it. Regardless, I'm happy I'm keeping this private. #mysecretismine #liar

4 hours ago, Healthy_life2 said:

You still get asked about your weight/ maintaining?

Where I work at since about 1.5 years people ask about maintaining weight, yes. However, they ask not in a WLS related manner. They only know me at a normal weight.

It's more like many people (especially the guys) notice some pudge around the middle once they enter the late thirties or early forties at the latest as it seems. They ask other people around their age who don't gain weight as the years go by or during the Holidays or during vacation or when **** hits the fan again at work and there is even more stress than usually (like at the moment) and chocolate consumption seems to run rampant in the department how they manage it, too. I'm definitely not the only one who gets asked.

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4 hours ago, Healthy_life2 said:

So, If I had cancer I should be "forced" to tell people about chemotherapy? Is not disclosing my cancer treatment out of shame?

Maybe you would be surprised how many people are indeed ashamed out of some reason for their illness.

I have been worried about people asking this, I have my closest co-workers know why because we work very closely and I will be out for a week. I have talked with them and they all agree it is no ones business how or why I am losing weight but to answer the question with something I/we came up with I am on a medically supervised liquid diet and that is all anyone will know.

Wow. People are rude. Don’t feel bad about “lying”. It’s none of her/his business. SMH

I would have definitely described myself as private and kind of Jaytissle55 kind of person. I have been thinking about having surgery for couple of years or more and have never told a soul, not even my husband until I started the appointments 6 months ago. However, for me something clicked recently and instantly I became very open and comfortable discussing the subject. I am not advertising my choice to the world but in the last few weeks I have told my family, my friends and my small group of coworkers. Actually I feel good about it. I got mixed reactions but I was surprisingly comfortable with the subject. So go with whatever feels comfortable to you and be at peace with whatever you’re deciding.