My Doctor days I am doing great and I feel like I am doing great mentally and physically, but sometimes I just fear that I will fail and gain all the weight back a year or teo from now. Especially when reading post of people that have.

I know it is irrational to think this especially when I am giving everything I can into this lifestyle.

Anyone else know what I am talking about.

HW 309

SW. 274

CW. 217

GW 190

Surgery 09/25/17

Yes. Every single day. My drive is strong now and I fear when I let my guard down I will fall back into old habits. Even though I’ve done the work to get here I don’t always have faith in myself that I will be able to keep it up. I’m hoping that feat will keep me in track.

Yes. Every single minute! I do have an anxiety over this. It’s like a crippling sense of impending failure. I don’t know what to do about it!

LaLaDee,one of the service branches, Coast guard I think, has as its motto,Eternal Vigelence, you need to make it yours also. You've come too far to resume the bad old ways that brought you to surgery. You can do it! All your Bari-pals join me in wishing you a safe healthy,journey. Keep us updated.

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My Doctor days I am doing great and I feel like I am doing great mentally and physically, but sometimes I just fear that I will fail and gain all the weight back a year or teo from now. Especially when reading post of people that have.
I know it is irrational to think this especially when I am giving everything I can into this lifestyle.
Anyone else know what I am talking about.
HW 309
SW. 274
CW. 217
GW 190
Surgery 09/25/17

Oh yea. I share your same concerns. I wish I had something comforting to say, but at just shy of seven months out I’m still trying to figure it out myself.

Its not unreasonable to feel this fear. If like most of us here you lost weight and gained it back with every new diet you tried. The only thing that we learned from that is that we always fail and the weight always comes back and lets face that is the very fear you have now.

The difference is that GS is not a diet. It is a chance to reset your life. Embrace the chance and follow the plan and learn to eat the way we all know we should have at the start but could never get back to. The surgery is the physical way to weight loss but the Mental Part is left to you to work thru. Find that support with family, friends or here but don't talk yourself out of a new start and a new life. It is right there in front of you. Focus on the positive and push thru the negative thoughts (we all have them) to lock in the amazing chase that has been given to all of us.

Yeah but it's an easily resolved problem. I weigh myself every week and if I'm more than 5lb either side of my GW I adjust my intake accordingly.

Takes a couple weeks to get back to normal. Just gotta catch it quick or it can snowball.

Yes I have that fear too.
I just refuse to go back to eating any rice,potatoes , pastas,bread and other high carbs.
I am still going to gym. I am 11 months post op. I am doing great as well.
I pray to keep doing the right things to keep my weight within
Goal range.

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Yeah but it's an easily resolved problem. I weigh myself every week and if I'm more than 5lb either side of my GW I adjust my intake accordingly.

Takes a couple weeks to get back to normal. Just gotta catch it quick or it can snowball.

This is great advice, but it’s application can be tricky for those with food addiction. There has to be major mindset and habit change before some of us can have confidence in the ability to maintain. I’m trying to focus on that change so that I can get to the point where any regain is an “easily resolved problem” because in my years of dieting it never was.

I think my fear is largely based on experiences where I have lost weight in the past (before the sleeve). In 2006, I lost 30kg (66 pounds), in 2010, I lost 55kg (121lbs), in 2016, I lost 35kg (77lbs).

And yes - you guessed it, I totally regained everything I lost and more every. single. time.

Don't laugh, but I actually think I'm pretty good at losing weight, but I'm also excellent at regaining weight.

I do weigh myself every single day. I've been in a three week stall, so at the moment, I'm very panicked about "failure". I have been diagnosed with anxiety disorder. I'm no expert, but I think a lot of super morbidly obese people suffer anxiety and self-medicate with food.

I take the point that we need to be vigilant but even after we reach goal, our lives won't be perfect (sorry guys!). Things happen in life, and that's when things slip. For example, the week I reached my goal weight in 2010, my father was diagnosed with cancer. In 2016, I was on a great weight loss run when I lost my job. I can't say that I regained weight just because things went wrong in my life, but it didn't make it easy. Weight loss/maintenance doesn't happen in a perfect environment where we can focus on it 100%, there's always going to be other stuff happening in our lives.

The key reason I got my sleeve was not to lose weight (if motivated, I'm confident I could have lost weight without it), but to make maintenance easier. I hope things are different *this time*.

Writing this post has made me reflect on a lot of things and analyze why I'm so afraid of failure. Lol, this forum is like free therapy!! I am going to try and be more positive. If I was brave enough to get the sleeve, then I'm brave enough to confront these fears and keep going! Feel the fear and do it anyway!

I think my fear is largely based on experiences where I have lost weight in the past (before the sleeve). In 2006, I lost 30kg (66 pounds), in 2010, I lost 55kg (121lbs), in 2016, I lost 35kg (77lbs).
And yes - you guessed it, I totally regained everything I lost and more every. single. time.
Don't laugh, but I actually think I'm pretty good at losing weight, but I'm also excellent at regaining weight.
I do weigh myself every single day. I've been in a three week stall, so at the moment, I'm very panicked about "failure". I have been diagnosed with anxiety disorder. I'm no expert, but I think a lot of super morbidly obese people suffer anxiety and self-medicate with food.
I take the point that we need to be vigilant but even after we reach goal, our lives won't be perfect (sorry guys!). Things happen in life, and that's when things slip. For example, the week I reached my goal weight in 2010, my father was diagnosed with cancer. In 2016, I was on a great weight loss run when I lost my job. I can't say that I regained weight just because things went wrong in my life, but it didn't make it easy. Weight loss/maintenance doesn't happen in a perfect environment where we can focus on it 100%, there's always going to be other stuff happening in our lives.
The key reason I got my sleeve was not to lose weight (if motivated, I'm confident I could have lost weight without it), but to make maintenance easier. I hope things are different *this time*.
Writing this post has made me reflect on a lot of things and analyze why I'm so afraid of failure. Lol, this forum is like free therapy!! I am going to try and be more positive. If I was brave enough to get the sleeve, then I'm brave enough to confront these fears and keep going! Feel the fear and do it anyway!

Go girl. I could have written this myself. I did 8 months of weekly therapy before my sleeve 2/6/18. That was also my biggest fear and still is. But I’m working through it. For me the biggest fear is
Failure again and everyone sees it. It’s humiliating and embarrassing and I don’t want to feel that way again. Esp around those who know I had surgery. I’m also good at losing, maintaining...not so much. I’m just sleeved a few days and doing well. Things are
Different this time. You’ve had surgery.
Changed hormones, restriction and wisdom for prior attempts. I quit smoking 8 years ago. After 20 years and tons of attempts to quit. But I did it. 8 years and not one cigarette. Try to recall something you had to do many times before you were successful. Check out my posts, you could have written yourself.

You hit the nail on the head about the humiliation when you fail! It's so embarrassing when your weight goes down and then up again. For that reason, I haven't told anyone about my surgery, but as I've lost weight, I feel like they're expecting me to eventually fail and regain!

This time has to be different!!!!

It sucks cuz our vice/addictions are obvious. Any other addict can hide theirs!

Do you ever feel, like me, other addicions are more condoned?Foodaholics they think just Do It to themselves, nobody credits it with being a medical or metabolic condition also. We just do it to ourselves and want an easy way out by surgery. You've heard all the put downs and snide remarks. And sadly the snarky remarks come from people who should love and support you. And if you fight your way thru to a weight loss they are still waiting to say Told you so or Couldn't you even do that right? My own detractor: see I knew you'd be a failure. Its hard not to give in, but they have misjudged you. You are now strong, you have purpose and resolve, and you keep on with your small steps until you make your goal. Maybe they will give you grudging respect, maybe not. But you didn't do it for them, you do it for yourself. And you will be healthier, live longer and bottom line you'll be proud of YOU.Stay strong my friends.

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