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Pre-Opt Grief anyone? A lot of sadness and tears for the years.



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Hi,

I just wanted to share how I’m feeling incredibly sad, tearing up almost every night before my VGS scheduled on 1/31.

I feel it’s the right choice yet there’s so much pain, sorrow and grief coming up to the surface.

That so much of my emotions have been suppressed and really swallowed in (quite literally) with my own emotional eating.

It’s almost this wake up call to face what’s there.

My heart hurts. I feel so sad to what I’ve reached yet I am not shaming my body or self for all that it has been through.

I just wanted to share and see if this resonates with anyone else..

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Definitely! I had a few cries pre-op. Funny thing, I haven't felt that at all since surgery on Jan 8. I feel so good and am so excited that I don't have space in my head for that now. So yes.. Most likely it will pass! Good luck to you and stay strong. Keep us updated! [emoji76]

VSG 1/8/18. HW 271 SW 257 CW 223

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You're totally normal, even if you've come to terms with your upcoming surgery your inner heart is a little scared for the unknown. I put on a big brave front for my own upcoming surgery in about 6 weeks but deep inside this cowgirl gets the blues. We are,making a big change in our lives, but we are going to be So Much Better Off and much healthier. We can do this, my friend.

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Definitely! I had a few cries pre-op. Funny thing, I haven't felt that at all since surgery on Jan 8. I feel so good and am so excited that I don't have space in my head for that now. So yes.. Most likely it will pass! Good luck to you and stay strong. Keep us updated!

VSG 1/8/18. HW 271 SW 257 CW 223




Thank you so much. I am so glad how it’s something you’ve resolved as well in your process.


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I cried many times before surgery & after too. It's okay. You're not alone.



It’s often we feel alone in such things, isn’t it? Thank you for sharing. It really means a lot to me.


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You're totally normal, even if you've come to terms with your upcoming surgery your inner heart is a little scared for the unknown. I put on a big brave front for my own upcoming surgery in about 6 weeks but deep inside this cowgirl gets the blues. We are,making a big change in our lives, but we are going to be So Much Better Off and much healthier. We can do this, my friend.

Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app





I tested up reading your post. You’re right. So many people around me see me as this really strong woman but my little heart is indeed scared!

We will be so much better and healthier. Yes, we can do this.

Thank you.


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