why did i bother to tell my friends UGH

[Kat410 423]

I now tell anyone who asks me what am I doing or how am I doing it. If they don't ask I assume they don't care. For the ones that do ask ... The reactions are mixed but I have now talked to dozens of people who have literally ruled out surgery with no research or education because of the stigma of surgery.

I didn't really care about what people thought about me being fat and I don't really care about what they think of me getting healthy.

I am hoping that my sharing will make a difference and contribute to other people dealing with obesity having the space to educate and chose for themselves.

[Caligirl T 28]

I told only a few friends and family...and a few more as I am in months 4-5 now and people have noticed the weight loss, but what really scares me is the 52 lbs gone and some people are just looking at me with NO comment? Why are some people like you look great and others act like nothing has transpired...its a HUGE difference but like some people noted they are jealous or they are simply just not in a good place to make a nice motivational comment etc.. Some people don't care i guess, Ive always complimented and motivated others to better health which was my own personal intention to begin with not as much vanity....Lets face it not everyone is going to love your choice but its OUR choice and we made it...Good luck don't let those haters win...embrace your road to successful health choices!

[KateBruin 344]

I told only a few friends and family...and a few more as I am in months 4-5 now and people have noticed the weight loss, but what really scares me is the 52 lbs gone and some people are just looking at me with NO comment? Why are some people like you look great and others act like nothing has transpired...its a HUGE difference but like some people noted they are jealous or they are simply just not in a good place to make a nice motivational comment etc.. Some people don't care i guess, Ive always complimented and motivated others to better health which was my own personal intention to begin with not as much vanity....Lets face it not everyone is going to love your choice but its OUR choice and we made it...Good luck don't let those haters win...embrace your road to successful health choices!

Some people are so self-absorbed hey probably don't notice. Other people, like myself, would never comment on someone's weight ever. I have several friends who are recovering anorexics and my sister was. Even praising comments about weight loss can have negative consequences and I refuse to be part of someone becoming anorexic/bulimic.

[mille80 62]

4 hours ago, KateBruin said:

Some people are so self-absorbed hey probably don't notice. Other people, like myself, would never comment on someone's weight ever. I have several friends who are recovering anorexics and my sister was. Even praising comments about weight loss can have negative consequences and I refuse to be part of someone becoming anorexic/bulimic.

This! I really wish I was better at this. I think somebody's weight should not be a subject, but I fall into the norm and always compliment loss, and stay quiet at gain.

[tayla 3]

I'm not telling my mom. Even she bullied me with my weight and to my kids.

[Pescador 1,374]

My husbands 31 year old son has no idea my husband has had a gastric sleeve 4 years ago, and all my husband has said is I am not eating carbs and changing the way I eat, which is true. 100 lbs gone and his son hasn't a clue. You eat less, the weight loss is slow. My husband doesn't want to discuss his personal business with anyone. It's doable.

Edited August 15, 2017 by Pescador

[PepperCat 30]

For those that didn't tell people. What did you say when the weight started dropping?

[PrayingForWeightLoss 337]

For those that didn't tell people. What did you say when the weight started dropping?

I just say I have changed the way I eat. High Protein, low carb. That is not a lying.

[dreamingsmall 1,125]

I told my mum.

I already knew why I was doing this. I didnt need anyone's opinion. And when you tell people. They assume you want there advice. Good luck. Actions speak louder than words. When people see the weight dropping off and ask. I'll say. But happy I told no one before.

[Caligirl T 28]

I say the same thing which is" I completely changed my life I eat Proteins and no carbs...!!

But in reality I really did do this...I actively changed my eating habits, I always exercised, worked out...

my blood pressure was just too high so I opted for surgery, it went down to normal levels

a week after surgery and its been healthy ever since!

[TXgirl915 13]

8 hours ago, PepperCat said:

For those that didn't tell people. What did you say when the weight started dropping?

I just say Im watching my portions and do high Protein low carb, which isnt a lie lol

[NewShauna 49]

I was just sleeved on 8/10/17 and was just planning to say I made lifestyles changes to those that dont know but notice the weight loss[emoji6]

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[JoyandLight 42]

Some people think surgery is sooooo drastic. But now days they have such awesome technology that I think it would be silly to NOT have it. But sure as s**t as soon as you involve others they suddenly become Dr doggie howser lol. Ignore them and come here. I'm not telling many because I had a failed lap band and I could only imagine what they say about the Sleeve. Bottom line.... You do you girl. We're here for you

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Lol!!! Since my surgery I've met quite a few Doogie Howsers myself!!

[Dametris 110]

I've always been the "big girl" in the group but now that i have told my friends im getting surgery everybody is like oh you don't need it you're not even big.... i hate the fact that people always wanna tell me what i need and don't need. i swear i see myself cutting a lot of people off on my journey

It's difficult decision, I only told 4 people because I hate judgement so to prevent a "falling out" I kept my desicion a secret[emoji41] #NoOnesBusiness! If you allow their opinions to bother you it'll sabatoge your success, so don't allow the negative emotions inside of you or in your space[emoji7]

HW: 247 VSG:6/1/17 CW:203(9/4/17) GW:180[emoji41]

[waxylady 14]

I am glad I am not the only one who did not mention it to people. I told a few close friends and my immediate family members. They have tried to convince me that I do not need it but I am getting it done. I have some other family members that when I mentioned thinking about having the surgery they were so hurtful and disparaging that I quit talking about it to them. They have no idea in 13 days I am having the procedure