Relationship challenges after sleeve

[Corrie2016 29]

I am just wondering how your relationships were effected after getting the sleeve surgery with your significant other.

I am almost 5 weeks post op and have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. He has been super supportive through this entire process and extremely understanding. But I am afraid that all the changes will eventually take a toll on our relationship.

I was just wondering what other have experienced through their journey.

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[erp 2,016]

WLS had no impact on my relationship. We were together for years before surgery and are still together almost 4 years post op.

[_Kate_ 2,224]

My relationship hasn't changed at all, My husband has been very supportive even in weeks 4 and 5 when I was a bitch from hell (due to hormone changes). Once I was back on HRT I was fine, we were fine and still are.

[myounger 4]

The only change in our relationship is that I am much more comfortable with my body and I have a lot more energy

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[#BirdDog 604]

No changes in my relationship except now we can do more together.

[LittleBill 2,231]

My wife and I are much closer now. Mainly, that's because we've both lost weight. Seriously though, we have always had a good relationship through almost 33 years of marriage. Most other family members have been very supportive as well. Some of my friends have gotten a little squirrelly, but since they are more in the "good acquaintance" category more than close friend category, it doesn't really bother me. Most people who know about my surgery have been way more understanding than I had hoped or expected.

[livvsmum 2,368]

Wow, that's great that everyone's had such a good experience with their relationships! Good to know!

I unfortunately did not, and it blew me away! I never would have expected it, but on a subliminal level, my husband (of 18 years) was more comfortable with me not losing the weight because the process of me losing weight woke a lot of insecurities for that had no basis in reality. I also did a LOT of work on myself through 3 years of therapy to deal with the underlying issues that were causing me to eat away my feelings. Through that process I regained a lot of my personal power, and it wasn't something he was able to come to terms with.

It's a very loaded issue in an individual's life and within a marriage. Ultimately, my husband was not able to adapt to the thin, more empowered version of me. As a part of the process, I regained my personal agency and my personal power, which kind of threw off the dynamic of our marriage and he wasn't able to get on the same page with me.

I'm not at all trying to discourage you, it just is something worth being mindful of. In the end, you need to make the decision that you can live with in the end. It sounds to me like you want a life that you are actively living and you have every right to that life. :-)

Hopefully since you're so early on in your relationship you will both grow together.

[sk101 67]

Relationships will change.

What quite often happens is that the person losing weight will often become more self confident and unless you are in a very stable, loving relationship things can be difficult

On one of my pre op yo-yo diets I lost a lot of weight and my wife accused me of sleeping around. None of it was true but she became very insecure and after 30 years of being together I walked out.

That was a few years ago and I have since met someone who has supported me every step of the way. She is happy for me even though she didn't fully agree with the surgery. We are very strong together and it's magic.

Just be aware that things will change. Hopefully for the better. If not then maybe its time to move on