Divorce after WLS?

[B.Annie 290]

So many factors apply with this.
The marriage wasn't healthy anyway - at least not to both parties
Someone had a jealousy issue flare up
Someone wanted to sow their wild oats now that they were getting attention
Etc etc

If your marriage is committed and strong. If your honest and faithful. If you both CHOOSE to make it work, it'll work.

My husband told me the day I came home from surgery that he only hoped I wouldn't become "stick thin". He's really not attracted to thin girls who have thigh gaps. I told him I would continue to lose weight as long as it was healthy and of course we would keep communicating once I reached a goal we both agreed on, to see if we wanted me to lose more. We are a team and that's how we make the best couple for us. We agree and compromise. Then we reassess.


HW: 328 (02/21/17)
SW: 271 (05/24/17)
CW:

[njgal 535]

It's awesome that you have found your voice! I found mine when turning 40. I had always tried my best to keep others happy to my detriment. Good luck in your new journey!
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I'm giving myself this sleeve surgery as a 40th b'day gift so I feel a certain sense of kinship with you! As for how this will effect my relationship with hubby; I'm not worried. I share everything with him and he's been very supportive thus far.

[njgal 535]

We are a team and that's how we make the best couple for us. We agree and compromise.

That's key I think!

[Pam_2-06-2017 375]

I can see how this can happen. My neighbor had GBP while her marriage was in trouble. After the weight came off she partied and drank herself into a alcohol problems. Her husband stuck by her through it all and with therapy they are back to a happy place. She regrets her reaction to her success and is more thankful that at least one of them remained committed through the process.

I believe my marriage to be strong and very committed. But quite frankly it's important to stay diligent through this process.

[Sherry Rice 184]

I am 9 months post op and going through a dicorce. We would have been married for 10 years in September. After having surgery and loosing weight I gained some self confidence and my eyes were suddenly open to how emotionally abusive he was and to all the classic warning signs that he was cheating.

So sorry about your divorce, but happy that you will soon be open to a healthy, loving relationship with a man who deserves you!

[Mattymatt 491]

On 5/6/2016 at 7:07 PM, onehappychick said:

I am curious about the demise of marriages after WLS. I know as your body changes your mind does as well. I've read the statistics but would like to hear from my fellow sleevers.

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You have to be careful about what you read on the internet, this forum included. The internet can be a great place to spread stories that are just plain not true or one sided. There is also a lot of bad advice out there given by people whom have expert syndrome. Expert syndrome is people that believe they're authoritative based on their own experience and can give very harmful advice.

The one thing all of us can agree on is that WLS is a life changing experience. Weight loss and health improvements aside, we cannot predict the course of our lives.

[dcjway 2]

4 years post op and 106 pounds down, still happily married for 14 years. Some people forget where they came from and become an egotistical ass.