I just told my sister in law and mother in law about my decision to have gastric sleeve. I was so

Hurt when they were so negative. They went on and on about people they know who have gained all their weight back. They are both very large women. I've decided to never mention it to them again. It was just upsetting because I didn't see it coming. Thanks for letting me vent.

Wow, how hurtful! Honestly though, their reaction could be the fear that you will no longer fit into their "fat" club. It could come from insecurities of being left behind so to speak. I know this does not make it easier but I respond to people that I think are judging, that I plan on following the program and rocking my sleeve. Then you can say thanks for caring about me but I really going to do awesome. Then during your weak times just know they will not be soft place to land. I think there are very caring compassionate people I this forum. This is where I will land when or if I fall. I say Rock your sleeve and only focus on you! Good luck, I am one week away and soooo excited!

You can't control people or their thoughts. Your doing this for you and they can get happy in the same pants they got ugly with you in.

Thanks for the encouragement:). Good luck in your sleeve. !!

I completely agree with @because. They are scared you will get skinny which is where they want to be! Let it roll off of your back. You are choosing to be proactive and do something about your weight, which is more than what they are doing!

I think they are trying to justify their reasons for not doing anything about their weight. Don't let it get to you. You are doing what is best for YOU.

They sound more like mother & sister "out-laws".

i have not told any family but my mother and sister for that same reason. you were hoping for support and got criticized. Its a tricky thing. i told a neighbor who also had it done and got flak. Was very surprised. I learned just to keep it to myself unless absolutely necessary. Its my happy secret and my benefit.

Use their negative comments as an inspiration to be successful and prove them wrong!

Look on the bright side, at least you don't share any genetic information with them (no disrespect to your husband)!

Definitely know the feeling. Learned the hard way to just keep my mouth closed about my sleeve plans. Some ppl don't or won't understand and that's fine but I'm not gonna let it affect me too much. It's my life snd body so they can kick rocks

***hugs***

Wow.. How negative just say nothing and let your actions speak volumes.. I had some negativity but it's like everyone else is saying no longer in the fat club, we all want a much healthier life from the one we have at present.

Thanks everyone for the encouragement!!

I had the same from my step mother who is large she even went to extent of telling me I would die! Needless to say ih her I'm booked in for my op on 25th april cos don't need the negativity

Good luck to you!!!

Yep, I understand. I had a band in for about 5 years and lost all up 17 kgs. I did not tell my family as I was embarrassed (rightly or wrongly). But just before Christmas last year it slipped and had to be removed urgently and I needed my mum to look after my children. After I told my mum, who has been 'dieting' every day of my life, turned around and said, "Well it obviously didn't work did it?"

I am now considering the sleeve as I have regained about 10 kgs (although the Dr did say some of that would be fluids as I had not even kept Water down for ages). I will not be telling her! I already feel like a failure, I don't need her help.

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