You know, I read a lot about how the divorce rate is high after one spouse has bariatric surgery. I can totally see that now. I have fought with my husband for 3 days straight now and am thinking about filing for divorce. He never wants to talk to me, he purposely does things and finds ways to avoid me and is being just downright selfish.

At this point, I don't even want to be in the same room with him. Anyone else going through this?

I am only 3 1/2 weeks out, so it's not that I've lost a ton of weight and feel like I can do better or something like that, my husband is literally avoiding me. I feel a divorce is on the horizon.

Thank you everyone for your feedback & for the record, we weren't arguing via text.????

I clearly was having some serious hormonal mood swings. Partly due to the changes that are going on internally and mentally due to WLS, but also I am attributing it to starting my cycle the next day. Hormones surging like crazy. That documentary is super addictive and now that he's done with it, he's returned to his normal self and now that my hormones are a bit more regulated, I'm my normal "not crazy" self.

Oh how I wish these posts could be erased because it's humorous how nuts I sound at times ????????

I am terribly sorry you are going through this difficulty with him! I lost my husband a little over a year ago to pancreatic cancer. I would give the world to have him back! I would really encourage you to seek counseling before you file for divorce.

Edited January 25, 201610 yr by acherishedbear

@@jembell01 You can look back on these posts later and laugh about how crazy you were at first. It's all good. We all lose our minds every once in a while. Glad you got it figured out!!

Your thinking about filling for divorce after three days of fighting. Don't throw in the towel just because he is not feeling the same way you are. obviously your emotion are getting you due to your unleveled hormones. What ever happen to the vows you made to him on your wedding day if you got. Did you ever think about the fact that he might be stressed out for some reason and he just wants to talk and does not know how to because he is a man. Put he's ass on a pedestal and his attitude will change. I am saying this from experience I had the same issue with my husband for weeks. But I decided to put his needs first and make him feel like the king he is to me. He eventually told me that he was afraid that I was going to leave him after I lost all my weight and find someone better than him. Marriage is hard but if you find a way to make it work than go for it don't just throw in the towel. Communication is the key to a successful marriage. Show him respect and he will show you love.