jembell01

I've been in a stall for a while now too. It's my own undoing though. I have been eating like crap, drinking wine like it's going out of style...so it's my fault. I have been okay at my current weight because I'm getting compliments, I'm comfortable in clothes now, and even enjoy shopping, BUT I don't want to be done losing weight. This morning I woke up, ate a healthy breakfast, went to the gym, and started a squat challenge with a friend of mine. I wish you the best getting through your stall and think what Dub said is great advice. Lift weights if you are able.

Paperwork was submitted to Aetna on Friday! Anxiously awaiting the approval! Have a surgery date, but obviously I have to have the insurance approval ????

I had surgery on 12/29 & have lost 29 lbs. I stalled for over a 1 1/2 weeks during my period too and after that, I dropped about 7 additional pounds that following week. It's coming off slow, but it's coming off. It took me a long time to gain the weight, so I would rather it all come off over a few months instead of drop 80 lbs in like 3-4. Hopefully it's giving my skin the time it needs to "snap back" & not being as much of a shock to my body. It will happen. Give yourself some time ????

Totally having the same issue here. I drank a premier protein this morning though and it went right through me, clearing my blockage...sorry TMI ????

I'm actually eating a tiny cup of chicken salad; tiny chopped chicken, mayo, tiny chopped peppers and celery and my stomach is making the most god awful noises...I'm in the office and very scared where this might lead.... I hope you feel better soon. I am 5 weeks out and my nutritionist told me that I might do great with eggs one day and the next might be horrible. We have temperamental stomachs now unfortunately

You know, I read a lot about how the divorce rate is high after one spouse has bariatric surgery. I can totally see that now. I have fought with my husband for 3 days straight now and am thinking about filing for divorce. He never wants to talk to me, he purposely does things and finds ways to avoid me and is being just downright selfish. At this point, I don't even want to be in the same room with him. Anyone else going through this? I am only 3 1/2 weeks out, so it's not that I've lost a ton of weight and feel like I can do better or something like that, my husband is literally avoiding me. I feel a divorce is on the horizon.

I'm officially 1 month out today from surgery. I don't have cravings anymore and even though I see certain things and want to eat them, like when I cook something especially good for the family, I know I can't have them right now. I can still only eat about an ounce or 2 of solids and can consume an 11 oz Premier Protein over about an 1 1/2 hour period. Things definitely DON'T taste like they did before and I can be around other people eating and not even be tempted, which is funny. Hopefully things get better, but I'd be totally ok if I never craved food again LOL

Thank you everyone for your feedback & for the record, we weren't arguing via text.???? I clearly was having some serious hormonal mood swings. Partly due to the changes that are going on internally and mentally due to WLS, but also I am attributing it to starting my cycle the next day. Hormones surging like crazy. That documentary is super addictive and now that he's done with it, he's returned to his normal self and now that my hormones are a bit more regulated, I'm my normal "not crazy" self. Oh how I wish these posts could be erased because it's humorous how nuts I sound at times ????????

You guys are probably right. I've been ultra sensitive this week. I haven't really considered how he might be feeling. I want to jump into a huge margarita and bowl or chips and salsa and eat/drink it all ???? It's so hard to figure out what to do with these emotions...

Thank you for your reply. He is usually really great, most of the time, but recently he has been so insensitive. I actually just got sick a moment ago (eggs came back up) and was throwing up. I texted him, (he was in the living room) & told him I was getting really nauseous and thought I was going to throw up. He just texted me back "no". I'm throwing up, crying, go into the kitchen to get nausea meds and he was like "are you ok"? Clearly I'm not. I'm crying, throwing up and guess where he still is...you got it, watching that series. I pretty much hate him right now ????

That's so awesome! I've got 20 lbs more before I hit 50lbs down! Keep going!!

It really helps to be able to just vent here and get impartial advice. It is extremely hard to tell him what I need because when I do, he gets defensive, tells me I'm just trying to make him feel bad, & accuses me of bitching and complaining. I never raise my voice at him and try to be careful about how I word things. I've been very sick the last few days and staying in bed most of the time, working from home, so I've had no adult interaction. I was feeling so much better this morning and texted him that I would like to be able to wear real clothes, put on some makeup, & maybe go to a movie. He said sure and then when he got home, he got on Netflix, started watching Making a Murderer and when I asked him about the movie, ( I was dressed and had done my hair and makeup, which I haven't done in a week) he said he wanted to finish the series. Mind you, the episodes are an hour long & he had 5 episodes left. At this point, it was 5 pm, so there was no chance of my movie date. I didn't say a word, I just put my pajamas and went to bed. I got up at 6:30, went into the living room, he is still watching the series and I just started crying. He got so mad and said he was tired of feeling like the bad guy, blah blah blah. I just cried more and am now back in bed. That's pretty much the long and short of it. He was super sensitive and treated me great the first week after surgery, while my Mom was here and now he doesn't even act like he cares about how I'm feeling. I hope it gets better, but I definitely can't keep begging my husband for attention. ????

@@JamieLogical He has been pretty supportive the entire time and never eats in bed, so I'm not even sure why he did it. He did apologize, but I'm still kind of burned by it this morning.

Holy crap! I have been an emotional mess the last 2 days...broke down crying at least 3 times yesterday and then to top it off, I'm in bed and my husband comes in the room(after we had a talk about how much I miss food) & eats his bacon cheeseburger toaster and tator tots beside me. I lost it and boo hooed....he got mad and yelled at me which made me cry even more. He ate in the kitchen, and then came back in to see if he could help me. I just basically sniffles myself to sleep.

Had surgery on 12/29 & have 3 trips scheduled so far for 2016. Spring Break we are taking the kids to Austin and San Antonio for a fun/but historical week vacation. Then going back to South Texas with my son for his 7th grade trip in April. The icing on the cake is a trip I am planning to the Dominican Republic for my husbands birthday in June. I am excited about hopefully being able to walk and be active without my feet, knees, & hips hurting. My goal is being able to wear a cute shorts romper. I haven't worn shorts in forever ????

It's been 3 weeks since surgery and I am having real food for the first time in a month! I grilled a piece of salmon and am 4 tiny bites in and think I might actually be full. I'm not sure though. I'm so used to eating so much that I'm miserable and clearly full, but not sure how to know if I'm full. Any advice?

I think you had a bad reaction to the fish possibly because you grilled, and didn't bake. I got pre marinated tilapia, and bake it covered so the juices stayed in the fish. That way, when I ate it - it was very soft and very most. I had a really easy time on my tummy and it was the 2nd solid food I've eating since surgery. Also, I cut the portion in half, before even putting it on my plate, and shared a few bites with my baby girls so I would only eat 2oz. My problem has always been portion control and fast eating. I tried tuna and light mayo also, and that was a little too hard for me, but I was able to get almost half a can down and I didn't feel sick afterwards, it was just more uncomfortable going down than the baked fish.

Well, I was okay, but woke up a bit ago extremely nauseous and feel like I'm either going to puke or have the poos. I'm miserable. Maybe fish was not the best thing to have 1st. Now I am scared to eat solids ???? What would be better and milder to try? Fish was on the list, but clearly I shouldn't have eaten that...I hate feeling like I'm going to throw up ????????

This has nothing to do with my surgery, but I just needed to vent and I have no one else to talk to... My husband has been picking fights with me all day today. It was my first week back at work and I was just looking forward to enjoying the weekend with him and the kids. He blew up on me because I asked him why he's picking fights with me. Now I'm just sitting here crying and normally I would go take some food into the room and watch a movie alone or something, but I can't do that. I'm just kind of ????????... We don't fight much at all and this week has been so great & even earlier today was awesome with him so I don't know what's going on...just sad.

Thanks Josey. It's just so unlike him to do this and so out of the blue. I made plans for our family to go to a private concert at a friends house. When I told my husband about the plans earlier this week, he did NOT want to go..at all. Turns out I can't go now because our son has a band clinic all weekend and I have to be here to take him and pick him up. The concert is an overnight stay, 2 hours away from here. Now all of the sudden my husband wants to go, but by himself. He started picking at me saying "wonder what I should wear",etc. I asked him if he was really going to go without us. He acted like I was trying to control him and never let him do anything. I'm just confused because he was mad because he didn't want to go in the first place, but now that me and the kids can't go, he HAS to go. Now I'm getting mad as I type this out ????

Thats a good suggestion. It would be good daddy/kiddo time ☺️

I'm 3 1/2 weeks on liquids, including the preop liquid diet & Im starting to lose it I think. I have 5 more days on liquids & then I Transition to soft solids. I've really done pretty good so far. Cooking for my family and then having my broth or protein shake or 4-5 oz of soup with no lumps, bumps, or chunks. Tonight I feel like I'm losing it...my husband ordered two large pizzas for him and the kiddos & they smell and look SO good. I got a little snippy and was like....I'm so tired of liquids! I want to CHEW something. Holy crap! This is hard. As I write this my husband is on his 5th piece!!! I'm sipping green pea soup. God, please let me get through this without hurting someone ????

Thanks for the encouragement. It is really tough. I've been okay so far but the pizza really killed me tonight. I felt angry and was kind of having a pity party. I kind of giggled though when my husband over ate and was miserable. I have totally been there but NO more ????

I didn't try it. I know better lolThe sheer smell of the pizza was enough make me give it a thought or two though. It was my favorite pizza. Husband are the entire large(he feels like total crap now) & I'm sitting over here feeling like I conquered a huge war. I completely forgot about my sugar free Popsicles!!! Hallelujah for small blessings ????

I am on liquids for 3 weeks and I'm going into my 3rd week. I've been able to drink pretty decently this week, but I still am pretty careful. I "eat" liquid, no chunk soups but I have to be careful how quickly I eat those. I can only have about 5-6 oz of soup at a time before I feel full. The fullness isn't uncomfortable, it's just a feeling of, "that's all I really want". I'm excited, but nervous about moving to soft solids next week. That's when the true test of how much my sleeve can hold. I will probably take it VERY easy. ????