I've been pretty depressed....to be honest.

I felt SO SO SO good last week. Then Friday I had some discomfort in my side and hit a fever of 101.8. I assumed I just overdid it working so much with my business partner out bc her mom passed and the husband was in ATL so I was also flying solo with both kids.

By Saturday I went to port orange for an inspection for My partner and my fever was up to 102.9 when I got some so I took a nap and then went back out to show property to a buyer (bad idea!)? When I got home it was back up to 102.8 and I was having discomfort in my left side and shortness of breath.

Sunday I stayed in bed all day taking Tylenol hoping I just needed rest. By Monday i knew I hadn't declined this much in this little time unless something was wrong,

I called the surgeon and when I got here he had ct orders and blood work written out stat for me with the complication insurance paying it all. As soon as I finished I went upstairs. He asked me to bring whoever I had with me in I thought...oh shit! Told me I had an infected abcess on my diaphragm-about 7cm wide.. They would put me under local anesthesia to put a drain in and they are checking for a leak again 1 more time even though first time looked like no leak.

Anesthesia didn't work on drain insertion I cried like a bitch I felt like I was in some creepy Drs lab I've never met and he Kept telling me to keep quiet and lay still.

Then came 2nd leak test. Radiology told me immediately there's was none and then dr Marema said I'd be going to the or for a stent. He's really been so nice the whole time. Then leak test #2 radiology says is good. Oh but wait here comes Dr M again with stent surgeon to say placement isn't ideal and in going back to OR yet again for a 2nd stent. In the middle of that infectious disease dr shows up to say my abcess is staff infection!!!!! So I'll be going home in a few days with a PIC line and 3 weeks of antibiotic ivs......that's the long of it.

I've had a procedure and 2 surgeries since Monday---doc said I'm the poster child for everything that can go wrong. Although he usually only sees in 1sy week

I just want to go home to my babies....as their healthy mom! ????

@@amandasue - how are you doing?

I'm in bariatric hell. Stuck at my parents taking care of me because I have a toddler and infant at home my husband is caring for. Can't work. Having to liquidate assets for care I was self pay). Parents are starting to resent me being here and having to play caregiver. I would never do this again....I want my life and babies back! 4 more weeks to go....

@@amandasue, I'm so sorry this happened to you. You're feeling down and who can blame you? You miss your babies and your husband and feeling well. You feel guility because you made this decision that is now inconveniencing everyone around you and costing more than you'd bargained for.

Just remember, you had surgery so you can be healthy long-term for your children and your husband. And you will be. You will heal, and you will get on with your life. And your life will be much, much healthier because of all this.

I am so so sorry for all that you are dealing with. And I know it can make you feel extremely lonely because no one has control of this except you, God and the Dr.s

Your surgery date says December 2015, one year go. Is that correct? You began this complication one year later? Did staple or suture open up, or perhaps in that entire year was never closed properly?

Did they do leak tests any time after the one time you had surgery? Like, a few months out?

Did you have a Lap Band before or was this any kind of revision?

When you have the energy I'd love to know, that way it helps all of us understand more if we know more, you might find someone who went through the exact thing.


Years ago my ex had an RNY and for two years the poor man was in and out of the hospital. Nothing he did. He just had blood clotting issues, and it was a risk for him going in.

Dec 15 is only 1 month ago. If surgery at beginning of month then max 2 months post op st this stage.

Dec 15 is only 1 month ago. If surgery at beginning of month then max 2 months post op st this stage.

Thank you Cathy,

*bonks myself on the head*

Anyone else suffer this amount of complications? Any tips in coping?

Yes. Search nprcowboy..... he went through the ringer, and is still positive.

I am so sorry for all you have endured! I pray for a full recovery and long and healthy life.

At this time I am feeling very fortunate after reading your story. The doctor I went to turned me down for a sleeve, I was so disappointed. I will be getting the balloon in February, this is all he said he could do for me. I am self pay and he said I am high financial risk and could be out hundreds of thousands of dollars if things went bad. I am high risk also because of previous open abdominal surgery, for too much scar tissue. Although I was very sad, I appreciated his honesty and not just going ahead for the money. I could go to someone else and try, but he is a reputable doctor and I am taking his warning and advise and will just do the balloon.

((( HUGS ))))