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I have bean lurking here for a while. I am waiting on my insurance for approval at this point. My surgery will be in mid November or early December. My kids will be 4.5 and 1 year. My youngest is pretty attached to me and we still nurse. I am nervous about the recovery and taking care of the kids afterwards. I am also concerned I won't be able to dedicate the time required to take care of myself to help me succeed. Am I crazy for thinking I can do this at this time? Has anyone bean in the same situation and can offer advice?

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I have a 3 year old and 5 year old. Within a few days you will be fine for playing and snuggling. Not lifting for about a month. 6 weeks later my stamina is just returning. Do you have help? Would you be alone with them all day? It is much harder to plan and eat healthily taking care of kids so young. I am finding though that I buy and cook more healthy foods now which is a huge benefit for my kids.

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My husband will be home with me for the 1st week. Then my mom and sister will be around to help out. The ability to be more active with my kids is a big reason for me having the surgery, but at the same time they need me now. I guess when you have little kids there is no perfect time.

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Active with kids was big reason for me too. I threw out my back the week after surgery. I wasn't feeling "fine" for a few weeks but I think you will be surprised at how quickly you will be in the swing of things.

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Huh. My youngest two are 4 and a half and 1 as well. They did great. I needed help with my little guy getting in and out of the high chair and crib. The rest can be worked around, especially with help. You're not crazy for doing this and it will be fine. It did take me 6-8 weeks to get my stamina back. It's worth it in the long run because everything in my life is better now. I'll be four months tomorrow. You'll be so glad you did it. You'll need to start weening now though, so you're not still having that struggle on e you're feeling bad and sore. That may be really frustrating for both you and your baby. Good luck. Giving up nursing was hard for me, but necessary and worth it.

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Thanks for the positive words! I know everyone will benefit from me being healthier, but it's hard to put yourself first when your mom. I think it's time to start though :)

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