I'm 27 6ft 345lbs and getting the procedure done march 25 and still haven't told ANYONE about it. i feel like I'm cheating my way into losing weight. i honestly don't plan on telling anyone and just say I'm on a "Diet"

Like plenty of people on here, i don't plan on spending my 30's like my 20's.

I didnt tell anyone that doesnt need to know. My kids, parents and four of my besties know. I was out for 2 months and people have even forgotten I was out that long lol. When co-workers ask me now about me losing weight... I just say I make better food and drink choices and work out.

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I've told my parents, boyfriend, three close friends and my boss and that was simply because I need time off of work. I'm a pretty private person and I prefer to only give notice to the people I care about (and that those that can affect my livelihood lol).

In the future, post surgery and in the midst of weight loss, I have no idea whether I'll be 100% truthful and reveal that I had surgery or mostly truthful and say I worked very hard.

A secret- 5th year in running & what a secret has it been,,known only to 2ex co-workers & 1 best friend,,,, The best decisiin ever in a judgey society that we Indians live in

I, of course told my husband. I also told my mom (not my dad). I told one of my three sisters. Only because I need her to come help me. I didn't tell my dad because he would be all panicked. I'm panicked enough as it is. As for anyone else, I don't care to hear what they think.

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I'm just getting started on my journey. Hoping to have surgery in September. I am not a very private person.
I've struggled with my weight literally since birth. Always "off the charts". So every person I know, knows that I've been trying to lose weight for years.
This time around, I've turned into one of those annoying girls who posts daily meal and exercise recaps on Facebook. The amount of support I'm getting from friends and family is unbelievable. Personally, I feel like this is a good way to hold myself accountable to this 1200 calorie diet and exercise program my surgeon put me on. If I slack off, everyone will know. So, I'm using that as motivation to stick with it.
Everyone's different though, so I can totally see why you would WANT to keep it a secret.
I've just been fat for too long to allow myself to fail again.

I don't work, so I am telling everyone. But if I still was at my last job, I wouldn't have mentioned it to my coworkers.

I've told my grandma (she has been the most supportive because she had gastric 15+ years ago and has always wanted me to have wls but I was stuck in the mindset that it was the "easy" way out. Only after doing lots of research and looking at forums/instagram pages did I realize how ignorant I was), my mom (she will be watch my youngest daughter while I'm in Mexico), my oldest daughter, my sisters (who really don't care and aren't very supportive), my best friend (she had it done in Sept), my dad, and another friend knows. I may be telling my supervisor after just in case the "is she on drugs" convo comes up she already knows the reason and won't suspect anything else (she's super supportive so I know it won't be an issue telling her and I know she won't tell anybody else unlike my last supervisor). Other than that I don't plan on telling anybody else... I have an insta for surgery but haven't posted because I'm not sure I want to put myself out there like that and someone find the page that knows me but on the other hand the wls community is super supportive and I'd love to meet new friends so I'm still debating on what to do.

My dad knows and a friend. Honestly I don't want anyone else to know. In the last 2 years I've cut a lot of people out of my life because they made me feel horrible about myself. Now I'm trying to cut out the part of me I make myself feel horrible about. I feel like it's a long term cleansing process that I don't want anyone messing with.

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I have only told one person, besides my parents, and she is my best friend. She conveniently had the surgery last summer, so she's been helping me with the process. Honestly, I don't see myself telling many people if I am able to go through with the surgery. That doesn't take away from my excitement, though! If you're starting to feel overwhelmed, I would advise you to tell someone you really trust. Everyone needs an outlet at some point.

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I think everyone should tell at least one person. Personally I have told everyone, because it's an important step towards my future. Not just for weight loss but for my health in general. I have had people be supportive, some try to talk me out if it and others just down right negative saying it's a cheaters way to get skinny. But in the end, I think the most important thing is to know that if you are going though it, then you have decided that it is the best option for you and the people who truly care for you will support your decision [emoji4]

I am 21. I have tried so many weight loss options and I know for me, and the people around me that if I told anyone,any weight loss I have from then on will be 'because of the surgery' and not because I worked my ass off for it. So I have chosen to tell my mom, dad, and sister and let that be it. I need this to be a positive experience, and I don't want anything or anybody making me feel negative about it

I was just about to post this topic! Yes I have and when people accidentally tell someone else it pisses me off. I just feel like this type of thing is something where it's your time to do what's best for you. If you don't want to share your weight loss surgery I feel like you don't have too. People are so obsessed with worrying about other people they can't worry about themselves.

The only people I told was my mom my 2 sisters 1 of my brothers and my (now ex bf) which was a mistake [emoji849]....I didn't even tell my dad cause I know he would try to talk me out of it lol.....but my mom is super supportive as well as my sisters and brother....my sister is a personal trainer and she has helped me lose weight here and there but when I hit my mark where the weight wasn't coming off as easy as it was I was just so depressed and she saw that and I just stopped going to the gym as much and gave up on my meal prepping and so on...but she is super excited for me and super supportive of my decision which I'm grateful for. My other sister and mom can't wait as well! Their like I'm gonna go on a diet with u so u won't have to do it alone which I think is aawesome! My brothers exciting too for me but I didn't tell my other brother cause I know he would have something smart to say so I just didn't even bother and as for my ex he was excited in the beginning but then he started questioning my loyalty to him after I have surgery I'm like wth really? And then he started talking crap like oh I'm not going to be able to do it...so I was like take you and your negative ass on[emoji1365].....but will I tell my other family members like aunts and uncles and cousins? Yea eventually when I get to my weight goal! So my thing is dont let negativity get in the way and it's really nobodies business what you get done to yourself. It's our bodies and our life! [emoji173]️

I had a lot of resistance to sharing my decision to have VSG early on. I started researching the procedure in January, when only my mom knew. Then as things got more serious I filled in Dad, Sister, and brother in law. Thankfully they've all been incredibly supportive. Most of the negative reactions, or at least the ones I interpret as negative, have been people's own reaction to the news. I kind of assume I don't "look like" the kind of person who would get this kind of procedure because of my age (25) and body type (tall with weight around the hips, but evenly distributed).

I agree with the other commenters that you have to decide what you're comfortable doing, but especially now that I have a surgery date I'm excited about this change and couldn't care less what anyone else feels about it.