Only a few close people to me know that I'm planning to have this surgey, my husband, parents, sister, my boss and one close friend at work. Well the rumors have started at work with a few people because I've had so many dr appts and have cut out caffeine. They think I'm pregnant! I have 2 wonderful kids but I waited until I was done having kids to start the process for surgery. I have my clearance appt next week and looking at a February surgery date.

Problem is there boss so I really didn't want to talk about it too much at work but I also don't want people to think I'm pregnant.

Any advice? Anyone in a management position and how to deal with it and your staff?

Nobody's business. Tell them hernia repair surgery which you may have anyways. Hiatal hernia. The diet you are on is still needed to shrink your liver to make surgery easier.

Then diet afterwards as your doctor and nutritionist told you to. Which is also true

Omg!!! My heart fell when I read u feel like a snake about it how awful pls don't feel that way u owe these ppl no explanations about your personal health decisions telling them will likely only fuel gossip and unwanted comments causing u stress at a time u least need such nonsense now of course ppl will talk regardless about something or someone and if they do it afterward they will only look and sound like the jealous donkeys they are acting like remember this is not easy as some ppl like to say I've told a few ppl that if they think it's so easy they should try it and then we can talk about why they think it's so easy until then they should keep their opinions to themselves and shut the f**k up!!!

As a retired supervisor of federal employees, I would have said.........My health is not up for discussion. Now get back to work.

If they don't share their medical history with you don't share yours with them! Just tell them I am doing me, now you do you!

Thanks all and I'm sorry for hijacking the original posters post.

My last diet doc is in February. So I haven't had anyone say anything YET. Except a few people who told me to "live a little! It's Christmas!"

My next weigh in is this Wednesday. EEEK Christmas Cookies, sure enough, crept in a little. AND I'm bloated because of my dear monthly visitor.

Maybe I'm anticipating too much criticism from work peeps. Generally, I'm the office pep-talker and I don't have any enemies at all. I just work with a bunch of 20 something's (I'm 29), and they are all so--invincible in their youth or something. I swear I went from 21 to 35 somehow. Lol.

I'm really mostly worried about my I -laws. I feel like I just don't have to tell anyone at work except my supervisor who is great, but IS kind of gossipy but she sort of has to be.

I figure, I might as well not tell Anyone at all til I know I'm approved and it's scheduled. By then, there won't be time for talking about the (thousands) of alternatives everyone thinks will work if I just "try really hard" and "put my mind to it"

But seriously--last thing--I'm practicing everything now so it's not such an adjustment. And omg, not drinking for 30 minutes before and after meals--hardest thing ever. I gave up cigarettes AND caffiene way easier lol.

I hope everyone has a great day! We got super super snowed in and iced over today--so my cardio will be a breeze--I just have to shovel lol.

For the millionth time, I truly do not understand why people feel *compelled* to tell their entire extended families about their WLS.

If you're truly someone who doesn't give a flying F**K what others think, then go for it. You're just that kind of person and no one's comments or behavior will bother you.

But if you're worried that family members' comments and behavior are going to aggravate and irritate you and bring you down during your weight loss and maintenance journey, then don't tell them.

As an exercise, make a long list of all the other stuff you don't feel compelled to tell all your relatives. Do you really feel like not telling them those things is "dishonest" -- or are those things simply none of your relatives' business?

Know your own needs and your relatives' shortcomings. And respect them.

Edited January 6, 201511 yr by VSGAnn2014

I told a select few before I had the surgery and then 3 weeks after I told the world via Facebook. I didn't care what they thought at that point and really I only got one negative comment back to me. I didn't have any reason to hide it. I figure I could have helped ONE person I know in their journey to lose or even just to give confidence to admit something that may not be the "IDEAL" choice for most. I feel a billion times better after telling everyone. I am a stay at home mom though so workwise I have no help

You're right ann, I agree. Which is why I have opted not to tell anyone anything lol. My body, my health, my reasons.

I'm hoping I can skate by my supervisor with a "stomach surgery" or something discreet when I ask for time off.

Otherwise--I just don't feel like it. I feel like people will get worried about me and my shrinking, but I'll deal with that as it comes lol

I just made an almost identical post to yours yesterday about drama in the workplace because I want my business private. I hear from some that everyone thinks I'm pregnant but no one will ask (even if I am ok) . All they care about is how long I will be on desk duty. Frankly it's a joy to me ( now) that I know and they do not have the privilege.

Loll... The curiosity killed the cat

Let them assume things.... You be certain on the fact that you NOT PREGNANT, that's about it.

When are you getting sleeved?

Well, the first thing you should do really is determine what your company policy is around workplace gossip and rumors? It could be viewed as creating a hostile work environment, which is never fun for anyone. Contact your local HR rep. and explain the situation to them and listen to what they have to say, as a manager, I love getting sound advice from my HR rep.

I was also going to suggest speaking to the HR rep.

Have a baby shower and get some gifts

Lol, that sounds like a great idea.

Although, I'm afraid they're going to think I'm on drugs once I start losing. I fear they'll stage an intervention lol