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Rotten Year losing my husband suddenly in May. His birthday tomorrow... Mine next week. Not feeling it????????. Just want it to be 2015. Sorry to be a negative nancy ...

I just want to hide til after the new year????????

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I am so sorry for your loss hun❤

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Don't worry about how you are feeling. I'm also a widow and I can tell you it takes a long time before holidays, birthdays, and other important dates are not as painful as it is for you right now. You are very fragile at the moment so treat yourself as kindly as possible and don't worry about anything, or anyone other than yourself. Please also think about talking to a therapist or going to a support group. It helped me alot. Take care of yourself don't hesitate to PM me if you need to.

Liz

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Thank you for your kind words???? kinda like I have to go through the fire to start the NewYear. Mourning what could and should have been

Not turning to food to cope thankfully????. Thanks WLS friends

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I'm related to the Grinch family myself! It is not an easy time of year.

I am sorry for your loss and heartache. Early Happy Birthday

???????????? to you and hope for gentler days ahead.

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Oh Julie, I'm so sorry -- sending healing wishes your way. It is great that you are not tamping down feelngs wth food and that you're staying present. I'm so glad you're here on the forum.

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I'm sorry, Julie. Hard time of year missing loved ones.

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@@Julie norton {{{hugs}}}} xoxoxoxoxox all those fluffy things headed your way extra extra today!!!

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Thank you for help during this crappy day. Spread some ashes at the family home. You all HELPED. I appreciate it. It is not something I chat about except to my counselor. And you guys❤️????

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????three days later and some better. Now I need to jump over BDay and Xmas and get on to next year

. Sigh. The tree looks pretty at night????.

I am thankful for all your supportive comments. They mean a lot to me????

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Losing loved ones are never easy especially this time of year. But you need to honor their memory by moving forward and know they would be proud of you! It's okay to have sad moments but make some good moments in 2015! ????????

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It's not only OK to be sad, hon, but it is completely appropriate. Go ahead and cry as much as you need. This loss is immense, and you are blessedly human.

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Happy to see others joyful.

Rotten Year losing my husband suddenly in May. His birthday tomorrow... Mine next week. Not feeling it????????. Just want it to be 2015. Sorry to be a negative nancy ...

I just want to hide til after the new year????????

I am so sorry for your loss. :( You are in my thoughts.

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