Hating that I told my friends from college

[blondie27 6]

@@619Raf definitely only family u will be grateful

[indygirl49 3]

Thanks Blondie27 its your mom. You look amazing. Keep up the good work . You look amazing. You know some people don't like to see others do well. You just continue to pray for them.

[blondie27 6]

@indygirl94 thxxx boo....

[indygirl49 3]

Always with Love. Mom

[blondie27 6]

@@indygirl49 u on your way!!!! Get ready

[indygirl49 3]

Yes Blondie I'm on my way and looking forward to a second chance to become healthy. Thanks for the support.

[blondie27 6]

@indygirl94 yessss you got it boo

[Banded in Bear Lake 8]

That is why I did not tell anyone.. People love to hate....

[blondie27 6]

@bandedinbearlake exactly

[Pat-rice 30]

I feel the same way as all of you. People do judge you and say you are taking the easy way out. I would like them to explain to me what is so easy about this. We still have to make good choices and that is very hard to do. I told only my closest family members. Now others are asking them how I am loosing so much weight and they want to know how to respond to them. I told them to respond with the fact that I'm making healthy choices, eating less and moving more. It is the truth. The band is only a tool to help us stay in check. We are still accountable for what we put in our mouths

[funky_monkey800 245]

Only my husband knows.....for some reason it seemed like if I told anyone it would be exactly the way you are talking about...the competition....and for some reason, I feel somewhat ashamed by the fact that eating was one thing I never had any control over.....when people ask what I have been doing, I tell the truth. Eating smaller, healthier portions and workin out. After all no one has came out and asked if I have had any surgery. So it's not like I am being untruthful....I just left out the part that I felt they didn't need to know..

[melissa160 5]

I've told most everyone, not interested in keeping it secret. Yes, plenty of folks had negative or scary things to say but my resolve was much too great. I also noticed some people are now dieting as well but I welcome that. I am happy if I've inspired people to try to be healthier, it's not a competition, I truly hope that have long term success. The only person I am trying to be better than is me from yesterday.

[Grateful_Love 114]

My husband knows, and one friend, who is supposed to be doing it with me but gained in her supervised weigh-ins, so will def take longer/may flake on the idea all together.

Now I'm approved. I have to talk to work about time off so I can schedule and I'm going to be as vague as possible about that.

My problem is that a close friend (a bridesmaid in my wedding type close--super close) recently started a job in my office. She will see that I'm off for x amount of days and ask why and I don't know what I'll say to her, honestly.

The reason I haven't told her anything already is because one time when I was in the very beginning, I told her I had thought about surgery and she immediately shot me down and said "you don't need that, that's for people like 150 plus over weight" (which I am).

Since that encounter, I decided not to utter one single peep to her and I haven't--but now I'll have to tell her something.

Ugh.

I haven't even told my mom or my dad! Literally--just my husband and my friend (who I'm now paranoid will let it slip to some mutual friend and blahhhhhh, I hate this.)

I wish I COULD be honest with everyone. I just do not have the time, nor the energy, to defend something that I've already made my mind up about.

This should not be this hard!!

[blondie27 6]

@@Grateful_Love I would say u getting something else like hernia or something U will regret sharing it 2 anyyyyyy negative person trust me. ...

[Grateful_Love 114]

Blondie--that's the plan. I've been great and stealthy for the last 6 months so I'm sure I can keep it together for another 6 at least.

I'm not worried about work so much. A lady on here (hi shiz!) gave me the full rundown on HIPPA so I could literally say I'm having brain surgery and they can't pull the documents without a court order. So I'll say an ulcer/hernia and that will be that for work.

I do kinda feel a little bad for not telling my close friend who's going to be working in my office tho. But..you know what? None of her business, really. And if I thought she'd be supportive I would have kept talking the first time I mentioned it to her.

Such as life I guess.