Surgery is in 2 days and my husband decided that he wanted to announce that he was going to leave me last night. He warned me months and months ago that if I decided to get this surgery and "get skinny" that he would "no longer be attracted to (me) " and we would end up getting a divorce but he always made it sound like a joke! I am shocked and irritated all at the same time. He had seemed so supportive to me during the pre op diet and held my hand through the 40 pound weight loss thus far...... Has anyone here lost a spouse due to the decision to go thru with the WLS? I know what people are going to say that there has to be more to it and you are probably right, there probably is but he has announced this as the reason. I have been wondering for the last few days if I am making the right decision to have WLS and now I am even more scared to go thru with it.... Just needed to vent, where in the world is that ' rant section' anyway???

You need to watch Zsalynn from "My 600 Pound Life" and possibly even contact her through Facebook. She went through and is still going through the same situation/relationship.

Edited September 28, 201411 yr by krisrpaz

Thank you everyone for the feed back, I will be thinking about all this as I am going in for surgery tomorrow. I have decided to go ahead and follow through with the surgery seeing how I feel so much better being 44 lbs lighter already.... Not going to lie, I am scared as hell and still feel extremely guilty, but I am hoping those feelings will fade away after I wake up in recovery tomorrow afternoon!

I am too @Idahospud. Tomorrow is the last little final touches. Pajama party tonight. Finding liquid vitamins was hard but I pick them up tomorrow. Doing all my housework.. cleaning my car out. Just everything to keep busy. I promised to shut off my eletronics tomorrow night and have a little me time before surgery

♡♡ self love♡♡

VERY good news, Idaho.

I send you my best wishes for a great surgery, easy recovery and peace.

Glad you're going ahead with the surgery! Post after you're done and let us know how it went!

best of luck tomorrow. we are all here for you. take care!

Please let us know how surgery goes!!

As a guy, I'm horrified by the ultimatum you were given! My guess is that he'll change his mind, at least for a while, when he realizes that you had the guts to do this. Maybe that will give you the time you need to get back on your feet as the new stronger you. I wish you the very best for your surgery and in the weeks and months ahead. It's a wonderful journey you're embarking on. Congratulations on being strong enough to go through with it! Please post back to this thread on the other side so we'll all get notified of how you're doing. You have a very caring and supportive group behind you here and we're all rooting for you!!!

Edited September 29, 201411 yr by Rogofulm

If he leaves, you can congratulate yourself on having lost an additional 200 pounds of @ss.

Amen @@5BeautifulDays

The wedding vows NEVER were, " 'Til WLS do us part!" I'm with @KarenF1972. What an A-$-$-H-O-L-E! You don't need this turkey. "Hey, don't stand behind the door, or I'll flatten you with it as I go have surgery!" There are other men who would love to be with you. That's what you deserve.

Please do this for yourself and your little ones. They deserve a full-on Mom that can play with them. You deserve to see them grow up and possibly get to know your grandchildren.

I was just sleeved last Friday. The first 24 hrs. were a bit hard--- couldn't get enough liquid down (so they gave me IV fluids - not a big deal) and threw up a little a few times. The next day I felt like a new person. Yesterday and today I actually felt normal, like nothing had ever happened. I didn't even need the pain meds that had been prescribed.

I vote for your going through with it.

You need to do what's best for you and your kids and that's wls.

Sounds like a jerk but here is my take. My husband met me when I was skinny/er. I have gained a crap loaed of weight 90 lbs. He still loves me, bummed but still loves me, I want this surgery for my health and to be a better more active Mom. Hey, if he walks it is HIS LOSS! He will lose you the time with the kids, If he is so selfish he needs to wake up! After all is not some of the attraction because of who a person is on the inside. Do this for you and your children....

Hello I hope you have smooth sailing with your procedure and a terrific recovery and a fabulous future ahead of u with better health and activity with your children often when ppl give ultimatums it's because they are afraid of losing control over a situation that may change if you change by losing weight and gaining health no one who loves you and truly wants what's best for you would give such an ultimatum that sounds like self interest instead of your best interest and your children's I hope you move forward with confidence in your decision regardless and don't let anyone block your path to a healthier future for yourself and the children best wishes

Good luck with the surgery. Not being selfish is what got us to this place in many cases!