Does anyone wish they were still fat from a vanity point of view? I know I'm healthier and I'm only halfway but I'm already noticing the empty hanging skin,when I was bigger it was filled out and plump! iv less confidence now and trying to hide it in clothes is a nightmare excerise only does so much, I know u can fix the stomach legs etc but what about the bum and back,am I facing a lifetime of hiding skin and feeling disgusted and self conscience then the scars of multiple surgerys to partially fix it?

<snip> I found a Protein powder that cured my constipation. <snip>

Care to share what Protein Powder that was?

I just didn't expect to still have to wear loose clothes to hide my saggy ass and back boobs! When u pair that with constant hunger having zero energy and tearing my ass every time I have to poop and my hair falling out so bad I'm going to have to wear a hat for the next year and becoming a social recluse cos I can't go out to eat anymore and can't enjoy food anymore loosing my boobs and the frustratingly slow weight loss only 50lbs in 7 months then yes maybe my expectations were too high

I think you need to see your nutrionist, some of these things dont make sense. I am less than 3 months into this and lost 65 lbs, my enegy level is up, i am not hungry, i am not constipate...yes i am losing my hair but if your hair lost has not stopped yet its a definite sign that you are missing nutrients. You didnt look good being fat, i promise you that, over the years uou have convince yourself of that...and now you have some mourning to do because reality is there and you are actuslly letting the miror return you the real image. I do understand that its depressing, i just went through a phase where i was questionning myself about the social aspect of food, we dont go out, family dinner eveery ni are never going to be the same, i cannot drink, and yes i do miss being bad and munching on the wrong things...i love to eat and now thats gone. But what you are going through right now is like when you break up with someone and you miss the sex, and you try to convince yourself it was a good relationship, and you hook up again only to find out that you really arent meant to be together....yes the sex is awsome, but the rest is crap and problems. Be free of the past

Good luck

I hope never to be fat again. No regrets about having gastric bypass, even after the complications of a bowel obstruction (surgically corrected) and constipation. Life is never perfect but I find being at a reasonable weight makes everything easier. I am grateful for my surgery and my surgeon and would do it all over again, complications, pain, and all. My main challenge is now to maintain healthful food choices. At two years post op, I do crave foods that I thought I would never again crave so I must focus more on the willpower part. Gastric bypass has made it easier to maintain, but I know that it is not "the" solution. Eating properly and getting the right amount of activity are the solution and gastric bypass has increased my chances of long term success.

Wishing everyone success in the weightless journey!

Care to share what Protein powder that was?

Chike High Protein coffee. It contains the equivalent of two real espresso shots, so it replaces my morning coffee in addition to supplying 20 gr protein. I buy it on Amazon. I could never find a protein powder that I liked until someone suggested it. If I make it with Water and crushed ice in the blender it tastes just like a Dunkin Donuts Coffee Coolatta - delicious! My surgical team allows caffeine after three months because caffeine has been proven to help with constipation. I've been using Chike protein daily since the beginning of April this year and have not been constipated even once since starting it. I don't know if it's the caffeine or not - but it works and I love the taste! :-)

Chike High Protein Coffee. It contains the equivalent of two real espresso shots, so it replaces my morning coffee in addition to supplying 20 gr protein. I buy it on Amazon. I could never find a protein powder that I liked until someone suggested it. If I make it with water and crushed ice in the blender it tastes just like a Dunkin Donuts Coffee Coolatta - delicious! My surgical team allows caffeine after three months because caffeine has been proven to help with constipation. I've been using Chike protein daily since the beginning of April this year and have not been constipated even once since starting it. I don't know if it's the caffeine or not - but it works and I love the taste! :-)

Chike High Protein Coffee is also available in Mocha flavor. I find the mocha flavor too chocolaty so sometimes I use a scoop of each to change things up a bit. You could probably also use Torani sugar free syrups to add a 'flavor shot' - like Kahlua, French vanilla, caramel, or hazelnut to make it taste like your favorite flavored coffee. :-)

If you are having all these bad experiences then you are not eating right and getting enough vitamins.... You need to go back to. Nutrition class.. malnourishment!!!!

I would never want to be fat again even if I have to hide the skin. It beats not being able to do things cause your too big.

Sure I'm glad I can wipe my ass now but even though I can wear shorts short sleeves etc I can't because I'm gross I'm hiding the same way cos of skin

LMAO you can wipe your ass now? Too funny

There is no way I would want to be big again.

I have sagging places all over yet I look good in clothes.

I'm happy that I'm here and able to do things that I was unable to do before.

My body is my body and I will exercise to help keep it fit but if I don't loose this sagging oh well.

I tell you a story I once died because of an error I made in quiting a medication cold turkey and I am lucky that I'm here to talk to you.

So be grateful for everyday and that you are loved no matter what.

The things you talk about can be fixed by changing some things in your eating and others don't add up to a hill of Beans if you are loved by family unconditionally.

Maybe you should talk to a therapist about your self image it might help.

May you find peace and happiness.

Good luck.

I have never had one regret over having decided to have WLS. Even when I had some complications, I still love my band. I have sagging skin but I would have had this anyway at my age (and after having kids). I don't hide my arms or my stomach...I feel so much better about my body than I did pre-WLS. I even wore a two-piece this summer, despite the little bee-sting scars from my surgery...I loved wearing that suit so much that it overrode any embarassment I might have had about the lapro scars.

Gosh, what a question. I think all of us went into WLS with so much thoughfulness...I can't imagine any of us regretting being thinner.

The surgery isn't about vanity; it is about health. Maybe you had the wrong expectations going into the surgery.

Ummm, maybe for you....................but I ain't gonna lie.............I was pretty healthy pre op, and I honestly went into

to look goooood! (The health benefits are a plus...but I love the way I look!)

At 55, and having spent 28 years being obese, I never had any illusions that I wouldn't have saggy skin. So for me it was a quality of life and better health issue. And as my daughter so bluntly put it "It doesn't matter what you look like mom - you are already married!" :-)

Though I'm saggy and baggy here and there, It's not as bad as I feared. Probably because, though my skin has lost elasticity due to stretching and my age, I have no wrinkles from sun-damage (I get sun poisoning so avoid the sun). And I don't have turkey-neck. My neck skin is tight and youthful-looking, probably a lucky genetic thing. :-)

My insurance will pay for skin removal if I get rashes due to excess skin. I always used to get rashes in the skin folds, so this summer I was ready to start documenting these with cosmetic surgery in mind. Wouldn't you know it? I didn't get a single bit of rash this summer?!!! The one time I WANTED it to happen... Lol

I don't miss being fat, but I can relate to the skin issue. I have wings and I am not interested in flying anytime soon. There are times when I just say, "hey, love me, talk about me or hate me, today, I'm gonna go sleeveless today." However, I'm not that confident when around work or family folk. I'm also not interested in more surgery when I reach goal...considering living with the skin issue but won't quite know until I get there.

Overall, I am extremely - ok, very happy with my choice. There are other mental issues that I go through that overrides the saggy skin thing right now.

I just didn't expect to still have to wear loose clothes to hide my saggy ass and back boobs! When u pair that with constant hunger having zero energy and tearing my ass every time I have to poop and my hair falling out so bad I'm going to have to wear a hat for the next year and becoming a social recluse cos I can't go out to eat anymore and can't enjoy food anymore loosing my boobs and the frustratingly slow weight loss only 50lbs in 7 months then yes maybe my expectations were too high

I have to say, you are still pretty early out. I had surgery 3 1/2 years ago and I def look better now than at year one. My face looked haggard, my neck was more turkey than lady, and my thighs were creased. Now all three of these things are better, from exercise, Water and time. Give yourself a break, and worry about that later when you are really at the end of your weight loss and recovery.

Feedyoureye is so right! Even when you stop losing weight, your body seems to keep doing its thing and continues changing, tightening and moving.

I have had the turkey neck thing, but that's settled down. My Shar pei bottom isn't quite so wrinkly. I have saggy sock boobs to my knees (tmi???) - but cosmetics will fix that, along with a tummy tuck to get rid of the excess skin.

But none of that changes my mind - no regrets re surgery, not a single one. Being fat was like an anchor on my life but nothing holds me back now.

Edited September 24, 201411 yr by Indigo1991