Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

I have a son with autism. I had my come to Jesus monument and wanted to live longer too! One year ago on May 1st I had my surgery. 135lbs (310 down to 175) no type II meds any more and other meds. Go for it it's worth the risk. You risk dying more the longer you carry the weight. Maybe you even want another child? You want a life? Then take the tools you can get and change your life. I work overnight so eating like the rest of the world is not an option all the time. Live for your self and your family. You will be happy that you did!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

There have been so many posts lately about whether to tell or not. I've said it before and I'll say it again.... When people start paying my bills they can start having a say in my life. Till then it really is none of their business. I just wanted to save myself some hassle and not deal with any negativity or stress from people I don't care about. I told my husband and daughter because they live with me and were the ones looking after me in the hospital. My son lives in Tennessee so I did not feel any reason to tell him as he wouldn't be involved in the surgery, the recovery or my daily eating plan. He will just be happy to see me thinner and healthier for mother's day. I only took 4 days off from work so there was no curiosity about where I had been or anything. I just don't feel this is something I need to share with co=workers, neighbors or church members. I have told the people I want to know so I don't have to worry about who knows what or who has told who. Its just not an issue. I'm happy with my decision and you have to make the decision that you know you will be happiest with. Just remember, once the genie is out of the bottle you can't put him back in.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm having my surgery June 9. I have told a few people in my inner circle and regret it! My best friend was appalled! I'm so

Sorry I told anyone other than my husband.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I today posted on fcebook about getting the s surgery. All comettshave been encouraging. I haved lived allmy life with stares and whispers,I do not care if people think this is the easy way. I know what I have to do for me.

I today posted on fcebook about getting the s surgery. All comettshave been encouraging. I haved lived allmy life with stares and whispers,I do not care if people think this is the easy way. I know what I have to do for me.

I today posted on fcebook about getting the s surgery. All comettshave been encouraging. I haved lived allmy life with stares and whispers,I do not care if people think this is the easy way. I know what I have to do for me.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

As u see imnew on here and thought my podt eas not posting lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I think it's a shame that people couldn't feel comfortable about telling others about their big decision. I think I must have been very fortunate because all of my family, friends, and coworkers have been very supportive. For those of you who find more negative people, tell them to go carry a 50lb bag of dog food around a grocery store and to keep their mouths shut.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks all again for the amazing responses!!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

There is nothing easy about any of this. I choose to only tell select people because I didn't want to hear that type of crap from people.

It's not EASY having surgery. It's not EASY to learn to eat healthy after not eating healthy all your life.

Tell those that you can trust and will be supportive in your journey. You are showing a lot of strength and courage to do this!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi All!!! People can be evil!!! even Love ones!!!! I have type 2 diabetes, kidney issues, liver issues, and I'm 33. I want to LIVE LONGER for my husband and child. I will do this surgery no matter what!! But why do folks feel the need to say

" Oh you taking the EASY WAY OUT" ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!! That strikes a nerve in the worst way!!!!

Is it really the easy way...because last I checked being overweight since I was 5 has been difficult! Having any surgery is not a walk at the park....especially recuperating... Having this disease is NOT AT ALL EASY!!!! if LOSING WEIGHT AND EATING HABITS would disappear than fine that would be easy but it's NOT!

This time around I'm hesitant to tell folks what I'm doing because of the STUPID comments......

Your thoughts please!!!

What I find is, most of these people who tell you it's just calories in and calories out, never really struggled with their weight. If they gain 5lbs., it's traumatic and that's their struggle with weight. I have a brother in law I'm not telling until the last moment, he's the most narcisistic person I know. Even if I had a body of Adonis, he would still find the need to express his own vanity. In the end, it's my health not his, if my life improves because I finally faced my weaknesses and made a tough decision, then I reap the rewards and a greater wisdom.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • vsg.with.sharon

      Hey everyone!
      I’m new here! Looking for some friends! 🥰
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      Four days post surgery. I am sipping as fast as I can and getting NO WHERE near the goal of 60 - 80 grams of protein or the 64 oz of liquids. I just feel FULL. I don't know if it can still be the gas build up (I would think by now that would be gone) but it is a struggle to drink. And so far I have not had the nausea or spasms and don't want to wander into that territory by pushing too hard with liquids. I about passed out today as it was my most "strenuous" day. Went from second story to basement for shower and I was sure I was going to pass out. Looking back on my last few days I have had a total of less than 1000 calories. Am I just not getting enough nourishment in me? Once again a friday where I can't get ahold of the doc until Monday rolls back around so I am hoping maybe someone here has some experience on how to keep energy going. I do have fibromyalgia too and that may be where some added fatigue comes into play. How did you all fair with the goals the week after surgery?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 3 replies
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

      2. Selina333

        I'm in Houston so kind of near you and had the sleeve in Dec. Down 61 lbs. Feeling better. Was definitely worth it. I hope the everything is going well for you. Update us when you can!

      3. Doughgurl

        I am back home after my bypass surgery in Tiajuana. I'm post op day 4. Everything went great! I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who have not encountered much pain at all, no nausea thus far and I'm having no problem keeping down broths and water. Thank you for your well wishes. I cant wait to keep up this journey and have a chance at better health and simply better quality of life. I know there will be bumps in the road ahead, and everything won't be peaches and cream, but at least I have a great start so far. 😍

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×