Hello.my name is latoya im 25years old.i had surgery 8/13/12.tomorrow ill b 3wks post out and ive lost 20lbs.my starting weight was 348 now im 328.i just feel im not doing so good its quite depressing.also im barely eating because i really dont knk what to eat i mean i have the basics but realistically i don't want it.can someone help me with food ideas or any advice or what to do.i just feel im failing all around.

I went threw the vomiting stage for 30 days straight. Got better. Then it was every so often. After those 30 days I seriously said omfg what did I do to my self. I couldn't sit at the dinner table. The smell of food was making me sick. Later on I found out after 2 months post up my stomach had closed. Problem solve. I can't tell you I can eat everything but so far I'm doing great. Only chicken is the only thing I can't eat anymore. I'm sure there's others just can't think these kids got up like 5ish LMFAO.

P.s. It does get better

Wow. How did you find out about your stomach closing? How horrific! I'm still regretting it, but I'm not anywhere near as bad off as you were.

I hear you all. There are' date=' and have been, plenty of time I wish I had never had the surgery. I LOVED the entire experience of eating. It is all psychological. This continues to weigh on my thoughts, and I feel regret at times. BUT, knowing this about myself, and how easy it would be to cheat by over eating, I now know that I NEED this tool, this procedure, to put the brakes on and force change. After having the surgery, I have taken charge by taking choice out if the equation, the choice to be wreckless with my eating habits. I HAVE to slow down and make myself aware if everything I put in me. The fear of nausea & vomiting is a great eating inhibitor, and the weight loss is a wonderful benefit. And the time it has taken me to heal and adapt to my be stomach has allowed me to slowly change the way I view my wants and needs where food and nutrition is concerned. One of these days I will actually attend a support group and see if that helps. I'm lucky to have the support of family, friends, and this group, to get thru the inconvenient times. Hang in there... This is truly life changing...[/quote']

Right now I'm kind of angry about the no choices. Feeling that I did this to myself because society says I'm too fat. I feel like I should have just been strict on my diet. I want to be a free person who can chose to do what I want...food or otherwise. I know I'll probably feel a lot different when I'm healed and feeling normal, and have lost some weight.

Boy is it good to know I am not the only one who felt this way. My family and friends do everything over food. I spent a lot of time with my mom' date=' sister and her family right after I had surgery so they could help with my daughter. There I was, feeling hungry all the time, stuck on liquids. They ate lots of my favorite things and the smells were so intense that many times I excused myself to the bathroom and cried. I loved to eat, my sister and I both love to cook together, I mourned for those times thinking I would have to give them up. I'm now almost three months out, I can't eat everything I used to, but it's so doable now. My sister and I cook, and I get my tiny plate and have bites of everything and i'm good. I can sit with friends at a restaurant and we share dishes now and everyone gets to try different things. My depression has lifted and the benefits of this surgery have made a huge impact on my life. I am sure your husband deploying is triggering many emotions for you in this already difficult adjustment time after surgery. When he comes back, you will have had time to adjust to the surgery and will be able to Celebrate his return with great energy! This room is chock full of support for you. Come in and keep us posted. You and your husband are in my prayers.

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Thanks for your words of encouragement. I know I'm definately feeling down today since he just left. So you said you can't eat what you used to, how do you eat now? Regular food but no sugar? Do you really watch the fat too? How long was it until you could lay on your side? That's a big thing to me. I can't sleep through the night yet and laying on my back gives me anxiety. I still keep feeling constant gurgling in my stomach system, not hunger, just things moving around.

Where are u guys stationed Amanda?

Stationed at RAF Mildenhall. You?

Stationed at RAF Mildenhall. You?

I am not sure where that is lol....we are at Fort Polk, Louisiana.

I am not sure where that is lol....we are at Fort Polk' date=' Louisiana.[/quote']

Oh lol...England

Oh lol...England

Look for me on Facebook Nessa Cadle...we are going through this same weight loss thing. My hubby has been deployed before and we are living the military thing too. We can support each other.

Look for me on Facebook Nessa Cadle...we are going through this same weight loss thing. My hubby has been deployed before and we are living the military thing too. We can support each other.

I will try to find you...but PLEASE don't mention the surgery on there...I'm not telling people. If you want to talk about surgery related stuff, message me, ok? I'm about to try some tomato Soup for the first time.

I am not sure where that is lol....we are at Fort Polk' date=' Louisiana.[/quote']

My daughter was stationed at fort Polk for 3 years. But that was about 4 years ago !

20 lbs in three weeks is great!!! That's basically a pound a day....nothing to be upset about. I PROMISE you it does get easier....I had my surgery on June 20th....my starting weight was also 348...had lost about 25 before surgery and I'm now at 265....83 lbs down and I have no regrets....but I totally felt like you did at just a few weeks out. Just make sure you are following your doctors plan and getting in your protein and exercise and you will succeed!!!

Thank you so much joyce that makes me feel alot better ive been having some trouble getting the protein down but im trying my best and i walk three times a day.

I will try to find you...but PLEASE don't mention the surgery on there...I'm not telling people. If you want to talk about surgery related stuff' date=' message me, ok? I'm about to try some tomato soup for the first time.[/quote']

Nope I won't hon. No worries.

My daughter was stationed at fort Polk for 3 years. But that was about 4 years ago !

We have been here for about a year. Came from fort drum new York...it sure is different down here compared to my home state of Michigan lol

We have been here for about a year. Came from fort drum new York...it sure is different down here compared to my home state of Michigan lol

Well we have even more in common !! I live in Mount Clemens, Michigan ! ! My daughter told me they call Fort Polk the armpit of the army !! She was in culture shock down there too !

- How did you find out about your stomach closing? I couldn't keep food down $ was always vomiting none stop after 1 month.

How horrific! Yes it was I'm still regretting it' date=' but I'm not anywhere near as bad off as you were.[/quote']