Hey sleevers. Just want some input. I'm afraid after being skinny I will be perceive as a b***h. As a big girl I am confident, sexy, outspoken and love me some me lol.always have my hair and nails done always looking cute for a big girl . I take alot of pride in myself not that i think im better than anyone this is just who and how i am all my life. all my friends are size 9 or smaller and have always called me a diva. But now my worry is after being a Diva big girl for so long how do I handle who I am as a skinny girl ????

You are ringing my bell, girl! My answer to your question? Just be you! I have no plans to change who I am, and people can like me or hate me. I care little to none.

You both are still the person you were before the Sleeve and you will still be you after it. You were confident then and you still will be confident, your weight didn't make you you made the weight. Meaning the person that you are on the inside (your personality) Thats who your friends love YOU and if they are your true friends they will love the skinny you as well.

Just be yourself. It's great to love yourself. You can do that AND be nice to others, and that's an attractive combination! I do want others to like me, but if they don't, that's their issue, lol! Can't control others, only ourselves.

To me, a diva is someone who struts her stuff because she's confident; she stands tall and takes no s**t from anyone. A b!tch is a female who isn't able to live and let live--she's in everyone's face, looking for confrontation, sometimes even starting it; just to stir up s**t, just because she can (and she gets off on the adrenalin.) A b!tch doesn't care who she steps on, as long as everyone gets the eff out of her way. A diva won't let herself--or those she loves--be stepped on.

B. Being I. In. T. Total. C. Control. H. Honey

Look at it this way LOL I love the comment above^^^^^ on the money!!!

B. Being I. In. T. Total. C. Control. H. Honey

Look at it this way LOL I love the comment above^^^^^ on the money!!!

All the comments in the thread are spot on but I am in love with this acronym! LOL

A b***h lacks self confidence. . . A diva doesn't

Lol, you are worried you will be a diva, people ask me how did I got more tomboyish after I lost the weight.

Funny how we are never satisfied with our perception of ourself, and how people seem to be unaware of what was hiding underneath all that fat.

Just live your life.

Two good books:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Power-Habit-What-Business/dp/1400069289

The Power of Habit - very informative information on very sound studies. Not a weight loss book, but exceptional reading for someone who is taking on this journey.

http://www.amazon.com/Days-Personal-Revolution-Breakthrough-Radically/dp/074322759X

This is not what it sounds like, and it is a very good book. It is western-hemisphere yogi life lessons, and many are very, very timey to what we are going through.

Good luck!

Hey sleevers. Just want some input. I'm afraid after being skinny I will be perceive as a b***h. As a big girl I am confident' date=' sexy, outspoken and love me some me lol.always have my hair and nails done always looking cute for a big girl . I take alot of pride in myself not that i think im better than anyone this is just who and how i am all my life. all my friends are size 9 or smaller and have always called me a diva. But now my worry is after being a Diva big girl for so long how do I handle who I am as a skinny girl ????[/quote']

I'm just like you but am worried I will lose my confidence when thinner

Thank you everyone for your enlightenment. Its truly appreciated :wub:

To me, a diva is someone who struts her stuff because she's confident; she stands tall and takes no s**t from anyone. A b!tch is a female who isn't able to live and let live--she's in everyone's face, looking for confrontation, sometimes even starting it; just to stir up s**t, just because she can (and she gets off on the adrenalin.) A b!tch doesn't care who she steps on, as long as everyone gets the eff out of her way. A diva won't let herself--or those she loves--be stepped on.

thank you for making it crystal clear. I never thought of it this way. its so true! thanks

I'm just like you but am worried I will lose my confidence when thinner

dont worry you wont lose your confidence.if it even begins to sway message me and i will make sure you stay fierce!!!! be you be true as my other sleeve sister advised me to do!

A b***h lacks self confidence. . . A diva doesn't

Yes girl!!! spoken like a true Diva!! thanks for bring me back

I know just how you feel.

I was worried about losing my image as an old looking, heavy breathing, jolly fat guy.

Now I am a not so old looking, easy breathing, happy but not jolly skinny guy.

Image, meh.

I always hated playing Santa anyway, and I hated being asked.

It so true how when overweight we have to be UBER FUNNY OR CHARMING or up our fashion sense and makeup skills to get respect and sometimes approval granted to someone just naturally beautiful and skinny!