Hey sleevers. Just want some input. I'm afraid after being skinny I will be perceive as a b***h. As a big girl I am confident, sexy, outspoken and love me some me lol.always have my hair and nails done always looking cute for a big girl . I take alot of pride in myself not that i think im better than anyone this is just who and how i am all my life. all my friends are size 9 or smaller and have always called me a diva. But now my worry is after being a Diva big girl for so long how do I handle who I am as a skinny girl ????

I know just how you feel.

I was worried about losing my image as an old looking, heavy breathing, jolly fat guy.

Now I am a not so old looking, easy breathing, happy but not jolly skinny guy.

Image, meh.

I always hated playing Santa anyway, and I hated being asked.

Gman...you can be MY Santa any day...

:wub:

I take diva & b***h each as compliments, but I've never been called a diva! lol . . .all women have various connotations with each word . . .just be you & you'll be fine!

You won't change, but your relationship with your friends might. When you are the 'big girl' you are a 'safe' person to your friends. When you lose weight they might see you as more of a threat - with your wonderful, great personality and confidence, possibly a triple threat. I know because previously I lost 100 pounds and my women friends treated me differently. I went through counseling for this.

You won't change' date=' but your relationship with your friends might. When you are the 'big girl' you are a 'safe' person to your friends. When you lose weight they might see you as more of a threat - with your wonderful, great personality and confidence, possibly a triple threat. I know because previously I lost 100 pounds and my women friends treated me differently. I went through counseling for this.[/quote']

I find this very interesting, I remember it was either in my evaluation with the psychologist or the psychiatrist that I was asked if there was any reason I should think that I would be met with jealousy from friends during my weight loss journey..I didn't understand why there should be a problem but with what you just explained, it makes complete sense to ask that question.