Today I was approved and I am scheduled for April 3rd....I know ........ only a week from this Wednesday!

I have not told my brothers or my father about my surgery because our family has been through a lot lately. One of the many issues is my stepmother has been in the hospital for 5 weeks and won't be out until mid April...then has to go back in for a bone marrow transplant shortly after. She has a very aggressive form of cancer and my father has so much on his mind already!

I am not worried about my brothers or father being judge mental. I just truly don't want to add another stressor considering all that is going on. On the other hand, if something goes wrong, I would feel bad that I didn't tell them...just in case.

I have my husband and mothers support so I'm not worried about support. Again, I feel there is so much going on that I should maybe wait until things have calmed down.

Anybody have any thoughts?

You should tell them. Family should always be honest with each other in case something happens.

I agree. You should tell them because if the situation were reversed, you would want to know. When you tell them, let them know that you have support and not to worry about you.

Don't wait. Your health and happiness are important, especially to your family. Be honest with them.

Thank you, in my heart I felt I should...thanks for the reinforcement

I think you should tell them-I told my mom, husband, and two children.

My mom is the most encouraging.

I do not plan to tell any friends yet. I am afraid of all the questions and the daily updates on what can I do and how much have you lost.

I an nervous as my surgery is April 17.

Lots of "what ifs" and looking for support from fellow sleevers.

The question comes right back to you. How do you feel. You know your family we do not. How would they take it and can they handle more. If you believe they sould not handle it and they surgery can wait then postpone it. If you are in pain and need it for pain magament then I say go with it. Is your stepmother able to handle this infomation. Is so maybe talk to her and see how she feel. Either choice you go with I wish you the very best.

Thank you everyone!