I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

Missy so sorry to hear what's going on. But you did call him your boyfriend so I assume things are going well between you two. :thumbdown: Please let us know as soon as you can how things are going.

My BF and I survived our first disagreement. It was awful. We had these plans to go camping with my DD and SIL. Right up until the day before we were to leave, he was talking about what food he wanted to bring, and packing up his fishing stuff.

The next day he said he didn't want to go. He was afraid to tell me why.

It turns out he does not like my SIL. I can deal with that because my SIL is a great guy but can be a real butt sometimes too. I was more upset that he didn't think he could talk to me about it.

Bill thought we were going to break up over this. I told him I was in this for the long haul and we were bound to have disagreements from time to time.

Missy is your BF any better?

Denise,

Glad to hear that you and him were able to work through your differences. Just remember if you never disagree about anything, there's something wrong :-)

My boyfriend is scheduled for an ultrasound on his liver tomorrow morning. His liver enzymes are high but he is feeling a whole lot better. We got to spend much of the weekend together and it was awesome. I missed him so much and he always tells me that I am truly a blessing in his life. He makes me so happy and I'm so glad I met someone who is so appreciative of me.

That's so cool Missy. I hope it's nothing serious. Glad to hear he is feeling better.

Missy - Sorry to hear about the BF but glad to hear that things are looking up finally for him and I will say a prayer that the doctors can finally find out what was ailing him.

Denise - It is wonderful that you have made it known to BF that you are there for the long haul. I agree with Missy, if you NEVER have an issue or at least a disagreement then there really could be a problem!

Chrispy - Thanks for the encouragement, I didn't think I was seeing that much of an improvement, but I can really see it in my face. I am about 1/3 of the way to goal. I have lost over 85 lbs already and would like to lose at least 160 more.

He got his results back from his ultrasound and they have found that he has an enlarged liver, which could mean anything from fatty liver disease to a liver cancer. They are going to send him to a liver specialist. I honestly thinks it's fatty liver disease, he eats fast food a lot and he's a little overweight. He's about 6 foot tall and 250 lbs but carries it very well, I find him so sexy!

Wow! How scary. I Hope they can get all of this figured out.

Missy, what's the latest on your bf?

He is doing ok. He was supposed to go to a liver specialist last Monday but with Hurricane Ike it's been pushed back a little.

I am praying for your BF Missy, keep us updated on any progress.

How is everyone else doing?

Well I have some good news everyone... I am so so very close to hitting the 100lbs lost mark and I think I am going to actually be able to do it before my bandiversary!!!

I finally got off my a** and started using my 24hr Fitness gym membership after 4 months of paying for it. I am now going to the Water Aerobics class there and it is awesome...I go 5-6 days a week, some days in the mornings and some in the evenings. I have lost 4 more lbs since I started at the beginning of the week. I feel great!

Well enough for now I hope you all are well.

That's great April. Exercise was the key for me and it made me feel great, as well as made the weight loss move a little quicker too.

Good for you April!!!! It's so hard to get into a good exercise routine, and you've done it! :cool2:

I said this a little under 2 months ago:

I just want to say that men suck, dating sucks and the whole shebang sucks!! Men! You can't live with them and you can't shoot them! /end pityparty

How quickly life can change. I take it back. I take it all back!

Why? did you meet someone?

My bf and I are going through another rough patch. He is not good at all about resolving problems. His way is to ignore them and hope they will go away rather than talking things out. I just copied a "feelings list" off the internet. I am going to have to force him to have a talk with me this week. We had a really bad weekend. It makes me sad when we disagree and he thinks the best thing to do is for him to go home rather than talk about it.