I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

Well it looks like you are on the right path. You look good either way but your body will be much happier at when you are healthier weight and I'm sure you will too! When is your surgery? Are you looking forward to it?

Thanks, smilin_apple.

I'm going to get banded on the 21st (this Friday). I'm looking forward to it, because I hate the way I look and feel (physically and emotionally). I've gone from being a very capable guy to one that is barely able to handle his own weight.

I'm hoping to either look exactly like my before pics, or in a best case scenario, better. People treat you differently and in general, it seems like a lot more opportunities are afforded to you when you're not overweight.

As soon as I can, I'll be hitting the weights and treadmill. I want to fill out any loose skin with solid muscle mass.

I'm sorry to hear that. I've gained a little back as well and trying to get back on track. I find you attractive even being big so keep your head up.

Thanks, Missy. I don't feel attractive at the moment, but that's sweet of you to say.

Thanks, Missy. I don't feel attractive at the moment, but that's sweet of you to say.

Just because you're big doesn't mean you can't be attractive. Even at my heaviest, I never felt or acted like I was ugly but now that I've lost the weight I feel even sexier than ever!

Just because you're big doesn't mean you can't be attractive. Even at my heaviest, I never felt or acted like I was ugly but now that I've lost the weight I feel even sexier than ever!

That's an admirable quality, Missy. I was always clueless when somebody was hitting on me, even when I was in shape.:cool:

That's an admirable quality, Missy. I was always clueless when somebody was hitting on me, even when I was in shape.:cool:

Ya I never got hit on. Everytime me and friends would go out, they would get hit on even when I lost weight. I don't get it!

I am not sure I can say I know exactly what you are feeling, but I have had some of the same concerns.

Getting back out there after all these years is kind of rough the only advice I can give is "you gotta do it" The right one is out there but ya just gotta remember you have to love your self if you want any one to love you for who you are. Never give up on love it is out there and is worth everything you are willing to put in to it.

Hopefully this is not just random jabbering and actually makes some sense J

Hi my name is Kris I am 30 and I am single but dating someone.

See I told the guy that I am dating that I had it done just because the way I ate when we went out?.But You don't even have to tell anyone if you choose not to, untill once you get physical cause of your scars.But hey lets face the facts most guys won't notice anyway, believe me!!!!

I'm glad someone posted this thread! We single gals gotta stick together!

yea, I told my bf pretty early on. I wouldn't even have a bf if it weren't for the band. I never would have had the nerve to post a profile on match. com I had one on plenty of fish, with a picture, but all I got were losers writing to me.

I am a 35 year old divorced father of a beautifull little girl.

I live and work in Clarksville, Indiana.

I was banded on Oct1 of 2008. Feel free to Contact me by private message if you like.

Im candace, im 22 yrs old from florida. im actually being banded this coming monday!!! (jan 5 2009). Im ready for this change in my life and excited about the outcome of it all. Ive been single for awhile and honestly im tired of it. I want someone i can share my life with and will except me for me...band and all =)...any good guys left??? I mean its kinda crazy to me that thinner girls can go out with heavier guys and society thinks thats ok..but heaven forbid a normal guy be walking hand in hand in the mall with a thick girl!! anyways..i love makin people laugh, most of the time im good at it! lol..im very sarcastic and i love being around friends and family. im probably one of the most easy going and low-maintanence girls you will ever meet. Im a southern girl, what more can u askfor? lol...add me, message me, id love to talk to ya!

Edited January 3, 200917 yr by candibaby0417

Hey Candace. I used to post on this board a lot back when I was single and thought the exact way you did. I had to date a lot of duds but finally found my soulmate on an internet dating website. I wish you all the luck in the world and you will find someone who can accept you for you.

Missy how is he doing? Did they get the problems with his liver straightened out?

The doctor he was going to was supposedly a "liver specialist" but he acted like he didn't know anything so he has to find a new doctor. They wanted to do a colonoscopy and wanted $1,000 up front to do it.

What a hassle. I don't see why he would need a colonoscopy. that isn't even related to the liver.

My liver doc is a gastroenterologist. (sp?) He is the one that did my liver biopsy twice. I think there are liver specialist, but a gastroenterologist doctor would be good too.

Alright I am 25, puerto rican from NYC. I had a boyfriend but found out not too long ago that I wasnt his only girlfriend lol. Oh well moving on!!