I decided to go check out a local gym because the weather is horrible here and I can't get my walks in. When I was talking to the trainer I explained that I had recently had gastric sleeve surgery and needed to work my muscles and do cardio. Immediately, she got a bad look on her face and said, "Oh, nooo." ...like I had done something horrible. I gave her a not so happy look back and she said, "Well, it's just that my friend and I were both 100 pounds overweight. I was able to lose all my weight just doing this (pointing to all the equipment), but my friend had gastric bypass and gets sick every time she eats.

I have not kept my surgery a secret from anyone. In fact, I am quite proud that I had the guts (no pun intended) to go through with it. I know the reasons why I did it and I am satisfied with my decision. This is the first real negative reaction I have received since my surgery and I guess I was a little unprepared for it. I can see now why some people keep it a secret. Does anyone have a standard answer they give to people who have negative reactions to their surgery? Needless to say, the trainer's reaction makes me not want to attend this gym now that I know what she is thinking about me.

Well I would definitely let that gym know. She needs to keep her private thoughts to herself. It's about getting healthy and that's what your doing. They need to either get on board and support you or keep their judgements and thoughts to themselves.

I have had some one tell me about a friend of a friend getting sick every time she eats, I told him, she probably eats too much and she should really work on that. Lol

I'm sorry, but I wouldn't let anyone's judgemental opinion affect what I do with my life, or where I do it. You don't need anyone's approval to be healthy....and you certainly won't get everyone's approval no matter what gym you go to so who cares? Just stay there and slowly, over time change her opinion of what a sleever can do.

So true. No outside endorsements nor approval needed.

We've all lost weight "naturally" at one point in our lives or another. .... I probably would have (in the sweetest voice possible) offered condolence for her friend, told her how fantastic I felt and proceeded to tell her how likely she statistically is to gain all (plus some) of her weight back, and how I hope, for her sake, (and the sake of her livelihood) she's one of the lucky few.

i probably wouldn't have told her, i mean yeah, i wouldn't lie about it to the people in my life, im gonna tell if they ask me.I think she feels all high and mighty that she lost it the natural way. whats so great about the natural way anyway, if you want to ride a bike all the way to Disneyland fine but don't judge me for taking a plane -___-

I'm sorry, but I wouldn't let anyone's judgemental opinion affect what I do with my life, or where I do it. You don't need anyone's approval to be healthy....and you certainly won't get everyone's approval no matter what gym you go to so who cares? Just stay there and slowly, over time change her opinion of what a sleever can do.

True, true... Some days it's easy to let things roll off, some days not, but if this were my first contact with a place of business that I planned on spending a good amount of time and money at and I was made to feel badly, I certainly wouldn't want to frequent there. OP can do what she wants, just giving my perspective

"I am so sorry for your friend. That must be horrible. I don't have that problem at all, thank goodness. Ok - about my exercise program - where do we start?"

Get a life loser trainer!!

It is still A LOT of work. I'd politely set her straight and take advantage of the moment to set her straight.

Well in reading your post her comment was that her friend who had gastric bypass gets sick everytime she eats. How is this statement negative towards you? You could have pleasantly stated how well you are doing yadda' date=' yadda. Maybe this would have lead to conversation about not every patient having a negative experience. Just my two cents. [/quote']

Sometimes it's not what you say it's how you say it.

My two cents is......you told the trainer your personal story as information so she knew you are losing weight fast, loose skin is a concern. A persons 1st time w/ a trainer is intimidating enough, and the gym is sort of overwhelming in the beginning. Your hackles went up cause you were giving her information, her job is to build you up mentally and physically. Athletes know the mind controls part of the success on winning.

What she said is like going to get your teeth cleaned after you have been away for a few years and having your hygienist say, "man I had a friend who stayed away from teeth cleaning, she still bleeds all the time, I have my teeth cleaned every 6 months so I am fine. As a hygienist I would be reprimanded. A professional meets the client where the client is.

God luck, Keep the confidence you are headed for success.