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Am I making the right choice?

So I am paying my deposit tomorrow to Ready4achange, Dr. Garcia and purchasing my airfare. I am so scared I'm making a mistake I have a 4 month old baby, a 14 yr old son and a husband who adores me fat or thin. I'm so worried that something will happen to me then what will my boys do? I guess if I was having it here I would feel better, but complications could happen anywhere. It just worries me because I had the band for 6 yrs and I don't know how much scar tissue I have and it seems revisions have a higher likely hood for leaks. Then I'm scared about flying what if I get a blood clot or the altitude messes with my stomach. Plus I'm gonna be alone and that sucks. I'm so scared!!! Please god help me make the eight decision!

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you'll be fine, it's the best thing I every did. I'm 3 1/2 months out and have lost 48 lbs... Everything went fine, I went to Tijuana as well and had no problems. I"m a nurse and I was impressed with the care I received.

Please don't worry, I am just like you. Went to Dr Garcia in September for my revision. I was very worried like you he would not be able to do it. Let me tell you, you have picked the right surgeon. He did my surgery no problem and I was not sick, no gas, no pain. I went alone also they will look after you. There will be other patients there too, you will see them at the hotel. If you are booking tomorrow God is guiding you; he won't let you make the wrong decision!

P.S. the benefit of having the band first is that you know what to do with your eating and drinking; I have had no vomiting, no sliming, no over-eating, the absolute best thing I could have done for myself.

Tessies, when is your surgery? I'm pretty sure Dr Garcia is practicing out of MiDoctor hospital.. There are several doctors who practice there and a lot of us here on this forum are going for surgery at MiDoctor with various doctors. So let us know when you're going and I'll bet there will be someone at MiDoctor/Marriott around the same time.

So I am paying my deposit tomorrow to Ready4achange' date=' Dr. Garcia and purchasing my airfare. I am so scared I'm making a mistake I have a 4 month old baby, a 14 yr old son and a husband who adores me fat or thin. I'm so worried that something will happen to me then what will my boys do? I guess if I was having it here I would feel better, but complications could happen anywhere. It just worries me because I had the band for 6 yrs and I don't know how much scar tissue I have and it seems revisions have a higher likely hood for leaks. Then I'm scared about flying what if I get a blood clot or the altitude messes with my stomach. Plus I'm gonna be alone and that sucks. I'm so scared!!! Please god help me make the eight decision![/quote']

Scheduled to have the surgery December 26. I paid my deposit today and chose Dr. Garcia as my physician. I'm soooooo excited. Hope to see you in Mexico. This is a bit frightening for me too, but I'm keeping my eye on the prize.

Hang in there and try not to second guess your decision.

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Thank you all for answering me and showing the support. Here is another one for you, I am now afforded the opportunity to go to Dr Aceves instead of Garcia, should I do it? Or should I just stick with the plan?

Hmmmm.... That's a tough one! Aceves is a great surgeon, he's been doing it for a long time. But he's about double the money you're gonna pay for Garcia... I've heard great things on Garcia too though, but in my opinion, if I had the funds and that's not an issue, I'd go with Aceves. :)

tessie as I mentioned stick with your plan Dr Garcia is an amazingly skilled surgeon. You can't go wrong.

Thank you all for answering me and showing the support. Here is another one for you' date=' I am now afforded the opportunity to go to Dr Aceves instead of Garcia, should I do it? Or should I just stick with the plan?[/quote']

You are in that oh so familiar flip/flop stage. That decision will have to come from you. At some point everything will make sense and you will have peace about your decision. I chose Dr. Garcia and his team. I'm very comfortable and finally at peace with my decision. Best of luck to you.

So there is a flip/flop stage? If so, I am surely in that stage. I had made the decision to have the surgery, been through the process and have a surgery date. NOW, I am unsure. Now I am questioning where to go for surgery. Thought I knew, but because I am self pay, thinking I should go to Mexico to save some money. My first choice was to go to Dr. Alvarez, which would save me about 2-3K. I had already found the most affordable place in the US. Wow, this process is agonizing!!

When I was researching dr Aceves seemed the most experienced and is very well respected. He is very cautious I have read . If I were going to Mexico that is whom I would use. I was so surprised that my insurance covered this procedure that will be done 12/21.

It's a tough decision since there are many that are satisfied with dr Garcia as well. I hope you have peace soon and I wish you the best. I also understand your apprehension as I am a failed lap band and am worried about complications.

So there is a flip/flop stage? If so' date=' I am surely in that stage. I had made the decision to have the surgery, been through the process and have a surgery date. NOW, I am unsure. Now I am questioning where to go for surgery. Thought I knew, but because I am self pay, thinking I should go to Mexico to save some money. My first choice was to go to Dr. Alvarez, which would save me about 2-3K. I had already found the most affordable place in the US. Wow, this process is agonizing!![/quote']

Definitely a flip flop stage. I even started a thread titled Flip Flopping Flip Flopper when I was struggling with which surgeon to choose.

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Yep! Flip flop stage for sure! I made myself so sick with anxiety. I was worrying day and night. I finally had to just change my mindset on it all together and rethink all the reasons why I want this surgery. I'm afraid of complications, I'm afraid of dying. I have a baby who needs me, and has no father in his life, so I'm feeling selfish for making this decision with him being so little. But I can't go on like this anymore. Just the depression from it alone is really taking its toll on me. With every pound I gain, I feel like I'm getting further and further away from myself... I hope that makes sense. I just want to be happy, and a big majority of my unhappiness revolves around my weight.

I went with the choice that made me feel the most comfortable, both with price and experience. I'm paying more for my procedure, but I just felt more comfortable having Dr Alvarez do my sleeve. When I tried to talk myself into going to a different surgeon, I just couldn't do it. Go with your gut!

I have a few of these episodes and am pretty sure they wont be the last. It can be pretty nerve wracking, it terrifies me at the thought of not being here for my 3 year old son. My father passed away when my son was 6 months old and I made a promise to myself that I will do whatever it takes to be here and be a positive role model for him. So that whatever it takes is now a trip to Puerto Vallarta on January 9. So when you question yourself remind yourself why you are doing it. Feels like I have to remind myself hourly! Haha! Wish you and everybody going thru this journey the best of luck and well wishes!! Cheers to the new us!

I went with the choice that made me feel the most comfortable, both with price and experience. I'm paying more for my procedure, but I just felt more comfortable having Dr Alvarez do my sleeve. When I tried to talk myself into going to a different surgeon, I just couldn't do it. Go with your gut!

EXACTLY. I had initially chosen Alvarez, but after researching so many other competent doctors, I could no longer justify paying so much more for Alvarez. If I had ANY reservations at all about the doctor I chose,I'd switch back to Alvarez in a heartbeat. This is such a deeply personal decision and yes, cost does pay a part in it, but cost should not override our instincts.

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