Im on day 5 of my pre op diet...i asked my coworkers if they wouldn't mind eating their lunch (delicious burgers and fries from this place around the corner) in another room instead of our little office. I assumed they would do it, we're all really good friends...so lunch just gets here, and they all just start chowing down at their desks. I just got up and said "I guess I'm the one that has to leave" was this too much to ask? Am I overreacting? Ugh. I'm STARVING and I just found it incredibly insensitive. *sigh* at least surgery is on Monday. Then I'll be out of work until the day after labor day. Wooooo-sa.

Well on another note your going to pull something better than them. After your sleeved and "can" eat again. You ARE going to do this. Your going to look at their food and they will look at yours then yall will begin eating. After your 3 bites your going to say "Man I am stuffed, how can yall eat so much" lmao.

You gotta understand. People watching me eat makes them feel bad. Its funny because This girl I know starves herself daily. She came eat out with us at a chilis and she ordered the salad. I just fixed me a couple bites off another persons plate and ate that and they could tell that I was stuffed lol. She saw that and quit eating lol. Not my intentions at all but thats just one way people will react. Have fun with it.

Yes I bet emotions are all over the board and patience is THIN on day 5 of the pre-op!! Totally remember that phase!! :-). But u know what!?!? YOU ARE GOING TO BE THIN TOO VERY SOON!!!!!!!! Yippie!!!!!!! Get ready for an AMAZING ride!!! The week after surgery is going to be hard - be mentally prepared for that and remember it won't last forever. Each week will get easier but do follow your dr's orders and timeline for progressing into 'normal' foods. You will likely need to dig deep within as u will probably see many people who act differently when u have the surgery. Many supportive but also some who aren't. So post here and vent here -- it's okay that's what it's here for. Sometimes we all need a reality check and just know we've all been thru the same emotional roller coaster. But for me, at 6 mths out it is an INCREDIBLE outcome. Takes some work - its not magic...well not completely - but u do ur part and ur sleeve will give u the goal u r looking for!!!!! God speed and prayers for Monday and fast healing. Keep a positive attitude -- u r so fortunate to be doing this!!!!! :-)

I'm thinking that since you're the one who had the surgery, it's not unreasonable that ou should be the one to excuse yourself, rather than expecting several others to change their routine for you. It's just the way it is for now, but not forever. Hang in there.

I think your request that they leave their desks was unreasonable.

I had a friend staying with me maybe 5 or so days after surgery to help out or whatever and he was talking about ordering sushi or pizza delivered, which was no big deal. I took a short nap and woke up and he'd ordered chinese, my favorite. I was a little peeved about it in the moment, even though I knew he never intended to make me feel bad. I did make up a reason and left the room while he was eating. Sometimes it's still hard for me to eat around people, but I'm hoping it will get easier for us as the process continues =)

I don't know about the fairness or unfairness of having them leave their desks, but I do wanna let you know that you should at least be proud that you were strong and didn't give in to getting a hamburger too or something like that. At least post-op I can tell myself that there's no way a burger could fit in my sleeve, or that I could be seriously hurting myself if I gave in, but pre-op I couldn't use this reasoning with myself, so I know it's sheer willpower. Hang in there - You are two days from surgery and they are gonna fly by!

How did the surgery go?

I'm late on this topic.. by like a week.. but let me tell you when I am hungry, and craving food I get mean! MEAN MEAN MEAN! And if I asked my co-workers to eat someplace else because it tempted me (esp. during a pre-opt diet) and they didn't I would be as mad as a little red hen! I'm also temperamental! So yeah I can put myself right in your shoes and say I know how you was feeling girl! lol.. lack of food, nerves, etc. It all adds up! But I would be in the wrong! Because like others said I'm choosing to have this surgery, and I have to be the one to adapt and change to my new life style. But I PROMISE you that I would have reacted the same way you did even though I know I should be the one to leave! lol.. Everyone has stressful moments and that was one of yours!

Hopefully you are recovering well!

I'm wondering too how you are! Hope all is going ok kimberlee!!!!!!!

I don't blame you for being upset you were totally justified. Not because you expect the world to change for you. we all know it is up to us as

individuals but because you have a "friendly coworker relationship with these females" You asked and they agreed. It is normal to expect people we are on good terms with to

be understanding and follow through with their agreements. Luckily I don't have this issue as the company not only provides an appropriate place to eat lunch and take breaks

but you are actually not allowed to eat at your desk/station. Of course we are not allowed to smack people upside the head who are rude or ungracious so I think

you handled it appropriately.

Weak moments happen. I work in an office where there is a specified break room we are required to eat in. If that were the situation, then definitely, I would be the one to get up and go. However, and I understand that you all probably always eat at your desks...but if there is a break room, personally, if they are your friends, I don't see a problem with asking what you asked. I work at a doctor's office and during the holidays we receive DAILY treats from all over! Specialist offices send stuff, patients send stuff...chocolate, cookies, candies, cakes!!!! Last year I asked if instead of putting all of it on the counter in medical records where I would continuously pass it and be tempted, if they would put it all in the breakroom. They obliged me and all was well. When I was in the breakroom eating what I brought for lunch, I was able to "just say no"...but in short passings through medical records...1 chocolate here, one cookie there...it was just too easy

Unfortunately, looks like friends or not, they are simply creatures of habit that won't change. Hang in there.