So I am now a month out of surgery. I am down 26lbs.... I was really feeling good about myself, and then I went on vacation with my family. I didn't make the best food descions while I was away. My family is full of phenominal cooks! My sister was also riding me the whole time, which was so annoying, especially since she is 5'11 and super skinny!!! I know she was just trying to look out for me, she hurt my feelings a lot too! THEN I just saw pictures of myself! The tiny shred of confidence I had just gained, was just ripped away! I look so terrible, and I feel bigger now!! I swear, at two weeks out I felt great, was really noticing a difference... and now I feel like a cow! I know I have a VERY long way to go still... just want it to happen now!!! And not have any loose skin! AAHHHHHhhh just frustrated, and feeling down! You can't even tell I have lost any weight! =(

Maybe u need to talk to someone bc obviously you have a poor self image. Don't let what others say bring you down. Losing 26 pounds in 1 month is good...that's almost a pound a day. Keep your eye on the end result and build your self esteem.

Thanks LadyJ. Yes I know I have a very poor self image.... since childhood! I have never been the pretty girl! I want so badly to feel good about myself for once! When I was younger, I used Liquid courage to boost my self esteem, it was the only way I could walk into a room with my head held high. I am in AA, been sober for 6yrs. I am a very out going, friendly talkative person... I just wish I felt the way I act sometimes... i don't know if that makes sense.

It makes sense. I'm sorry you are going thru that. Def talk to someone...you don't want to backtrack to old problems.

You could have gone for extreme liposuction. They go in and remover every bit of fat from your body. Of course, the shock kills you but you do lose the weight and look better except for the skin.

Seriously, it won't happen in the now, you know that.

You need to gain as well as lose.

You lose weight but have to gain wisdom.

Wisdom about how to treat yourself.

You need to endow yourself with a great big chunk of patience.

When you look in the mirror, see someone you love and are rooting for.

Be your own cheerleader, be squarely on your own side.

What other people think and say only affects you if you let it.

What you think and say about you is what matters.

Being thin will not make you happy. I know lots of skinny sad sacks.

Happiness comes from within, being at peace with yourself, and from the heart of God.

Not being able to see your own weight loss is completely normal. I've lost double the amount you have and although I know it logically, my eyes (brain) cannot see it yet even in pictures. Others can though. Just not me. Don't beat yourself up so much. You've done awesome so far! Best of luck to you.

I am having the same issue. I am 3 weeks post op and have lost 23 lbs. everyone says how THIN my face is, but indon't see it. Even in pictures. I think I am so used to seeing my self with such a full face that, that is all I see now I have an appointment with my therapist next week, so I am hoping that will help. Good luck to you!

I am having the same issue. I am 3 weeks post op and have lost 23 lbs. everyone says how THIN my face is' date=' but indon't see it. Even in pictures. I think I am so used to seeing my self with such a full face that, that is all I see now I have an appointment with my therapist next week, so I am hoping that will help. Good luck to you![/quote']

Its gonna be awhile! Eventually though I think we will see it. When I'm walking around I feel thinner but when I look in the mirror I don't look thinner. People are commenting so I know others see it.

My doc said you have about 28 mos to loose the weight so he told me about 9 lbs a mo!!! I thought that was crazy but makes since!

It sounds like the weight you have lost is great, don't be so hard on your self.

18 not 28!

You will see yourself thinner eventually, I promise! It takes a while for most people. It took me almost a year...around the 10/11 month mark where I finally got used to seeing a thin me in the mirror.

Please try to be patient with your weight loss, it will come and soon you will realize how it came off pretty quickly compared to losing weight in the past. Along with losing the weight you will gain confidence, it will happen! Hang in there!