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I see the comments that you mind is hungry after surgery even though your not actually hungry... I've even gone through it once or twice after surgery.... But has any one else dealt with other mind games???

A: I'm not willing to take my "fat" 30/32 clothes out of my closet... They are my clothes, I feel like my husband is being evil by taking them away and putting them in a box.... Seriously when did I become so attached to these clothes??? They have been in the box in the middle of my bedroom for about a week now... I might be willing to. Finally let them go to the closet.

B: I've lost 68 lbs... I haven't seen it until today... I apparently still have fat googles on (similar to beer googles)... My clothes don't fit right, I had to buy new bras (smaller band size, larger cup size- seriously ridiculous!)... Everyone knows about my surgery and every one says the see it, mind games tell me they are just being nice... this morning I put on my what used to be a size to small stretchy jeans that I had to lay on the bed to zip and then pray that I didn't bust a seam. Today they zipped with easy while standing and I can put my arm down my jeans with out unzipping them (yes I tried).

Getting over my mind games slowly but surely... And today I finally see a weightless difference in my pictures... Thought I would share... The left photo was about a month before preop diet and the right picture is today, 68 lbs lighter!

Oh and I managed a promotion, one that I've been trying for for about 3 of the last 4 years that I've worked at the company where I work!

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Look at you!!! I can totally see the weight loss.. You are beautiful..

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I see a huge difference, congrats!

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I haven't seen it until today... I apparently still have fat googles on (similar to beer googles)... My clothes don't fit right, I had to buy new bras (smaller band size, larger cup size- seriously ridiculous!)... Everyone knows about my surgery and every one says the see it, mind games tell me they are just being nice...

I swear I OWN this game. I think if they say something they are just being nice, and oddly enough if they say nothing it confirms that there is no difference. - DUMB, I know!

Congratulations on your promotion!! You look fabulous!

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Not only do you look thinner, but also so much happier! Congratulations!

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You look great!

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I think that we are always the last one to see ourselves different! My best friend got sleeved about 3 months ago and I don't think she see's her loss like everyone else does! She's lost about 70lbs and it's noticeable!

I can see it in your picture!! You're beautiful! I think I like looking at face before and after pictures better than others for some reason! Maybe it's because I see the eyes and smile up close, and see how much happier people seem to become as the months tick on, and they continue to lose!

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I thought I was the only one in the game! I'm confident that everything that isn't perfect in my life is because I'm fat. The psych consult should be interesting. Of course I can't tell her that! She'd tell me that I'm crazy if I think weight loss won't make everything perfect. But it will! I just know people are pointing and laughing behind my back. I despise getting out of bed because I have to find clothes and look in the mirror and (gasp!) leave the house.

I hope that I can take off my fat goggles at some point. I know exactly what you mean. I look back at pics of me after various diets when I remember thinking I was still fat. What I would give to look like that now. Every diet I ever went on led to gaining even more weight. If only I could have been content at 20 lbs overweight. 15 off, 30 on. 20 off, 40 on. 30 off, 50 on. 40 off, 80 on. Now I'm 120 lbs over.

But I will get there and so will you!

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Oh, yes...I can definitely see a difference. Congrats!

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I am only down 28 pounds, but I am convinced someone is messing with the scale to make me feel better about it. I can see a tiny difference in my ankles and that is it. :unsure:

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There absolutley is a huge difference! Awesome job so far! Our minds are weird things- Im still pre op but I understand that not seeing it in yourself thing. Five or so years ago I had lost about 70lbs and I was the only one who didn't see it. I felt it but didn't see it at all in the mirror despite going from a size 24 to 18. It takes a while for our mind to catch up I think. Fantastic job so far! Hope I do as well! Oh and congrats on the promotion! :)

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