Finished my options classes today!!! My referral to the surgeon is on its way. They said I should hear from them in 1-2 weeks =)

Now that I am so close, my husband is finding ways that he doesn’t think that we will be able to afford my copay, which is only going to be $400 per day in the hospital. I do understand where he is coming from, but to me even if it were triple that amount, I want the surgery for my health. I don’t think that I can lose all this weight on my own. When I plateau, I get frustrated and give up. It is so easy for me to go back into old eating habits.

I have talked to the financial services department at my hospital, and they said they would like half down, and make payments on the rest over six months. I find that so doable. I have to have my husband on board for this. If it came down to it, I know that someone in my family would loan/give me the money for it because they have wanted me to do this for a long time. I just can’t bring myself to ask her.

The husband wants me to change jobs where I will be making more money. I have looked, interviewed, done follow-up with the managers. They never hire me. I am convinced it is because of my weight. My job that I have now pays for my insurance, at no cost to me. This is the reason that I keep this job. I really don’t want to change jobs until after surgery.

That to me would be so worth it. Most people only stay one night in the hospital and if they only need half down then u just need 200 dollars. Can't beat that.

I have told him that over and over again. I honestly think he is just scared. I plan on completing any steps that the surgeon wants me to complete, with or without his support. I said at the beginning of this journey that this is the time for me.

Statistically, obese people earn less throughout their lifetime than normal weight people. We pay more for food, clothing, life insurance, health care, and transportation. Being big costs way more than your copay.

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/12/02/business/02money.html?pagewanted=all

Honestly, I think it's your husband's own insecurity that is making him do that. He's afraid you're going to get skinny and so hot that someone is going to take you away from him. He may not admit it, but it might be true. Just try to reassure him about it.

If it's not worth it to your husband, or if he is less than supportive, it is important that you explain to him, before surgery, that you are going on a journey and you woud like him to go with you. If he is not ready, tell him you are leaving on that journey, and he can either catch up, or consider his options. I think it is always important to support your spouse and their feelings, but to also make a clear statement of your intent. Later this may be a valuable thing to have done..... {:>} rd