Define online Stalking please...

HeatherGurl · September 1, 2006

My latest rant...

How can one go about stalking anther online? I see a lot of the same people in the threads I open. I thought it was because we share common interests... no matter how twisted they might be...

I don't get it?

kellymoos · September 1, 2006

Heathergurl, I don't want to start crap with anyone on this board, but did this really call for the start of a new thread? There are enough threads in this section this could have fit under. Please, this is only adding fuel to the fire in the she vs she crap going on here. Thanks for your time.

HeatherGurl · September 1, 2006

I am sorry Kelly but I have been accused of approving of stalking... I just want to know what it is...

I am Honest to Goodness not trying to fuel the fire. I don't understand why I am being accused of something I am not doing. I guess you could lock this if it isn't appropriate, but I have never broken the LBT rules.

People, I am just asking an honest question.

joliesmom · September 1, 2006

My perception (and I'm a lurker) is some people feel that if you are even in a thread that they are answering you are a stalker. Go figure...

HeatherGurl · September 1, 2006

That is what I am thinking some people think a stalker is. Thank you for staying on topic and not taking this personal Joliesmom.

kellymoos · September 1, 2006

I am sorry that you have been accused of stalking. I think what we have going on is that some people have too much time on their hands and have nothing better to do than post on LBT. I assumed, which we all know what that means, that you were just trying to stir. I am sorry for my accusations and will withdraw from your thread. Thanks for explaining.

HeatherGurl · September 1, 2006

Nothing better to do than post on LBT? Isn't that why we are all here? :0) I have LBT up on my work screen all day... I have plenty to do, but LBT is worth posting on for me.

Here, in my very own thread I vow to not comment on any more nonsense on those I dislike here!

I will still read the threads, but I can not check who is in what one before I go in there so I won't be a stalker to those who don't like me... confusing enough?

leatha_g · September 1, 2006

I believe the stalking referred to has to do with someone starting a thread, or even posting on someone else's then having another come in and post snide remarks and sarcasm in reference to the original poster's remarks. Although, some people think their remarks are clever enough to cover up the malice intended, it is sometimes very obvious that another poster is replying for the sake of making the other appear foolish. When this becomes a game for one or several in a group, I think it could be considered 'stalking', especially when it becomes habitual to the point of disrupting entire threads and eventually an entire board.

Hope that makes sense.

We have all been in situations where people have ganged up on us for some reason or another. On a message board, it sort of appears as a flock of vultures or a pack of wolves descending on it's prey. Laying in wait, for the next post, just so they can add their next barb or backhanded compliment. Childish really, but disruptive and hurtful nonetheless.

Dody · September 1, 2006

Months ago I told P'Nut I wanted nothing to do with her...Nothing. She then posted to me in a thread that "Was I coming home soon and was she going to meet me"...I don't think so!! She continued with all the stuff about support meetings in Idaho I have no interest in, mostly because she is there, and wouldn't stop. I told her to move on and she didn't like it. I tried every nice way I could to get her off my butt, but she didn't budge, knowing all along I didn't like her or want anything to do with her. This continued for a whole thread...that is called stalking I think.

I avoid her threads like the plague...Gone For Good and the Idaho thread. You don't find me posting to her or anyone from Idaho on there....it's a good way to feel safe. If you don't like someone, stay away from them.

You I know nothing about or anything about your stalking as it is called.....your name didn't ring any type of bell to me, because I've only been stalked by one person and perhaps one of her friends.

Take care.

paula · September 1, 2006

Heather,

I didnt know what a 'stalker' was either. Thanks for asking this question. :biggrin1:

Momotrips · September 1, 2006

The stalking accusations are what have driven me to "log out and lurk". I will only log in to post. Why should we have to defend ourselves against reading and posting in ANY thread as long as we aren't being ugly and we ARE following the rules? Why do we have to get our user names plastered in a post asking "WHY are you here"?

So, if the definition of being a "stalker" is reading posts and commenting whenever and wherever we feel like it - as I said last night - stalk on LBT, stalk on.

However, I'll be doing it "stealth".

That is all.

PhotoNut · September 1, 2006

I avoid her threads like the plague...Gone For Good and the Idaho thread. You don't find me posting to her or anyone from Idaho on there....it's a good way to feel safe. If you don't like someone, stay away from them.

Hmm... So about post #297 of this thread...

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=21710&page=20

You know, after re-reading things I can see exactly why me saying, "Hey Dody, if you're coming back to Boise you'd be more than welcome at the lapband support group meetings." would warrant such an attack from you. I really don't blame you at all for taking something I shared with my group of friends on the Gone for Good Club thread and using it to rip me to shreads. In fact, I'm such a mean and spiteful person that we should all be grateful for the good hearted, Christian women who have picked up the sword of Justice and come at me with the wrath of God on their side. :confused:

Bettina · September 1, 2006

My latest rant...
How can one go about stalking anther online? I see a lot of the same people in the threads I open. I thought it was because we share common interests... no matter how twisted they might be...

I don't get it?

First off, you are entitled to start a thread if you want to.. and, I'm with you...last night I was accused of being a shark because I was reading threads and my name showed up on the bottom as being on the thread..this person claimed that she had followers. (What a self important ass). So apparently there are those who seem to think that if you read more than one thread, you are a stalker or some sort of worshipper...ugh get me a bucket. I hope the moderators read these threads and start suspending the bullies.

I think its time for me to "iggy" the idiots...and then I think I'll call the village and tell them where they can find them!

Momotrips · September 1, 2006

Perhaps Mr. Alex/LBT can implement a password protection feature for threads since some people are so proprietary. Sheesh.

Dody · September 1, 2006

Hmm... So about post #297 of this thread...
http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=21710&page=20

You know, after re-reading things I can see exactly why me saying, "Hey Dody, if you're coming back to Boise you'd be more than welcome at the lapband support group meetings." would warrant such an attack from you. I really don't blame you at all for taking something I shared with my group of friends on the Gone for Good Club thread and using it to rip me to shreads. In fact, I'm such a mean and spiteful person that we should all be grateful for the good hearted, Christian women who have picked up the sword of Justice and come at me with the wrath of God on their side. :confused:

Ah we are bringing God into this again are we? That is why I changed the bottom of my post...another thing for you to dredge up.

You knew I couldn't stand you so why would you say "Are you coming back to Idaho, are we finally going to meet you"...I tried every way I could to get you to back off...telling you let it go....move on...just move on, but no you couldn't. You only got attacked on your thread for picking on 3 Loves and you know it...you think you can get away with anything and everything. Who will be your next victim...that poor girl that just signed on from Idaho looks like the latest victim. You are already wanting to meet her...God help her.

Supporting alcoholism is being an enabler...ever heard that word. That is what you are taught at al-anon. You don't support alcoholics, you make them own up to their actions, and apparently you are having too much fun to admit there is a problem, even though I think your own dr. has pretty much written you off till you get help.

Me-I feel sorry for you. Enough said.